A girl told me this about attraction...

[Number_One]

A girl said this to me the other day...

"The thing about women is that, once you have a girlfriend, you'll often find that more girls will be more attracted to you. Because once you stop acting like you're looking for someone, then she will probably want you more."

That sent alarm bells ringing in my head, reminding me of some classical pieces of play-it-cool/passive type seduction advice.

 

[chinwaggler]

Yeah this is kinda true but if you have a girlfriend, she should be high value, so you shouldn't be looking for other girls really..... unless you find one better..

 

[SharinganUser]

Is this news???

 

[Vypros]

This is true, but it's not even 1/10th of the full story.

Playing it cool/acting like you don't want anybody isn't going to work as a stand alone function, but in conjunction with other stuff it's very effective.

I know that it's not the whole story, because when I was married I didn't have girls beating down the door for me. The reason? I was an overweight, insecure chump.

So, even though I wasn't looking around for other girls, I still didn't have the other qualities that girls are looking for. Thus, don't just hear advice and think that you can bed a woman based on this alone.

 

[AAAgent]

its because most guys afc or not feel like the only thing their missing is a woman in their life. when they find the one they like and are with them, they feel like they fulfilled their lifes desire and all thats left to do is be happy and enjoy the times. When you don't give a sh!t about anything else except having fun it exudes a certain type of confidence that people see and especially women are attracted to.

When i was dating my ex i had 2 other girls wanting my d!ck. after we were together and really happy for a while another 20 wanted on.

 

[nismo-4]

But what if your ass can't find a girlfriend?

You're gonna have to keep playing the field until you meet someone.

Acting like you don't need a woman doesn't always work.

 

[Ganondorf]

Maybe it's because they see that you must be a good guy if she likes you so much

I think the term is, Social Proof

 

[Number_One]

When you don't give a sh!t about anything else except having fun it exudes a certain type of confidence

Exactly, I think that if we put romance to the back of our mind then we can go ahead with...

body building
partying, socialising
making money
being confident, working on status
meeting new dudes and new chicks
being and having fun

 

[nismo-4]

Exactly, I think that if we put romance to the back of our mind then we can go ahead with...

body building
partying, socialising
making money
being confident, working on status
meeting new dudes and new chicks
being and having fun

Survey Says: The Number One answer, Number One!

 

[Number_One]

Some of you are missing the point.

What she said is...if you ACT like you already got a girlfriend, act aloof and like any girls don't matter very much to you...then it will make chicks MORE attracted to you!

Direct from the mouth of a girl (an intelligent one I trust too)

 

[DonGorgon]

A girl said this to me the other day...

"The thing about women is that, once you have a girlfriend, you'll often find that more girls will be more attracted to you. Because once you stop acting like you're looking for someone, then she will probably want you more."

That sent alarm bells ringing in my head, reminding me of some classical pieces of play-it-cool/passive type seduction advice.

Thats why they love gay men..

 

[Mike32ct]

This is true, but it's not even 1/10th of the full story.

Playing it cool/acting like you don't want anybody isn't going to work as a stand alone function, but in conjunction with other stuff it's very effective.

I know that it's not the whole story, because when I was married I didn't have girls beating down the door for me. The reason? I was an overweight, insecure chump.

So, even though I wasn't looking around for other girls, I still didn't have the other qualities that girls are looking for. Thus, don't just hear advice and think that you can bed a woman based on this alone.

I agree 100%. If the girl isn't physically attracted to you, she doesn't CARE if you have a girlfriend or not. But if she does find you attractive, being taken can sometimes work in your favor.

 

[Smack]

But what if your ass can't find a girlfriend?

You're gonna have to keep playing the field until you meet someone.

Acting like you don't need a woman doesn't always work.

Yes it does. Just because you're looking for a woman doesn't mean you need a woman.

 

[Darth]

if she does find you attractive, being taken can sometimes work in your favor.

Right. The catch being that you have to approach them at some point or make yourself known to them by making eye contact or bumping into them or something (which I'm learning the hard way).

You can't just sit around and wait for them to approach you, even if you're good-looking. You have to do a little work to get their attention.

 

[DonJuan11]

What she said is...if you ACT like you already got a girlfriend, act aloof and like any girls don't matter very much to you...then it will make chicks MORE attracted to you!

The problem with this statement is that its supposed to be some magic bullet, a profound life changing statement that's supposed to make guys on here that have never had a girlfriend or sex say "Oh my God, it's so simple, I can't believe I didn't think of that. I would have had so much sex if I knew that!"

It's too difficult for guys on here to act like they have a girlfriend so other girls can be attracted to them, when they've never had a girlfriend before in real life. They might act like she says for a few weeks, but if they don't see results, they will go back to their comfortable life, in front of the tv or computer, where they are not judged or criticized for not going to school or having a degree or being 6'1.

 

[Number_One]

You can't just sit around and wait for them to approach you, even if you're good-looking. You have to do a little work to get their attention.

Another area you guys confuse me on.

You don't have to give up any romantic intentions, or make any scary moves, or give up the game if you just start talking to girls in a SOCIAL CONTEXT. What I'm saying is become a SOCIABLE person and network with women and meet them in a normal way.

Socialising with women opens up the door here, but I DONT count that as trying to seduce one, or crossing any kind of line.

 

[Number_One]

The problem with this statement is that its supposed to be some magic bullet,

No it's not, no one said that. All I know...a girl told me it can make girls more attracted, in oither words...it can help

 

[Darth]

Another area you guys confuse me on.

You don't have to give up any romantic intentions, or make any scary moves, or give up the game if you just start talking to girls in a SOCIAL CONTEXT. What I'm saying is become a SOCIABLE person and network with women and meet them in a normal way.

That makes sense to me.