"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Often times when i am around chicks she will be with a guy i dont know, shell say, "This is _________ he is my (boyfriend/friend/whatever)

I dont know what to do, i know not to shake his hand (too formal) or to treat him like he is my close friend(too informal) so please help, if i could do this just right, become friends with the guy, it would help me make a good impression with that girl or girls around her
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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handshake isnt too formal. just say "hey whats up man" and shake his hand, and you're introduced.
 
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handshake isnt too formal. just say "hey whats up man" and shake his hand, and you're introduced.
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Yeah really. Why do you think shaking the guys hand is too formal? And why is treating him like your friend too informal. That's how you make friends. Making friends makes you a social guy. Girls like social guys
 
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What...who taught you it was too formal to shake hands with a guy you just met? The only times I don't shake a guys hand that I don't know is when I'm in a situation where I really can't shake his hand.
 
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in a business setting or a ****tail party a handshake would be appropriate, but in high school it is awkward
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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since when? friends in highschool shake hands all the time. its just something guys to regardless of where you're at. hell if you shake his hand like a man the dude may even respect you more for it and the girl will look at you better. lighten up you're over analyzing it.
 
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I think you guys are thinking of two different kinds of handshakes. One, the business type where you shake like the president does but with one hand. Two, the ones that are done usually a bit higher in elevation and with less uniformity. The more "Hey, wassup brotha." heh something like that
both are fine...but typicaly in high school the second one is done
 
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I can't believe it. Where do you guys live? Handshakes formal??!?! What have you been tought as kids?! That's a wack idea to me. In portugal people shake hands ALL THE TIME and EVERYWHERE. Lots and lots of variations of them... I still can't believe it.
 
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a handshake is a handshake, it doesnt really matter what kind you use. its just common courtesy. you shake another man's hand when you meet them
 
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jon3794, no handshakes in high school?get real bud

handshake is the appropriate thing bud just do it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Basically...handshakes are guy's way of greeting, even when first meeting someone, and also a form of affection to guys who are already buds...not necessarily formal at all.

Dunno, guys seem to shake hands all the time in most if not all parts of this country.
 
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I think you guys are thinking of two different kinds of handshakes. One, the business type where you shake like the president does but with one hand. Two, the ones that are done usually a bit higher in elevation and with less uniformity. The more "Hey, wassup brotha." heh something like that
both are fine...but typicaly in high school the second one is done
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The first type of handshake is the ONLY way to be formal when you first meet other people. When I shake someone's hand like that, it's only when I first meet a person, even with women. Than after I get to know them better, I give them the slang handshakes and hug the women.
 
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put on a smile that says hey im comfortable and i love to meet new people. be confident with a lot of posative energy at the time of introduction and just shake the mans hand. do it with confidence. dont show any sign of regret or uncertanty.
 
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Well I never see formal, straight up hand shakes at my school. Most people just clasp hands or high five, or whatever.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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just because you dont see it too often doesnt mean theres anything wrong with it. you just have more options. you can go for a real handshake or just slap hands. either way if you do extend your hand for a handshake no one is going to be on the side going "oooo what a queer who does that?" and if they do they're immature fools who will get over that eventually
 
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