A friends Convo

[Sammer VII]

A friend of mine keeps bugging me on what say and stuff, I told him and he just shrugged what I said off, now he comes to me with a convo he had over Aim with a girl he has known since last monday and maybe talked to her about 4-5 hours total over the internet

He says hed rather meet in her person and talk rather than online, and that she is really busy, and cant. She has work and ****.

Anyway, I told him the foloowing convo means that she has some interest int he guy and would just rather meet him aswell, I told him to calm down and to just wait til they meet, rather than getting into all this online.

Here is the convo, Tell me what you think... B4 this they would talk about the regular lieks and dislikes. So nothing was really said b4 this.
BTW, she sent him the first AIM.


Her (10:09:23 AM): hey whats up?
Him (10:09:28 AM): not much you?
Her (10:09:36 AM): just gettin ready for work
Him (10:09:39 AM): Im just reading up on something
Him (10:09:43 AM): what hours?
Her (10:09:57 AM): cool....mmmm 1130 to whenever...
Her(10:10:00 AM): not sure
Him (10:10:19 AM): Sounds cool
Her (10:10:29 AM): yup
Him (10:10:34 AM): Do you have any time to talk>?
Her (10:10:46 AM): mmm what do you mean?
Him (10:11:14 AM): for like 45 minutes or so, just kinda talk, find out more about you
Her (10:11:23 AM): when now?
Him (10:11:35 AM): Whenever
Her (10:11:48 AM): mm i can talk for a little bit right now
Her (10:11:56 AM): then i gotta gp and get dressed for work
Him (10:12:08 AM): go ahead and get dressed and ready, I wont hold you up lol
Him (10:12:15 AM): eat do whatever
Her (10:12:39 AM): no its ok i ate and went to starbucks already all i gotta do is get dressed and that takes like 2 sec. so yeh talk
Him (10:13:29 AM): Allright lol
Him (10:13:35 AM): lets see
Him (10:14:34 AM): Lol, im gonan be honest, There is not much to talk about besides what yo ulike
Him (10:14:40 AM): which I have a decent idea of
Her (10:14:55 AM): lol
Him (10:15:02 AM): You probaly dont know much about me
Her (10:15:06 AM): no i dont
Him (10:15:10 AM): and dont seem to ask many questions lol
Her (10:15:57 AM): who?
Him (10:16:08 AM): You
Her (10:16:23 AM): oh
Him (10:17:16 AM): What are you intenetions... Im trying to be straightforward here
Her (10:17:30 AM): intentions for what?
Him (10:18:58 AM): I have noticed that people who are "playing the game" tend to hide their intensions with another for the fun of the game, I am personally not fond of playing a bunch of mind games.

Im not trying to creep you out all of a sudden, just trying to have a sincere moment
Her (10:19:26 AM): haha no i gotcha
Him (10:19:42 AM): lol
Her (10:20:20 AM): what are your intentions?
Him (10:20:41 AM): My intentions are to have a long-term relationship if possible, im not looking for a quicky or a just for fun relationship, I don't really enjoy those.
Him (10:20:57 AM): I just want to see if what I am looking for and what you are looking for are on par
Her (10:21:04 AM): mmm me either....
Her (10:21:08 AM): ok>?
Him (10:21:34 AM): yeah thats cool
Him (10:22:29 AM): Anyway, go get dressed and go to work, I just wanted to get that out
Her (10:22:57 AM): haha ... i have a while before i ahve to go and get ready....
Her (10:23:06 AM): haha hey what kind of music do you listen to
Her (10:23:08 AM): lol
Him (10:23:28 AM): I have been hurt b4 by girls who dont have the same intentions as me and I just want to protect myself
Her (10:23:38 AM): ok?
Her (10:23:43 AM): OK!...788
Her (10:23:46 AM): ****
Him (10:23:48 AM): / End Rant
Her (10:23:51 AM): lol
Him (10:23:54 AM): Music, I told you
Him (10:23:59 AM): Oldies
Him (10:24:01 AM): Techno
Him (10:24:04 AM): Soul
Her (10:24:11 AM): haha ok have you ever heard of a band called buckcherry?
Him (10:24:15 AM): Some R&B
Him (10:24:21 AM): Hmm no, cant say I hjave
Her (10:24:32 AM): hahaha wanna hear my fav song by them...lol....
Him (10:24:37 AM): of course
Her (10:24:39 AM): it is kinda wierd for a girl to like it but i do
Her (10:24:40 AM): ok
Her (10:24:47 AM): http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=12353330
Her (10:24:51 AM): its the first song
Him (10:24:54 AM): kk
Him (10:25:03 AM): lol
Him (10:25:16 AM): Nice song namwe
Her (10:25:26 AM): haha i know right
Her (10:25:27 AM): lol
Her (10:26:49 AM): i told you it was wierd for a girl to like this song
Her (10:26:50 AM): lo
Her (10:26:51 AM): ll
Her (10:26:54 AM): lol**
Him (10:26:55 AM): Not really soemthing id listen to, but I can stand it. I like Classic Rock better than this, but this is still ok.

