a friend?

[32swf]

So Friday night I had my 4th date with this guy. But AGAIN, nothing happened! Should I just write him off as a friend.

It was a Friday night, we went to dinner, then to hear some jazz. Fun evening, joking and laughing. Not any touching though he does open doors for me. picked me up at 730, dropped me off at 1230. I didn't ask him in, because he didn't act like he was looking for a parking spot, so I assumed he didn't want to come in.

What should I do?? make a move? go with the flow?? be more of a challenge??
I really like him, but maybe he's not attracted to me?? any thoughts??

 

[chlywly]

Could be shy, initiate some hardcore flirting and touching

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Yeah, most guys are chumps when it comes to women, specially if they are really attracted to them. The 'obvious signs' are not picked up in time, they play it too safe, etc.

All of us guys have been there, so help out one of ours and help him out by being a little "too obvious." Ask him to come watch a movie at your place, or whatever. LOL

 

[Walden]

"My breasts they are perky , yes?"

(.)(.)







What? too subtle?

 

[Shadow Dancer]

Yeah, this guy seems interested in you. Otherwise, why even put the effort into going out with you? He's probably just shy. You're REALLY gonna have to spell it out for him. No clues, no hints, you're gonna have to make it happen.

Don't say, "You can come inside if you like.". He may still not get the idea.

Tell him, "I had a good time tonight. Come inside and I'll fix you something to drink.". Just make sure you TELL him to come inside. Once inside, you're gonna have to put the moves on him.

After that, he may show a little more balls and start initiating things.

 

[bp1974]

This is getting boring.

He would not go out with you four times if he wasn't romantically interested. Seems like you're both going out with the assumption that the other person isn't interested, so nothing happens. You didn't ask him in because to you he didn't look like he was looking for a parking spot??? What does it look like when someone is?

Either make a move on him, or lose this guy, but please, stop wasting our time. You've been given all the advice you need, but you just won't put it into action.

If it makes it easier, here's a line you can memorise and say to him next time you're out on a 'date' and there's a pause in conversation:

"I can't figure you out. You go out with me but never act like you're interested in me. Why haven't you kissed me yet?"

 

[CLOONEY]

It should be obvious if he is romantically interested in you. If u are not sure for some reason, like his mood when he is around u etc etc, u should be brutally honest, just ask him, I am serious!!

My guess he is a TOTAL chump, otherwise he would have at LEAST kissed you by now. However that is not a reason to write him off, just ask him and then put yourself in the position for a kiss, if he still doesnt kiss you KISS HIM!

 

[Reto]

You gotta make the move.

I remeber when I was in my teens (and a total AFC) I went on a date with this girl and dropped her off at her car. She got in and as I was walking away without a kiss. She goes "HEY!", I turned around and she motioned for me to come back. She kissed me like I hadn't been kissed before. It was all that was needed to break the ice.

Within a couple of weeks, we weren't even leving the house for dates...

You gotta break the ice if he's worth it...

 

[Pap]

Any guy that is willing to take you our four times will be at least somewhat interested in you...especially if he is taking you to dinner...he is probably interested in you...and if you are interested in him, you might have to make the first move...or next the guy if you don't think he's going to make a move and you want him to make the move because it sounds like he represents the stereotypical AFC that wants to keep you comfortable and intrigued, but doesn't understand your needs and doesn't understand much about woman psychology. If you make the first move though, I'm pretty confident you can have him.

Cheers,

Papa

 

[JustDoItAlways]

This post just reinforces that if:

- you don't get sexual with a girl soon enough;

- you don't put a move on her when she's making it easy for you;

- you play the "nice guy" card and wait for the sex thinking she will respect you more and think more long-term about the relationship ...

... she will just get turned off and think of you as a friend.

This happens every day. Put a move on her as soon as possible or as soon as it seems right.

She can always say No and at least she won't LBJF you (like the above) or think you are a guy with no balls or gay.

She'll probably say Yes the second time after she has had time to think about how much you want her sexually and how big your balls are.

 

[Pap]

You are definitely on to something. When a guy is in isolation with a girl, and attraction and comfort is present, if the guy does not escalate and seduce the girl by sexually engaging her then he will demonstrate a lack of dominance in his reality and the girl will fall out of buying temperature and the AFC is blown out.

Cheers,

Papa

 

[deeman]

let us know if he makes a move


Or if you do