A girl, her friends, and me. (HELP!)

[Upper]

I've got passed the PU and Attraction phase with this cute girl, and even had a good first date, but there's a serious relationship barrier that I need some opinions and advice on.

The thing is, she's an international student, and all of them from the same country stick together in school. They do it not out of shyness, but because they feel exclusive and are very protective of each other.

Actually, I have no problem with that. I'm not the possessive type who needs to be with her all the time. What's bugging me is that she doesn't dare to talk or even look at me when she's with this group of friends.

I get the feeling her countrymates don't like me much, and also because this guy from her country likes her too and they're trying to "keep her in".

So, we only get to talk in the one class that her friends are not part of, and on the phone. We had our first date last Sun, and will be having another this weekend.

Now, I would never accept this underground romance BS from a local girl. However, to be fair, it's not easy for a foreign girl to leave home and study overseas all alone, and it's reasonable for her to want to be part of that support network.

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So, as the man in the relationship, I want to resolve this issue so we can progress on. My assessment is that there's no benefit in forcefully "pulling her out" of the circle as negative as they are.

I would prefer to win them over, but they're so impenetrable and conceited. I don't want to appear desperate to "get into their good books" or "obtain approval".

What should I do? Help and much thanks!

 

[Upper]

Also, the girl in point is really young in both age and life experience.

I would have her solve it herself if she was someone older and able to make her own stand.

However, since I'm the man and want to progress the relationship, some work has to be done.

 

[Allurre]

It doesn't make you seem desperate with a goal in mind to get into her friend's "Good books."

Just don't make it outright obvious you're trying to impress or please them. It's all about strong social communications and building rapport with each and one of them individually.

Start with one girl, then another. If you catch one of her friends alone, smile, and try to establish rapport. Then, slowly work your way down the list.

If you try to win the collective all at once, try treating them out for a round of drinks.

 

[Upper]

Ah yes, winning them over one at a time. Thanks! Does anyone else have any opinions on this relationship?