A GREAT way of getting over not meeting the "right" Women

[BeTheChange]

Most people who reach the status of successful mature man find themselves in a prickly situation if single.

I define someone first reaching the beginnings of the successful mature man as:

• Late twenties / early thirties
• Enough experience with women to be adept at getting what he wants
• BUT a cynical appreciation of the value of time and how women, are often not worth time invested
• No significant liabilities or responsibilities like marriage or children
• Slightly world-weary, a natural byproduct of the red pill
• More time and disposable income than his friends and colleagues, who settled into LTRs and fathered kids young

I am partly describing myself. Can anyone relate? The Russians referred to it as the "superfluous man".

This is generally a time when such men become far more selective over which type of women are worthy of their time. However, such women are naturally scarce and made even scarcer by certain environments that cater towards the destruction of certain characteristics one might find attractive. Namely femininity, beauty and character. What is man to do with all this time and money? There is only so much a man can spend money on with friends. There are only so many shares a man can buy or properties one can purchase. And what is the point in living just to work, to save, to invest and repeat. So my solution?

• Allocate a budget each week for women and dating but maintain standards
• At the end of the month tally what amount of the budget has not been spent
• Blow it on an expensive passion with zero regret

For me this is travelling, something I believed I could only do once or twice a year. Now it could be every month. Either I spend money on or with beautiful women who I actually like or I blow it on travelling and experiences that I'll remember for a lifetime.

In a week I will be travelling to DC, Philly and New York. In September it could be Amsterdam, October maybe Budapest, November perhaps Krakow. The sky is the limit. Once you begin to approach thirty and you look around properly, you start to realise how lucky you are if you haven't tied yourself down. Use that freedom.

 

[blind_one]

BUT a cynical appreciation of the value of time and how women, are often not worth time invested

This is generally a time when such men become far more selective over which type of women are worthy of their time. However, such women are naturally scarce and made even scarcer by certain environments that cater towards the destruction of certain characteristics one might find attractive. Namely femininity, beauty and character.

Oh I can relate ....

And the all existential question, what is your purpose in life, what is it that you truly want ? There is only so much time we have on this earth yet the possibilities to use that time are endless. Which one are right at the moment, or in the future, which one are right for you in a sense that will enrich your existence.

The percentage of women I am attracted to on a more than physical level is really, really low.
There is a good amount of women I am attracted to, and it is quite a broad range but they repulse me on an intellectual or behavioral level more often than not or they are not interested which is their loss

 

[RangerMIke]

I don't get joy from spending money. I get joy from making money. When I was married my fvcking wife shoved money into a furnace. It took me almost 8 years to get out from under the MASSIVE debt my ex's spending and cost of lawyers... then there was child support, which I will still have for another 5 years... even though my kids live with me most of the time (which is another topic).

Nothing is worst than working you @ss off and having nothing to show for it.

I spend my money on low cost vacations, even though I have the money to do it. I have not traveled outside my country on vacation since my divorce... when I was married we went on all kinds of stupid expensive trips all the fvcking time... I never had any fun, but my darling ex would have TONS of pictures she could show off to her friends.

My vacations now are bow hunting trips, camping, out to the west coast to dive and surf. I disconnect from technology and relax.

Any extra money I have I invest. I also contribute to not for profits that engage in causes that I am interested in. Urban renewal, social innovation, youth empowerment, and environmental concerns. I am also active in veterans issues and volunteer my time driving wounded vets around because they can't because of blindness or other injuries.

I do spend money on dates, but really not that much if you consider how much I go out. I'll go out on 2-3 dates a week, depending on my mood and if I meet someone new. I typically spend $50-75 per date, sometimes less since chicks will typically offer to pay their share. It is easy to spend little in New Orleans since there is always some interesting low cost stuff to do here. I have a date tomorrow, and there are a couple of things to do at little cost... There is a Mid-City wine tasting mixer... free unless you buy some wine, there is also a Cuban food pop-up at a local bar I like, a happy hour date will cost about $50 including food.

 

[zekko]

I don't get joy from spending money. I get joy from making money.

Really? I think I get a rush of endorphins or something when I spend a nice chunk of money on something I want. Not proud of it, but I've noticed it.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

cynical appreciation of the value of time and how women, are often not worth time invested

Slightly world-weary, a natural byproduct of the red pill

By the time you're 35, this should translate in to wisdom and social acumen. We can't stay cynical and weary forever.

Allocate a budget each week for women and dating but maintain standards

Personally, I allocate a monthly budget to socialising and fit women/dating in to that - i.e. if/when my budget's gone, I stop socialising full stop. But then I don't have any one woman worth budgeting for as an individual currently.

....October maybe Budapest, November perhaps Krakow

If you'd like a wingman for a night or two, give me a shout

 

[darksprezzatura]

Bump

 

[Urbanyst]

Traveling has always been a good use of MONEY for me. Traveling makes you more worldly and has a way of giving you better perspective.

Its funny you post this because a few weeks ago I made the decision to travel at least once a month. Even if its not somewhere far. But its good to get the f*ck out of town every once in a while to clear your head and experience something new.

 

[BeTheChange]

WHY

Got a plate who has a place there. Free accommodation and another city to tick off the list.

 

[resilient]

Blow it on an expensive passion with zero regret

Fvck yes! I just put a down payment on a custom electric guitar that is going to be out of this world when it's finished. I upgraded all the features on it. It's going to take a few months to make because it has to go through a few different handlers. In the end, it'll be worth it because it's something I can sit down every day and play with great pride and joy as I improve. It's an investment that helps the mind repair. It's my catharsis release.