"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A girl from the past - Need advice.

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background: Used to be friends for 2 years, did some sexual stuff together, but nothing serious. Haven't seen her in 3 years. I am leaving for the Army soon (in a different country), and want to say my goodbye to her.

So today I texted her (we talk every several months or so..). My exact text was: "Im leaving for the army in a month. I want to say goodbye before im gone. Call me if you want to chill".

She replied after 40 minutes: "Definitely, I would love to see you before you go."

I was wondering of how I should respond. I don't know if she's still with her boyfriend. Not planning on any sexual stuff, but who knows. its always up in the air with her. (From what I remember...I also changed a lot..so who knows). I don't know what my exact intentions are. But I would not like it to sound like her best friend, and re-enter the friendzone.

So what are you opinions on how I should approach her now? call her right away? set up something soon? or just text back?

P.S. were are both almost 18.

Thanks for the advice :up:

Edit: Also, in order to get to each other's house..we must travel by the train for a bit. Should I travel over to her? or the other way around?
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Go and meet up with her somewhere that has a motel around the corner, then tell her "the army plans to ship me out to Iraq shortly after my departure, I only got this weekend to get laid, oh where can I get some action?" (this is where you pull out the breath spray and give yourself a couple of shots). then look into her eyes and smile...
 

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Alright, you got me :crackup:
I guess you two are right.

But anything on a more serious note? :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Not sure this is qualified for last minute sex, but I was asking more of how to approach this without sounding too friendly and "AFC". I believe I can take it from there, once we meet.

Thanks though, Docs.
 

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Friendly = Non-Sexual. (ie: Acting proper to your boss, carefully talking to someone you don't want to insult/give wrong impression)

AFC = Too Little/Much Sexual Aggression. (not doing anything sexual, or overdoing it)


So, basically, right from the get go, flirt with this girl in exactly the same manner you snagged her with in the first place (or try something you know works). If it worked once, why not again right?
 

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Man, you are DEFINTELY IN!

Go there and take what you WANT! (yes, that)

Don't forget to get back here and thank us all :D
 
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