"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
A girls asks you "are you attracted to me??"
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
zekko
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I think you've made an astute observation. The whole ****y and funny thing can often come off as incredibly lame, and fake. I know David DeAngelo pushes this C&F thing to the hilt, but can you honestly tell me you don't think he comes across as a douchebag?
C&F strikes me as something that can work if it is congruent with your personality, or as something that can improve your game if you are very young and/or socially retarded to begin with. Otherwise, it is far better to "be real" as you say. That is the better strategy.
I take the mindset that women like to be teased, and I like to tease them. Sometimes this teasing might take the form of what could be considered a ****y and/or funny remark. If it does, fine, if it doesn't, I could care less.