"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A Guy who has lots of women around him

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attract more women..

Do you guys feel the same way if a woman who has a lot of guys around her attractive (not looks wise and considering the fact that you don't know what an attention ***** is)????

Would you go for her?






Just curious if this strategy works for both men and women
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That´s called social proof. A guy with lots of chicks around him attracts more and more women cuz he stands out and a chick thinks he is the prize to win, so she can make the other chicks jealous and can climb up the social ladder if she dates him.
It´s the same for men and women. Take celebrities as an example. Most celebs aren´t necessarily better looking than the girl next door, but they got an extremely high social value. That´s what makes them so desirable.

Of course I would go for her. Why shouldn´t I?
 

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I think this case of social proof works 100 times better on guys.

A very average guy ("average", not ugly or below average), once surrounded by a lot of really hot women, becomes the hottest staple around for other women.

However, for a chick, if she's ugly, she's ugly.
A hot chick, whether all by herself or surrounded by tons of guys (the latter case is more likely though...:D), is still a hot chick.
An ugly chick that I won't normally go for, I don't care if she's surrounded by male models, I still won't go for her.

While a guy's "value" can be greatly "managed", a chick's value is mostly determined by what her parents gave her plus the effort she put into taking care of herself.


That's why I feel so lucky to be a guy:whistle:. If I could choose, I'd choose to be a guy... or a good looking chick who doesn't age beyond her 20s...:D Because life is so much easier for these two categories of people...:whistle:
 

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ive noticed some guys who hang out with alot of chicks distance themselves from guys and are often deemed gay by their peers, which kind of defeats the purpose of hanging around women for social proof


wheres the happy medium in this?
 

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nubian-knight said:
ive noticed some guys who hang out with alot of chicks distance themselves from guys and are often deemed gay by their peers, which kind of defeats the purpose of hanging around women for social proof


wheres the happy medium in this?
I think the rule is quite simple:

- You are surrounded by girls because you actively seek them out and avoid other guys: you are gay.

- You are surrounded by girls because they actively seek you out: you are a major pimp. Since you are not doing the seeking, you hang out with other guys the way you want it, plus they all see you as the major pimp.

- You are surrounded by girls because they somewhat seek you out once they get to know you how great you are. Sometimes you are surrounded by hot babes, sometimes not really, who cares, your social proof is still solid as long as you are seen with the hotties from time to time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I wouldnt go for a chick with a lot of dudes around her cause she has her pick alread I think. I would rather go for a chick with no one around. make it easier.
 
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