A 'good' boyfriend

[mattock8]

Hey, this is my first post here, so forgive me if I seem a little newbish ^.^

Okay, I'll try to keep this short.
I'm in high school at the moment, I have a girlfriend who have been dating for almost three months now. I've been massively "AFC"ish at times, but am trying to learn from my mistakes as I do believe she is still attracted to me.Anyway, I was wondering if anything changes when you actually have a girlfriend, in terms of your overall approach to her. Should you be what some describe as a 'rock,' and always there to talk about whatever problems / issues she might have, always talking etc etc? Alternatively, should you keep on going being attractive person that she fell for? The reason why I ask is that, I've been made from a young age to believe that the step from friend to girlfriend is a pretty substantial commitment. Therefore, I don't want to lose her by being extra clingy, but I also want to let her know that I'm there for her. How should a 'good' boyfriend act? Can anyone give advice, if you may?

Thanks in advance
(sorry if a similar topic was written, I used the search but couldn't find anything)

 

[CaptainJ]

"Alternatively, should you keep on going being attractive person that she fell for?"

Which do you think? :yes:
Honestly Mate, you know the answer before you even asked the question.

This is why so many people have girls flaking on them and getting dumped soon after going out. They are ****y and funny attractive people at first, but then they suddenly turn all clingy and afcish when they actually get the girl because they FEAR losing her. Don't revert to being an AFC mate, you'll just turn her off.

Ofcourse you should be there for her when she needs you, but there's a big difference between when she "Needs" you and when she "wants" you. Keep her on her toes and so she actually misses your company. Don't hound her and shower her with attention, and don't be her therapist and stroke her confidence, because you'll just get friendzoned.

 

[eaglez1177]

"Alternatively, should you keep on going being attractive person that she fell for?"

Which do you think? :yes:
Honestly Mate, you know the answer before you even asked the question.

This is why so many people have girls flaking on them and getting dumped soon after going out. They are ****y and funny attractive people at first, but then they suddenly turn all clingy and afcish when they actually get the girl because they FEAR losing her. Don't revert to being an AFC mate, you'll just turn her off.

Ofcourse you should be there for her when she needs you, but there's a big difference between when she "Needs" you and when she "wants" you. Keep her on her toes and so she actually misses your company. Don't hound her and shower her with attention, and don't be her therapist and stroke her confidence, because you'll just get friendzoned.

Great advice right there for you mattock!

I think a another characteristics of being a "good" boyfriend would include not being insecure and not being always up in her business. Girls hate, HATE when their boyfriends act insecure and are constantly accusing them of cheating or lying. And like captainj mentioned, keep her on her toes and make her miss you rather than just constantly showering her with attention and talking to her nonstop. Girls will start to get really sick and tired of you if you constantly talk to her and hang out with her 24/7.