"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A Glitch in the Matrix

Solomon

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There is a scene in the original "Matrix" movie were a cat appears twice "DE JA VU" they call it. This is a hypothetical scenario but one that this forum has seen many times and that a lot of members can relate too

Darrell Is a cool guy, but not real popular(He was a barback). He was always head over heels for Joan. Joan was the "Smoke Show", "Showstopper", "Turbo chick" whatever the fucc you wanna call her, always partying at the hottest clubs and even dated a couple millionaire types i.e. athletes etc. Darrell always had a thing for Joan, and he would freeze up around her, get sweaty palms stutter etc. Joan thought it was cute and made "Darrell" her friend. She would cry to Darrell about her bad boy boyfriends and how they treated her like shyt. Darell then would say something cliche like "I would never do that to you, Joan you know how I feel about you". However Joan refused stating "Your my friend it would ruin the friendship". Darrell was frustrated and confused he didn't understand how Joan could hook up with random guys who treat her like shyt, but she justifies their bad boy behavior saying "They just never been loved, I know I can change him!". Darrell not understanding this dynamic becomes bitter. He stops dealing with Joan in frustration and moves on

10 years later Darrell grows cold over time because "The glitch" happened again and again and again, finally he focuses on improving himself, he gets into shape and eventually starts his own successful business. He learns some game and gains success with women. He runs into Joan and she is not as hot as she use to be. She is "cute" but not a showstopper anymore. She has 2 kids now by 2 deadbeats. Now all of a sudden "Darrell is good enough" and she wants to be with him. They hang out but Darrell really isn't into her. He is in late 30's now and boning a couple chicks that are hotter then Joan

Darrell responds by saying

"I wasn't good enough to be the guy you wanted to marry or even be with, why would I wanna be your pension plan?"

and hop's in to his new Mercedes slc600 and speeds of years later still angry

This story happens every day, all the time. The glitch is a guy like Darrell trying to go after the Joans. The glitch for Joan is thinking the bad boy will be the guy to wife her up when he is just trying to smash

The cycle continues everyday.....
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Very good analogy, although I can't even really call it that, because I KNOW this type of sh!t happens everyday.

I'm sure a lot of DJ's here can testify that after learning enough things from this site or other sources, we've had a few girls from our past sometimes stop and "take a visit". I'm only 21 years old, but after my transformation I've seen exes or girls from HS that I used to have crushes on suddenly grow an interest in me. Sometimes I jump on it, sometimes I feel too bitter to act on it, other times I think it's just a cruel joke on their part (but looking at it now, it never was). It just proves how shallow and selfish woman can be.

This is quote I've even said to girls in the real world. Namely ones who are complaining about how their heart just got broken by a bad boy, sometimes they're accusing me of being heartless (which has happened a couple times), anyways, the quote is.. "Players, weren't always players." By that I mean, all the successful PUA's and guys you see now banging chicks with no remorse are guys who grew cold from getting fvcked over by woman so many times. I really have no sympathy for them at all, because they brought it on themselves. I actually get a sick enjoyment out of fvcking some random girl, exchanging numbers and "promising to call" and then never doing it.

-Scars
 

zekko

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Solomon said:
"I wasn't good enough to be the guy you wanted to marry or even be with, why would I wanna be your pension plan?"

and hop's in to his new Mercedes slc600 and speeds of years later still angry
Sounds like a happy ending.
With age, her value went down and his went up. Not an unusual tale.
Good for him for having the self respect to tell her where to stick it.

And good for him for building himself into a success. That's why I like the self improvement aspect of this site. Make yourself a success and that is yours to keep. Women are just the icing on the cake.
 

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zekko said:
Sounds like a happy ending.
With age, her value went down and his went up. Not an unusual tale.
Good for him for having the self respect to tell her where to stick it.

And good for him for building himself into a success. That's why I like the self improvement aspect of this site. Make yourself a success and that is yours to keep. Women are just the icing on the cake.
Does it? did you catch the part were he drives away angry?

Tons of guys get into it cause their tired of being FZ'd or looked as the nice guy. They achieve "success" and realize it's not enough,that in the long run women can't really make you happy, just look at guys like Pook and Squirrels. They figured this out just to realize that women ain't shyt
 
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