A girl w/Lots of Guy Friends vs. A guy w/Lots of Girl Friends

[Harry Wilmington]

Hey all:

Wanted to post an interesting question to the forum: I was recently reading another post where a guy was questioning how he should feel about his girlfriend having a lot of guy friends. This is a topic that comes up quite often on these boards, and the overall consensus is that a girl with a lot of guy friends either shouldn't be trusted or is simply a girl that likes to have a bunch of orbiters around her.

However - I've always wondered: what is the opinion about a guy that has a lot of GIRL friends?

I ask because there are also guys that have more girl friends than guy friends, and I'm sure it's troubling for a woman who's dating one of these guys that he has all these women around him, some of whom he may or may not have banged (per her assumed observation). These guys might have their reasons for having mostly girl friends whom he considers platonic, and despite telling the woman this she may still end up feeling... well, the same way a guy would if his girlfriend had a lot of guy friends, lol

So, here's the question: in a relationship, which is worse - for the guy to have a high number of girl friends or for the woman to have a high number of guy friends? Are both equally as bad? What conversations (if any) should either sex be having to see to it that their partner doesn't feel odd or jealous about these other close opposite sex friends?

 

[Between_The_Lines]

So, here's the question: in a relationship, which is worse - for the guy to have a high number of girl friends or for the woman to have a high number of guy friends? Are both equally as bad?

Granting a girl all the violently disruptive and electric sensations associated with oneitus is maybe the greatest 'orgasm' a guy can give her, while we all know very well not just how oneitus always brings a man to his knees, but how it ultimately leads the relationship to crumble too. Uncertainty for men contradicts loyalty (and what guy wants that?), but uncertainty for women awakens her emotions (and what girl doesn't want that?). In other words, it's far preferable, between the two, that he have a lot of female friends instead of she having an abundance of male friends.

What conversations (if any) should either sex be having to see to it that their partner doesn't feel odd or jealous about these other close opposite sex friends?

He ought to stay as silent as possible about having many female friends while carefully balancing that with keeping her aware of the fact that he has a stockpile of reserve women to take his girlfriend's place should she get out of line. If questioned, he should quell her fears in the most ambiguous way possible. As for her having a ton of male friends, I'd simply advise the guy that she shouldn't be promoted from being a plate to a LTR or to avoid her altogether if an endless circuit of headaches seems imminent. Double-standard is the way to go, I say.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Hey all:

Wanted to post an interesting question to the forum: I was recently reading another post where a guy was questioning how he should feel about his girlfriend having a lot of guy friends. This is a topic that comes up quite often on these boards, and the overall consensus is that a girl with a lot of guy friends either shouldn't be trusted or is simply a girl that likes to have a bunch of orbiters around her.

However - I've always wondered: what is the opinion about a guy that has a lot of GIRL friends?

I ask because there are also guys that have more girl friends than guy friends, and I'm sure it's troubling for a woman who's dating one of these guys that he has all these women around him, some of whom he may or may not have banged (per her assumed observation). These guys might have their reasons for having mostly girl friends whom he considers platonic, and despite telling the woman this she may still end up feeling... well, the same way a guy would if his girlfriend had a lot of guy friends, lol

So, here's the question: in a relationship, which is worse - for the guy to have a high number of girl friends or for the woman to have a high number of guy friends? Are both equally as bad? What conversations (if any) should either sex be having to see to it that their partner doesn't feel odd or jealous about these other close opposite sex friends?

My ex-wife I met as a party girl at the end of college. She had a lot of guy friends. Most of them are mostly **** teases anyway.

When it was time for me and her to get together, she introduced me to her friends and male friends and I was not introduced as an outsider. I was introduced as an "us"... The guys were respectfully backed off and over the years, we were accepted as a couple.

Any guy friends who wanted to see her, could see her in a venew where I was present and it was not a problem.

Many women have a lot of guy friends and you are the hired help. So you are introduced in a weaker light, and if you don't have an outside support base of women it likely will demasculate you.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

smart men and women avoid both. I'd say females with many male friends are more of a threat simply given the nature of the genders however they are both bad

It normally is a bad thing but doesn't have to be. My ex was mostly a **** tease, so she get her attention from friends trying to chat her up but they weren't getting none. Of course if I the bf at the time pissed her off royally, now all of a sudden one of her "friends" looks a lot more attractive.

The best counter for a female with a lot of guy friends is to have a lot of female friends. It doesn't have to be a bad thing at all.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

seems pretty disrespectful to me to have multiple ****s in a jar aka replacements right in your face and also flirting with people in front of you

It is. That ex would not flirt in front of me. She was social, and made her friends respect me and would get mad if they were out of line.

She was a **** tease to her friends who were in a perpetual friendzone before I came into the picture. If they went along with it, they were a friend and would never get any.

After I was in the picture, that behavior died off and she was mines.

She was very consistent and I would say had character. But when I met her she was at the end of her party girl days.

She did invite me into her world to and I was not introduced as the "hired help"... I respect that looking back.

 

[Zion]

So, here's the question: in a relationship, which is worse - for the guy to have a high number of girl friends or for the woman to have a high number of guy friends? Are both equally as bad? What conversations (if any) should either sex be having to see to it that their partner doesn't feel odd or jealous about these other close opposite sex friends?

Neither. It's worse to be dating someone insecure enough to have issues with such things.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Think of it this way, if you are giving away something for free is there value in having a long line?


Now if you are providing a pay service is there value in having a long line?