She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
high IOI to say the least.She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You brought yourself up by putting her down. Not good. Instead, you could have said "You do look great and I would love to spend some time with you to see what we have in common, how about coffee at 12:00?" If she says, yes, you're in, if she says no, then you know she wasn't worth it anyway.mtlwlu said:Im not sure what PUA used this first. but I this HB 8 in my class was going on and on about how guys think shes gorgeous and all that...after class I walk with her and say "Looks arent everything...what else do you have?" she seemed dumbfounded, and I said, "let me know soon" and then when I checked my fb inbox she gave me a list