A girl, kino, need advice....

[gm8384]

Through reading this site I have come to realize that KINO is one of the most important things you need to do when you are interested in a girl. Kino is a great way of showing interest, but I am new to the entire workings/understanding of it.

Now for why I am posting. I was at a teachers office hours getting some HW help and there were about 10 of us there. This one girl that was sitting near me was asking me for some help with her HW. I obliged as to make the most of the situation. When everyone was leaving she asked if I had another class or if I wanted to go to the library to work on the HW.

So we go to the library and she is asking questions about me (where am I from, what my major, classes I am taking etc) and she seemed suprised/excited that we are actually ina few other classes together. So we go to the library and the stuff I learned on this site kicks in.

When we are sitting there I am kino-ing her, arm around her chair when she goes to show me something, touching her hand when I have a question and sh*t like that.

She didn't respond badly to the kino, like by moving more away from me, but I didn't notice her trying to get any closer either. So how am I to interpret this? Is it more likely she was just looking for someone to do the HW with and was being friendly by askin me stuff about me, or should I keep on with the kino because she may be interested?

 

[Slickster]

Lay off the kino a bit. If she isn't interested yet you may come off a little creepy.

Look for other indicators of interest (IOI's) and when you get them you can start in with more kino.

If she is interested then she'll find some way of letting you know.

 

[SealTeamSix]

touching arm is more of social kino (but good start!). Not so intimate. Most girls thinks this type of kino is 'being friendly'.

intimate kinos would be you playing her hair while you look in her eyes .. or kino her ear lobe .. upper back shoulder blades ..
If this girl let you wander these areas .. then I say you are IN!

 

[gm8384]

Rabbit - I will be seeing this girl a lot, because it turns out we are in 3 out of 5 classes together. I didn't ask for her number (I know I know, I really should have) but next time I see her one of the first things I will do is get it.

I agree the library wasn't the best social environment but it was the only one that presented itself at the time so I tried to take advantage of it.

Slickster - Good idea to not go too heavy on the kino. Like SealTeam said, what I was doing was more of a social kino. I still think you are right that I should cut back and watch for some IOI before I continue too much.

dementia - I think I did a good job with the kino I used. I didn't go for the intimate kinos so I highly doubt she felt like I was tryin to molest her. The stuff I did actually felt pretty natural, hopefully that is how it came across to her...

I will update next week when I see her (and get her number)

 

[gm8384]

Well, I had a class with her again today and I got her number. We didn't really talk much durring class (it is class afterall) but when we were packing up I slid my notebook over and said, "How about you write your number down"

She said "My Number?" thats when I almost lost it. I felt like I needed to give a reason for asking for it, and instead of saying something C&F I just mumbled something, but she wrote it anyways.

She seems pretty into talking to me and she laughs a lot when I crack a joke but who knows. I plan on asking her out later this week, but I know she has a lot of HW and projects so we will see how it goes....

 

[quest]

good work gm.. except one thing..

I plan on asking her out later this week, but I know she has a lot of HW and projects so we will see how it goes....

that sounds to me like ur already making excuses for her..
i'm sure she could find time to go out with u if shes interested..

 

[gm8384]

Good observation quest.

I have been having a pretty lousy week so this was my excuse to not get my hopes up (if thats what you want to call it).

You made me realize though I need to stop thinking about stuff and just do it and move on if it doesn't go well....

 

[DJ_Dork]

kino has to be natural/timed right. the rule to this exception is that only girls can just grab you right then and there, but guys is not the same.