Highschool is a very prominent time in people's lives, whether they see it as such or not. However, we get a lot of messages, from all around us, about what high school should be like. Our parents tell us to study hard and stay out of trouble, the media tells us that highschool is a magical dreamland and is portrayed such in movies, and peer pressure tells us that we gotta be hot shiet all the time, "fit in" and be "popular".
However, only after you complete highschool, do you see it for what it truly is.
I am now a sophmore in college, and I will share with you highschool DJ's some knowledge that I learned and it will, hopefully, make it a little clearer for you.
First of all, the myth:
Party as much as you can in highschool, it is suppose to be the time of your life.
We hear this all the time. People talk about highschool like it's the only time you ever get to party and taht you should do it as much as possible.
This is a false myth. Partying REALLY starts in college; once you get to college, you will realize that in reality, all those highschool parties you were constantly stressing about going to, are all crap compared to what goes on in college.
Highshool is not the "time of your life to party"; it is an important transitional phase in a man's life where he chooses what kind of man he wants to be in the future. It is the transition from being a kid, into adult life.
There is the other side, however; highschool, well for most people, is pretty easy compared to the rest of their lives. All you do is sit in class, socialize, do your homework. You really don't have many other responsibilities at that age (well if youre fortunate enough) and your parents take care of most of your needs. And that is why you start thinking about such petty things like "OMG SHOULD I APPROACH HER" or "OMG I HOPE THEY THINK IM COOL", because that is all that is important in your world at the time.
Once highschool is over, you have to step into the adult life. For some people, the transition is especially difficult. Some people think the world is a game and just "go with the flow" for the rest of their lives. Others, however, realize that now they are now grown, responsible adults, and every single decision is going to affect how their life turns out.
This is what highschool really is:
It is the time to pick a path in life.
Often we are not worried about how important this part is until we live through it. In highschool, you should focus on building yourself up and learning new things, instead of wasting your time with things that are useless and that will not bring you to positive growth.
Analyze yourself: What things are you good at? What things are you not so good at? We are all dealt cards in life, and it is up to us to know how to utilize them to our advantage.
The "cool, popular" kids myth broken down
Ah, yes. Every school has these and every nerd dreams of being one. They are the ones being most looked up to in school. Why? It's like they have some magical aura that makes them so god damn cool. Well, yes and no. I will attempt to break it down for you;
Usually, they are the older, or at least more "mature" than the rest. They usually have the social skills to get people to like them and to make friends and they have higher self esteem. They also, partly engage or at least mimic the lives of adults. Also, they usually are known for something that makes them so "cool", whether it is a sport, a really sick car, or etc.
At one point in my high school career, I blended in with these kids. I studied them and their behavior and how it is differrent from many other kids with lower social status. And let me tell you, many of these "cool kids" are really piece of crap people. Many of them just love the attention and like to act out (class clowns).
Many of the "players", "tough guys" and "bullies" are actually some of the biggest cowards out there; they talk the talk and pretend to walk the walk, but when they are faced with real life problems, their nuts turn into butter and they curl up into a ball. THAT IS WHY; IF YOU'RE EVER BULLIED, DO NOT EVER SHOW WEAKNESS. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND SHOW THAT YOU'RE NOT GOING TO TAKE THEIR CRAP. Most bullies are the biggest wussies at heart; just show them that and watch them back down after they see that you've got more balls than them.
How do I become a "cool kid"? When it comes down to it, there is an easy formula. A+B+C-D = R
A being your social skills and ability to make friends, B being your talents and hobbies that have value to others, C being your looks, D being all your faults, quirks, inabilities, negative things that others see and R being your reputation.
In other words, be friendly to everyone and know how to talk to people (humor helps aloooooot), be known for something or have a talent (your hobbies), and look decent. Not all of us are given the best genes, but it is in our power to manipulate those genes. That's all it really is; dont be fake and dont show insecurity.
One more very important point; Just because someone was cool in high school, does not mean it will be so for life. Some of these "players" are going to turn into crackheads and losers who cant keep a job, and some of these "geeks" are going to turn into studly CEO's who score more pvssy than they could ever dream of back in hs. All that matters, is your work ethic and your determination to succeed.
now, for the list;
Get a hobby; something you really like doing. It can be anything; a musical instrument, a sport, even science. Anything that gets you to utilize your skills.
Exel at it; become good at what you like doing and love it.
Be social: Big one. Learn to talk to people. Learn how people work. This website is an excellent tool for learning social dynamics of people. Learn how to talk to girls; learn what they respond to and learn how to get a reaction from them. Girls in high school are a lot easier to practice on than in college. They are for the most part dumb little girls that grow up only a little once they get to college and respond to pretty much the same things.
Develop your character: Not studying, being too lazy to do homework, etc. are all a judgement of character. When your parents and teachers tell you to study and learn more, they're only trying to help you. Studying and learning shapes your character and eliminates laziness, which comes very handy in adult life and can be the difference between being a bum and being successful in life. DONT WORRY SO MUCH ABOUT PARTYING!!! Learn to be social, but do not stress over going to highschool parties. If you dont believe me, just wait till you go to college and the real partying starts
GET GOOD GRADES: This is a big one. The better grades you get and the better school you end up going to, the better chance you have of succeeding in life.
Life after high school.
Remember how I said that some people will lose and some people will win after high school? Also remember how I said that you should learn as much as you can and grow in high school? Those things come hand in hand. After high school, we are out in the world to fend for ourselves. You will lose most of your highschool friends right after, because everyone chooses their own path. Some will improve themselves and be successful, and some will fall. But you don't need me to talk about self-improvement, THIS WHOLE SITE IS ABOUT IT!!!! Just remember, always strive for success and do your best.
