"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

A girl called after two weeks

FunkyMillion

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 3, 2003
Messages
54
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Here is the situation.

I called this girl twice but she never picks up so I left a message twice.

then two weeks later (yesterday)... she called me but I didn't pick up and she left me a message saying to call her back because she's been busy with work (whether that's true or not, I don't care) but she said in her message to call her back when I get her message. Then I called earlier today but she never pick up again and I didn't leave a message.

NOW! should I call her again tomorrow?

-Funky
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Phyzzle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 19, 2006
Messages
1,963
Reaction score
35
Clearly, the other two or three guys she was sort of seeing aren't panning out. I wouldn't expect fireworks when you meet this girl. She's calling you out of boredom.

Call again, and leave a message saying "my phone is charged again. Call back any time from 10 am to 10 pm tomorrow, and I should be able to answer right away."

If she doesn't call, that means she had to work a 12 hour shift with no lunch or bathroom breaks. C'mon.
 

ScrewIt

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 11, 2004
Messages
1,769
Reaction score
2
FunkyMillion said:
Here is the situation.

I called this girl twice but she never picks up so I left a message twice.

then two weeks later (yesterday)... she called me but I didn't pick up and she left me a message saying to call her back because she's been busy with work (whether that's true or not, I don't care) but she said in her message to call her back when I get her message. Then I called earlier today but she never pick up again and I didn't leave a message.

NOW! should I call her again tomorrow?

-Funky
Let the games begin! the power struggle is already in place, whoever is the one to pick up loses (not quite). But if either of you are interested in letting this go further besides phone games, one of you will have to eventually answer. Oh and never leave messages.
 

DarkLight

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2005
Messages
618
Reaction score
4
Age
46
Location
SoCal
lol, power struggle.

I feel you on this 1.
I would def. do what you gotta do, within the confines of keeping it Suave G'.
Fvck power struggles... if you meet up w. her, then you've already succeeded.
From there... drop all the game you want on her. The phone chasing is over, and its live in the flesh goodness.

Def. becareful to keep the game in your hands though.
A chick like this, could have quite the player tact as well.
(even if she isn't a player)

So, you keep the control, and don't get to too sweet/nice guy w. her.
Keep it dominant Suave'
 

Pimp-sicle

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 27, 2003
Messages
2,457
Reaction score
101
Location
Pimpsylvania
If a chick calls you back TWO WEEKS LATER you shouldn't even call her back!!! People are busy, but not THAT BUSY. Furthermore, not calling her back, would increase her interest level since she thought you were highly interested. Anyhow, to answer your question, NO don't call her again. She's looking for an ego stroker, not a date.



PIMP
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

BMX

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2004
Messages
1,477
Reaction score
408
Location
Everett
I'm having the same problem. So I just dropped it, forgot about her. 2 weeks and no calling me back is bs.
 

Tau

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 14, 2006
Messages
43
Reaction score
0
You have nothing to lose if you keep trying to get in touch. May as well give her the benefit of the doubt. That way if she really is interested then you won't miss a chance. And if she still seems flakey then big whoop, who cares? But seriously, it takes like a minute to call her, so why not take a shot?

Don't overthink that power struggle thing. She's a so-so prospect that it costs you hardly any effort to go after. Why the hell not?
 

Flyer

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 22, 2005
Messages
393
Reaction score
2
Location
Sydney
Tau said:
You have nothing to lose if you keep trying to get in touch. May as well give her the benefit of the doubt. That way if she really is interested then you won't miss a chance. And if she still seems flakey then big whoop, who cares? But seriously, it takes like a minute to call her, so why not take a shot?

Don't overthink that power struggle thing. She's a so-so prospect that it costs you hardly any effort to go after. Why the hell not?
true, but in the olden days of the board, people would have screamed: "NEXT!"
 

tobby

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 1, 2004
Messages
110
Reaction score
2
Age
40
Location
USA
Honestly, I used to worry about all this crap with a girl calling me or not, until I realized this: (came mostly through trial and error. I hate learning that way, but it's one of the best teachers!) :D

If a girl's truly interested in you, she wants to keep in contact with you; she'll also answer her phone when you call and always tries to call you back.

Always put the situation in your shoes! If you really liked a girl and she called you, would you wait 2 weeks to call her back! (I know maybe 1-3 days to show you're not needy, but not 2 weeks!)

This girl truly sees u as a guy to have fun with when she's bored. Have fun with the situation, but I wouldn't bother with it.
 

mark9

Don Juan
Joined
May 15, 2005
Messages
30
Reaction score
0
Age
59
She could just be using you to get even with some guy. You have to be careful with this one. I would not waste much time on this one. I would take it as casual and try my luck on some other girl. It happend to me. When I had issued with my gal, I did not call her for two days. She call another friend up and left a message for him. He was hitting on her infront of me and I was laid back and saw the whole thing. She ignored him twice. That was when I first met her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Top