A genuine question about Incels.

[Jesse Pinkman]

So I have been meaning to ask this for a while.

Incels obviously struggle with attracting women and with dating. Here is what I don't get though. Why is it that Incels join communities online that are focused solely on dating, female behavior, women, game, and guys who get the very girls they want?

I guess I never got this about them. They struggle with women and dating but at the same time, obsess about it more than most other guys out there.

Like, what's wrong with just giving up altogether and doing something more productive instead? Like picking up a good loner hobby such as woodworking or just getting a hobby that has little to do with women and dating? You could actually learn useful life skills that pay off.

I just never get why in any convo about women, game, and dating, an incel that struggles and sounds hopeless feels the desperate urge to flood in and also to spread their failures and beliefs as truth to the masses.

 

[sangheilios]

It's because they are frustrated and venting about these feelings with men that can understand or relate to it makes them feel less alone. It's not normal to have no success to speak of with the opposite sex and is subconsciously one of the primary objectives of men, with exceptions being gay men or those who are legitimately asexual. There have always been lifelong bachelors, but it's a relatively recent phenomenon to have very large numbers of men that are in this category. There are many stats out there that are showing full blown sexlessness/long term droughts are very common for men now and virginity is also far more common for men that are well into their 20s. This is something that has literally never happened in human history and I personally am very alarmed by these statistics. Many of these men are frustrated, rightly so, and it's very often not even entirely their own fault.

I was actually going to post a thread about this but I've noticed a trend recently on youtube where there are a lot of channels talking about this topic. The fact that there are so many channels discussing this AND are receiving that much attention is a testament to how prevalent and widespread of an issue this is.

My most immediate concerns are that there are so many men that are just frustrated and unhappy, again it's not normal to be totally celibate and endlessly rejected by women. There may be an increased rate of legitimate mental health issues (depression, anxiety, etc.) and issues relating to drugs, alcohol, etc. I could also see escapism becoming an even bigger problem, again this could be through self medication (drugs, alcohol) or things like gambling or video game addiction. Something that this reminds me of is the vegetable man phenomenon in Japan, where these men literally don't leave the house, never socialize and often live in some fantasy digital world. Some other things I could see would possibly be legalization of prostitution in the U.S. and further research and development into sex robots.

With all of what I mentioned above, the biggest consequence of this is that I believe we are in the early stages of a population collapse in the developed world. We won't notice it right now, but the stage is being set for this to become a reality by the 2nd half of the 21st century, and many of the posters on this site right now will most likely be alive at that time.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Like, what's wrong with just giving up altogether and doing something more productive instead

We have that already, the MGTOW.

 

[corrector]

You mean joining a board in general? This is a safe space against feminism. Incelness is the product of feminism and other places just try crucify you if your very existance defies feminism. This is not the experience here and you can express any anti-femimist view and most people can get it.

 

[devilkingx2]

Incels obviously struggle with attracting women and with dating. Here is what I don't get though. Why is it that Incels join communities online that are focused solely on dating, female behavior, women, game, and guys who get the very girls they want?

I guess I never got this about them. They struggle with women and dating but at the same time, obsess about it more than most other guys out there.

Who spends the most time applying to jobs? The person who desperately desires a new job or any job at all. That's why.

It's also likely that the guys who never get laid but also don't care about sex simply don't talk about it so you'll never know they're incels. However every human is supposed to have a sex drive biologically.

On top of that, the entire purpose of a board like this is to turn someone from being an incel or bluepilled beta bux into something better.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I think a lot of men don't realize this, and use it as an echo chamber for their faux superiority complexes...

Agree with both you and the guy you quoted. I went from 28 year incel to novice player. It’s a journey I’m still on