Recently I got interested in a girl. Unfortunately I found out that she has already had a boyfriend for 4 months. Do you think it would be a good idea to go for her? And if yes how do you think I should go about this matter. I already looked around the forum and the bible but there wasn't anything that say shows u how to get a girl who has already had a boyfriend.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
A girl with a boyfriend
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Loved this one.WC2 said:You're in a very difficult situation.
Let's say she does go for you. What does that say about this woman's character? She's going to cheat on her boyfriend for you? What happens when you're in the same shoes as he once was?
MotownMack
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True. And I would add to that, if you were just trying to bang her, then who cares about her character? But your original post already sounds kinda desperate, like you already have oneitis or are emotionally invested.Let's say she does go for you. What does that say about this woman's character? She's going to cheat on her boyfriend for you? What happens when you're in the same shoes as he once was?
Get your mind right in that respect first-or preferably, move on to easier prey.
Move on and find another girl. Not a fan of DJ's who try to "steal" a girl that has already been taken unless you feel she is being abused in any way.
Get rid of that oneitis, go to a club/party, and start chatting up with more girls till you find one that isn't taken, than work your magic.
Get rid of that oneitis, go to a club/party, and start chatting up with more girls till you find one that isn't taken, than work your magic.
KontrollerX
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Yeah find someone that isn't already taken.
Its not like this chick is the last girl on earth after all.
If you really would like to indulge this path though and aren't concerned about getting a cheater as a girlfriend who will do the same to you should a perceived big and better deal come along for her look up the term "boyfriend destroyer" using the search feature here as I've heard someone here posted something to this effect that many past Sosuavers have used to great effect.
Its not like this chick is the last girl on earth after all.
If you really would like to indulge this path though and aren't concerned about getting a cheater as a girlfriend who will do the same to you should a perceived big and better deal come along for her look up the term "boyfriend destroyer" using the search feature here as I've heard someone here posted something to this effect that many past Sosuavers have used to great effect.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Same exact prob, but I'm pretty sure this girl knows I like her - I havn't told her though. I can't really give too much advice yet since I'm too much of a ***** to just fukking do it. I'm getting so many IOIs but I just won't go for it ..=\
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Don't waste your time. Be a man who doesn't need one specific chick, or any chick for that matter. It's a numbers game, next her and find someone hotter that doesn't have a boyfriend. That's a girl more deserving of your time and effort.
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No, it wouldn't be a good idea.Avn_0903 said:Do you think it would be a good idea to go for her?
I don't think you'll find it anywhere, TBH with you... it's just wrong to be going after someone else's GF/W.Avn_0903 said:I already looked around the forum and the bible but there wasn't anything that say shows u how to get a girl who has already had a boyfriend.