ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
nope. thats not it.ChrizZ said:I drink a protein shake before you go to bed and that´s it...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
nope. thats not it.ChrizZ said:I drink a protein shake before you go to bed and that´s it...
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Then you're just being ignorant. Given a list of celebs to pick from, the majority of women would go for Brad Pitt. Why? His Fight Club physique. He's not big by any means, but he's in shape.persiangino said:I don't believe that gaining mass has anything to do with getting girls' attention. In fact, if you truly have a nice face girls would be approaching you anyways, think someone looking like Tom Cruise or Johnny Depp. However, working out does significantly increase your confidence which girls will sense.
Oh so you cook up everything all at once? Don't you get to like thursday and be like "s.hit! I don't want meatloaf today! WTF was I thinking on Sunday?!" Plus, come on, you can't tell me you cook up an entire weeks worth of food in one kitchen in a couple of hours without some help. Don't you work or go to school? Maybe both?md3sign said:Yes I cook my meals. It doesn't take a chef. Healthy meals take very little skill and surprisingly little time. I can spare a couple hours on Sunday to make enough food for an entire week.
It's also a lot cheaper than eating out or buying TV dinners.
Knowing how to cook is a great trick to have up your sleeve, as a DJ you should know that. Dinner at your place? Hell yea! You save a ton of money, get to show off, AND maybe score some dessert.
Long story short, do some research and start cooking. It's really hard to screw up beef.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
md3sign said:Then you're just being ignorant. Given a list of celebs to pick from, the majority of women would go for Brad Pitt. Why? His Fight Club physique. He's not big by any means, but he's in shape.
And who's the new "hottie" the girls are diggin? Ryan Reynolds. Hmm wonder why.
You also never see half naked pics of Depp or Cruise.
Are you implying that girls aren't superficial and don't talk about your butt and your shoulders and your chest and whatever else comes up?
I can't make toast without f.ucking it up half the time. I do make a pretty mean hot dog though. :rockon: Maybe I should just get married right now. Anyways, cool. Thanks for clearing all up.md3sign said:Maybe if you started cooking you'd realize how possible it is. Granted my bodybuilding diet is almost the same thing every day, but it's really not that hard. Some weeks I feel like ground beef. I can cook 5-6lbs at a time, separate into tupperware, and freeze. Get it out when need be, toss on the pan, 1tbsp oil and some spices - voila in 5 minutes you have great meat. Cereal/oatmeal is instant. Mashed potatoes are instant. Chili mix is instant. Tacos are instant. Shrimp takes 3 minutes in boiling water. Sometimes I'll cook once mid-week if I feel like fresher food (like chicken or tilapia) which doesn't go past 3-4 days. Fruits/veggies last a week easy.
I don't see what's so difficult.
Yes I go to school and right now I'm working full time (coop). I can also afford 1 cheat meal/day given the overall amount of food I eat, so 1 meal I can get pretty much whatever.
Toned is certainly less in size than having big muscles. If only these facts had anything to do with catching women.mrRuckus said:TONED DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING.
You have muscle or you do not.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
md3: I'm impressed by this plan you have of cooking a whole bunch of stuff on Sunday and then eating it through the week. Can you tell me how you do this? I like to cook but every time I do it takes a long time and makes a mess. I can't imagine doing the "eat six-seven times a day" thing.md3sign said:Maybe if you started cooking you'd realize how possible it is. Granted my bodybuilding diet is almost the same thing every day, but it's really not that hard. Some weeks I feel like ground beef. I can cook 5-6lbs at a time, separate into tupperware, and freeze. Get it out when need be, toss on the pan, 1tbsp oil and some spices - voila in 5 minutes you have great meat. Cereal/oatmeal is instant. Mashed potatoes are instant. Chili mix is instant. Tacos are instant. Shrimp takes 3 minutes in boiling water. Sometimes I'll cook once mid-week if I feel like fresher food (like chicken or tilapia) which doesn't go past 3-4 days. Fruits/veggies last a week easy.
I don't see what's so difficult.
Yes I go to school and right now I'm working full time (coop). I can also afford 1 cheat meal/day given the overall amount of food I eat, so 1 meal I can get pretty much whatever.
eminence said:tom cruise, johnny depp...and all the other skinny, short celebrities...the girls like them because they are...celebrities. I had a girl tell me she thought adam sandler was hot..there appearance is beefed up by there fame.
Exactly, that's my hardest thing. I don't have the money for ingredients to eat 'right' and can't watch my eating as i'm so busy during the day I get a meal in when I can. Right now I've got to do what I can control and that's working out and sleeping at better times... eating right will have to come laterBut seriously, when you say you "eat right" I mean, do you cook your own meals? Do you have a personal chef or what? I know you don't got the money to go to a nice restraunt every night .
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
almost 40 lbs of muscle?md3sign said:Yes I put on roughly 50lbs in 5 months. I would estimate ~35-37lbs of it being muscle mass. I definitely went a bit overboard on the eating and put on more fat than I wanted to, but it could have been a lot worse. I don't have the washboard abs but it's winter so who cares. I just continue bulking until springtime. Check my profile (sig) I have a lot of progress pics. I lifted before but I finally got serious about it and went on a cookie-cutter routine. Also keep in mind that 145lbs was underweight and somewhat dehydrated for me, so the first 10lbs or so I gained in just a couple weeks.
I'll never be able to make the same starter-gains again and I'm now slowly working my way up at around 2lbs/months.
With a proper diet, enough dedication (discipline) and a good routine, it's definitely possible. I don't have freak genes either - far from it. Anyway this probably belongs in the fitness section, I just wanted to bring up the fact that working on your body [obviously] yields more positive attention.
EDIT - good point about the confidence increase, but it's not just that. Having a better looking body will undeniably get you attention from the get go. It's the combination of both that gets the girls, I think.
^ ^ suggestions ? Low $$ foods I can eat alot of...umm you've gotta be knowledgeable about weight lifting and its associated nutrition in order to achieve your goals
ya bro this is going to delay your goals, thenCod3r said:Exactly, that's my hardest thing. I don't have the money for ingredients to eat 'right' and can't watch my eating as i'm so busy during the day I get a meal in when I can. Right now I've got to do what I can control and that's working out and sleeping at better times... eating right will have to come later
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Also for you people who can't seem to understand, i'm not saying you can't get girls being skinny. I'm SKINNY and I've got a pretty hot gf now and i've had even hotter ones in the past, so its just that when you get bigger you can more EASILY achieve even hotter women and attention will grow and that's all i'm looking for... just more confidence and attention... i'm a wh0re
-Cod3r
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.