So what do you like about it, not putting it down or anything, but like the beats, the words what?
Her (10:27:17 AM): mmm i think its the beats...but lol idk
Her (10:27:20 AM): just like it
Him (10:28:09 AM): What feeling does it give you? The badass feeling, the cool feeling, what? For me, it gives me the feeling of caring a gun and robbing a bank lol.
Him (10:28:18 AM): Then
Her (10:28:21 AM):



lol
Him (10:28:21 AM): Running from the cops
Her (10:28:26 AM): dk....just like it
Him (10:28:54 AM): haha
Him (10:29:07 AM): lemme find a really good song your bound to like
Her (10:29:13 AM): ok
Him(10:29:24 AM): Oh BTW
Him (10:29:28 AM): do you like comedy?
Her (10:29:31 AM): yeh
Him (10:29:33 AM): stand-up in particular?
Her (10:29:45 AM): yeh
Her went away at 10:29:58 AM.
Her (10:30:06 AM): hey g2g go and get ready
Him (10:30:13 AM): Soudns good

He thinks she is just blowing him off nicely but I told him that eh is being stupid. Mainly because She has him on her top 8 myspace friends after 2 days of knowing him and she has mentioned him in her profile already and ****.

I just want some backup so he believes what I am saying is true...
That the girl would also rather meet him in person than to just chat online.

So just post your opinions and I will show him.

 

[Blue Dude]

give us the rest of convo. every bit is important!

but from what i can see, he is too.. what should I call him, feellingfull? if thats a word. He tries to much to get it on with her. And in the end he will fail. The reason is simple. If you try to hard, she will notice. If you don't, she will notice too. But remember that chicks as the rest of us allways seeks approval and she will be more into him if he just let it flow and jumps over all that shait about, "what are your intensions", "I don't wanna get burned again" etc etc. He needs to give him self a bit more of respect.

As I read thru the chat, it seems like he is selling him self way too cheap.

 

[Sammer VII]

Aight sure

I added it.

EDIT* Your Post seems very logical aswell. That is why I told him the mistake he made will most likely not kill his chances but he will have to work harder in order to obtain her. Without being too "feelingfull" lol.

 

[flexion_]

Well he was interviewing her instead of being fun with her.

And he put all his cards on the table so that effectively kills to romantic video game women play in the heads.

And he decided to talk about past relationships and how bad they went.

And... she won't be swooning anytime soon.

 

[Sammer VII]

Ok, so I should tell him to next her, IMO he should not, because it is not neccasarrily over with.

He likes to be straightforawrd to sometimes a scary degree, so he doesnt want to **** around with someone who is not on the same path as he is.

If they are on the same path he can be very romatic and charming, at least that is what I am told by some of his girlfriends lol.

He is also a pretty religious person, he is not looking to get alid or to get quickies, that realyl why he said what he did in the convo, he likes not to get ****ed with.

 

[Blue Dude]

Don't tell him to next her. That's called burning bridges! She ain't done anything wrong. And she is kinda intrested. But HE needs to change his view and act diffrently.
If he dosen't, he'll get burned.
If he does, bingo!

 

[Sammer VII]

Ok, so you are saying that, that "moment" lol, he had was a ****-up that could be fixed by simply not doing anything like that again, and just being his usual romantic spontaneous self?

He told me that his test with a women is if they can "handle" his "sincere moment". If they can he will be one of the most amazing people the girls ever met... Lol He is somewhat arrogant, but I guess if he can get what he wants than good for him, but he wants this girl and he thinks he ****ed up, so he came to me with his tail in between his legs lol.

 

[Blue Dude]

Listen. I don't know who this friend is but I bet he ain't got that much expirience. What he is looking for is what all nice-guys say. "i want a soulmate". "I want somebody who understands me". "I want somebody who I can connect with".

He simply is a nice guy, and his niceesness won't get him this chick. The reason he can "fix" the situation is becouse they never met. She is still seeing him just as an AIM-dude. They are not friends-friends buy they are not flirting-flirting either. They are in no mans land.

So what I would tell you friend is, "Change the attitude or lose the girl". He needs to make him self the prize not her.

And I have no clue where do you get from that he is arrogant cuz, he, and I am not trying to offent him now, is acting like a little hurt kid.

 

[Sammer VII]

Lol, yeah, I'll tell him later. But thanks for the help, hope all goes well for him.

And BTW, he is pretty much an AFC...

 

[Rebound Material]

Her (10:23:06 AM): haha hey what kind of music do you listen to
Her (10:23:08 AM): lol
Him (10:23:28 AM): I have been hurt b4 by girls who dont have the same intentions as me and I just want to protect myself
Her (10:23:38 AM): ok?


LMAO!!!.....WOW, what a response...and her reaction....LMAO!!!

 

[Sammer VII]

Her (10:23:06 AM): haha hey what kind of music do you listen to
Her (10:23:08 AM): lol
Him (10:23:28 AM): I have been hurt b4 by girls who dont have the same intentions as me and I just want to protect myself
Her (10:23:38 AM): ok?


LMAO!!!.....WOW, what a response...and her reaction....LMAO!!!

Lol, yeah I told him WTF on that part and he said he was typing as she was lol.

 

[Rebound Material]

Lol, yeah I told him WTF on that part and he said he was typing as she was lol.

I was just at work and out of nowhere I remembered this post...i couldnt stop laughing. The customers thought that I was clowning on them hahaha.

 

[Sammer VII]

Lol, He just went and sent her a message asking how a certain date and time was for a date, get-together, whatever, and she replies with I have to go to a concert that day... She has done this 3 times now (poor guy lol).