I approached this girl and the convo was s hit. I analyzed the convo but couldn't really find out why it was so bad. It had many pauses and awkward silences. I asked her questions and tried to follow up on her answers but the problem was that her answers were short therefore I have nothing to follow up on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A good convo takes two?
- Thread starter david90
- Start date
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MrCode
Senior Don Juan
Sounds like she just wasn't interested in talking to you. Believe me when women are interested they will find ways to fill in the conversation and keep it flowing. A lot of times I just let that happen, because it makes things easier for me.
diablo
Master Don Juan
If she gives you short answers to open-ended questions, then you've got two possible reasons:
- She sucks at being a conversationalist (this is an oxymoron, since she's a girl)
- She has little to no interest in maintaining a conversation with you
Maybe she was having a bad day, maybe she's not even the slightest bit attracted to you... that's the whole point of striking up conversations; eventually one will work out. If someone is interested in you, then they'll strive to keep a decent conversation going. It's just like when you start dating a girl... she seems boring, because she's putting other things on hold so she can spend time with you... and if later she thinks she doesn't want you around, she suddenly becomes way too busy to even go out once during the week...
Better luck next time.
OR how about keeping it simple and doing this....
" Is there a reason that you arent being talkative? "
Why go through the trouble of having to make a thread about it and then asking questions and worrying about it when all you had to do is ask HER?
Just a thought
What i find to be most helpfull is if you simple say to her
" Is there a reason that you arent being talkative? "
Why go through the trouble of having to make a thread about it and then asking questions and worrying about it when all you had to do is ask HER?
Just a thought
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sexual_intellectual
Don Juan
A good convo takes chemistry. If it was a cold approach, you shouldn't be surprised if the girl is a little shy at the first meeting. Imo: the best you should be aiming for is a number close, unless she's showing you a whole lot of interest.
If you knew the chick beforehand, either she's seriously nervous (and that should be obvious to you), or she isn't feeling chemistry between you too. You probably aren't either, cos the stuff is contagious!
If it wasn't a cold approach, next her.
If I was you, I wouldn't ask her - you'll get a ton of ********, AND come off needy.
If you knew the chick beforehand, either she's seriously nervous (and that should be obvious to you), or she isn't feeling chemistry between you too. You probably aren't either, cos the stuff is contagious!
If it wasn't a cold approach, next her.
If I was you, I wouldn't ask her - you'll get a ton of ********, AND come off needy.