"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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a girl who is happy to keep seeing u 1 on 1 tho has no IL is attention wh0re?

pete101

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sometimes actions of girls can confuse u, if a girl is willing to keep seeing u 1 on 1 it doesn't necessarily mean she's interested in u especially if she won't let u kino her?

could she just want to keep u around for the attention and as a friend, so friendzoned?

the fact shes happy to meet u 1 on 1 and she has a lot of male friends suggests you're just bracketed in the same way.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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AW's in general tend to initiate light kino a fair bit.. They are craving attention remember, and the best way for them to get attention is to be flirty with all the guys they meet but not let it go any further than light flirting. And yeah lots of male friends is a good sign.

Basically two things could be happening. Firstly, you are not flirting and escalating properly to make her feel attraction and want to go further WITH YOU. Secondly, she is an AW. Either way, put her on the back-burner.
 

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arutha said:
AW's in general tend to initiate light kino a fair bit.. They are craving attention remember, and the best way for them to get attention is to be flirty with all the guys they meet but not let it go any further than light flirting. And yeah lots of male friends is a good sign.

Basically two things could be happening. Firstly, you are not flirting and escalating properly to make her feel attraction and want to go further WITH YOU. Secondly, she is an AW. Either way, put her on the back-burner.
True.

To the OP-- there comes a time when you have to light the fuse to test whether she is going to react with some sexual interest or not. You either get an explosion of interest from her OR she will snuff out that fuse. Either way you get an answer.
 

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You started three topics (that i see at least) about some girl who never showed you a single indicator that you have even a remote chance of hooking up! And in all three you're not even asking for advice but basically looking for excuses to continue chasing her.

Let me suggest three better topics you could have started:
1. How do I meet new girls in the park
2. How do I meet new girls through socializing
3. How do I meet new girls in general

In case you don't get the hint here's my advice spelled out: go and meet new girls!
 

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she had high interest before, i just messed up and lost it. now im back to stage where we're seeing each other but i might be friend zoned. i dont know if shes keeping me around cos of the attention or shes giving me another chance to prove why she was attracted to me in the 1st place.

im making a lot of mistakes, but i rather she gives me the opportunity to meet her 1 on 1 again rather than cancel.

ok maybe she's stringing me along, but with a 1 on 1, i might be able to turn this around into her interested in me again.

how should i be on the date?

i dont know if shes an attention wh0re. but the signs say maybe yeah, but if i was inappropriate last date attempting to kiss close her, i should kino a lot next date but DO NOT go for the kiss close or she'll think i'm still only trying to go after 1 thing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i should kino a lot next date but DO NOT go for the kiss close or she'll think i'm still only trying to go after 1 thing.
You're looking at this from a very wrong and twisted perspective. The last thing you need from a girl is a useless moral evaluation.

You need to face reality: this girl doesn't like you. And it doesn't matter. The general wisdom on this site is that it's a lot easier to spark attraction in the first place than to restore it once it's dead. Women who show you IODs are not some problem to be fixed - they're simply useless contacts to be discarded.

In this situation if the girl had any interest in you what you should do is go with the kino and then when you get to the kiss point - try again and thus show you know what you want and can't be discouraged by a half-hearted rejection. The problem here is that her rejection is not half-hearted but rather final (you posted it in the other thread). Thus practicly nothing you do from this point will work, except nexting her. But if you insist you have a chance then don't spoil it - don't tune down escalation expecting her to show you when it's alright to try again.
 

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theres a girl who always texts me when she gets outta class askin where i am.. i tell her im doin this at the location and she comes over.. we talk, study, kino, whutever.. i was thinking the same way you were like wtf okay we're just friends, but i decided to work on her and i got 3 kisses so far.. ima keep it a friendship but just escalate the benefits ;) its working quite nicely
 
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