"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A girl I'm dealing with will be hospitalized over the weekend. She was diagnosed with a blod clot in her brain. I sent her a text saying I'm here for her if she needs anything. What can I do to let her know that I care? I was just starting to like this girl (after the last fiasco...) and then this happens...we were hitting it off very well too. I feel like sh!t just thinking about it! It eats me alive...I can't take it. I know that this could turn out to be serious...
What do I do guys? Should I ask her what hospital she will be staying at and go and visit her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wtf, if she's your friend, go fucking visit her.
 
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No you should definitely play it cool and not go see her, that way as she's dying she'll be thinking about how much she wants to have sex with you

Pretty sure serious illness trumps acting suave. At this point forget everything you've learned and be there for her.
 
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