Basically, I am going to sum up my entire post into this:
Highschool is a time for people to learn and to choose the paths for their futures. It is the BEST time to choose what you want to do with your life and whether you want to be successful or not.
Man, I wish someone told me this when I was in high school.
However, only after you complete highschool, do you see it for what it truly is.
I am now a sophmore in college, and I will share with you highschool DJ's some knowledge that I learned and it will, hopefully, make it a little clearer for you.
First of all, the myth:
Party as much as you can in highschool, it is suppose to be the time of your life.
We hear this all the time. People talk about highschool like it's the only time you ever get to party and taht you should do it as much as possible.
This is a false myth. Partying REALLY starts in college; once you get to college, you will realize that in reality, all those highschool parties you were constantly stressing about going to, are all crap compared to what goes on in college.
Highshool is not the "time of your life to party"; it is an important transitional phase in a man's life where he chooses what kind of man he wants to be in the future. It is the transition from being a kid, into adult life.
There is the other side, however; highschool, well for most people, is pretty easy compared to the rest of their lives. All you do is sit in class, socialize, do your homework. You really don't have many other responsibilities at that age (well if youre fortunate enough) and your parents take care of most of your needs. And that is why you start thinking about such petty things like "OMG SHOULD I APPROACH HER" or "OMG I HOPE THEY THINK IM COOL", because that is all that is important in your world at the time.
Once highschool is over, you have to step into the adult life. For some people, the transition is especially difficult. Some people think the world is a game and just "go with the flow" for the rest of their lives. Others, however, realize that now they are now grown, responsible adults, and every single decision is going to affect how their life turns out.
This is what highschool really is:
It is the time to pick a path in life.
Often we are not worried about how important this part is until we live through it. In highschool, you should focus on building yourself up and learning new things, instead of wasting your time with things that are useless and that will not bring you to positive growth.
Analyze yourself: What things are you good at? What things are you not so good at? We are all dealt cards in life, and it is up to us to know how to utilize them to our advantage.
The "cool, popular" kids myth broken down
Ah, yes. Every school has these and every nerd dreams of being one. They are the ones being most looked up to in school. Why? It's like they have some magical aura that makes them so god damn cool. Well, yes and no. I will attempt to break it down for you;
Usually, they are the older, or at least more "mature" than the rest. They usually have the social skills to get people to like them and to make friends and they have higher self esteem. They also, partly engage or at least mimic the lives of adults. Also, they usually are known for something that makes them so "cool", whether it is a sport, a really sick car, or etc.
At one point in my high school career, I blended in with these kids. I studied them and their behavior and how it is differrent from many other kids with lower social status. And let me tell you, many of these "cool kids" are really piece of crap people. Many of them just love the attention and like to act out (class clowns).
Many of the "players", "tough guys" and "bullies" are actually some of the biggest cowards out there; they talk the talk and pretend to walk the walk, but when they are faced with real life problems, their nuts turn into butter and they curl up into a ball. THAT IS WHY; IF YOU'RE EVER BULLIED, DO NOT EVER SHOW WEAKNESS. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND SHOW THAT YOU'RE NOT GOING TO TAKE THEIR CRAP. Most bullies are the biggest wussies at heart; just show them that and watch them back down after they see that you've got more balls than them.
How do I become a "cool kid"? When it comes down to it, there is an easy formula. A+B+C-D = R
A being your social skills and ability to make friends, B being your talents and hobbies that have value to others, C being your looks, D being all your faults, quirks, inabilities, negative things that others see and R being your reputation.
In other words, be friendly to everyone and know how to talk to people (humor helps aloooooot), be known for something or have a talent (your hobbies), and look decent. Not all of us are given the best genes, but it is in our power to manipulate those genes. That's all it really is; dont be fake and dont show insecurity.
One more very important point; Just because someone was cool in high school, does not mean it will be so for life. Some of these "players" are going to turn into crackheads and losers who cant keep a job, and some of these "geeks" are going to turn into studly CEO's who score more pvssy than they could ever dream of back in hs. All that matters, is your work ethic and your determination to succeed.
now, for the list;
Get a hobby; something you really like doing. It can be anything; a musical instrument, a sport, even science. Anything that gets you to utilize your skills.
Exel at it; become good at what you like doing and love it.
Be social: Big one. Learn to talk to people. Learn how people work. This website is an excellent tool for learning social dynamics of people. Learn how to talk to girls; learn what they respond to and learn how to get a reaction from them. Girls in high school are a lot easier to practice on than in college. They are for the most part dumb little girls that grow up only a little once they get to college and respond to pretty much the same things.
Develop your character: Not studying, being too lazy to do homework, etc. are all a judgement of character. When your parents and teachers tell you to study and learn more, they're only trying to help you. Studying and learning shapes your character and eliminates laziness, which comes very handy in adult life and can be the difference between being a bum and being successful in life. DONT WORRY SO MUCH ABOUT PARTYING!!! Learn to be social, but do not stress over going to highschool parties. If you dont believe me, just wait till you go to college and the real partying starts
GET GOOD GRADES: This is a big one. The better grades you get and the better school you end up going to, the better chance you have of succeeding in life.
Life after high school.
Remember how I said that some people will lose and some people will win after high school? Also remember how I said that you should learn as much as you can and grow in high school? Those things come hand in hand. After high school, we are out in the world to fend for ourselves. You will lose most of your highschool friends right after, because everyone chooses their own path. Some will improve themselves and be successful, and some will fall. But you don't need me to talk about self-improvement, THIS WHOLE SITE IS ABOUT IT!!!! Just remember, always strive for success and do your best.
Basically, I am going to sum up my entire post into this:
Highschool is a time for people to learn and to choose the paths for their futures. It is the BEST time to choose what you want to do with your life and whether you want to be successful or not.
Man, I wish someone told me this when I was in high school.