Hughman
Senior Don Juan
The common chump took its last breaths and collapsed, bursting into flames, taking everyone out with him.
The ashes lay dormant for many months but behold, the probings of concerned womenfolk cause a mewling whelp to crawl from the ashes. They say it is a young DJ, ready to begin its life, but still vulnerable to those that wish to crush it.
This analogy, I feel sums me up nicely. A year ago, I decided it was time to gain an interest in women. Being in an all-male school caused problems, but I found ways of meeting new people. A casual observation would say I was a bonefide player. I could easily acquire numbers, and a healthy number of dates. But I never got anywhere most of the time.
Eventually I was crushed too much. A girl and relationship with her that was looking so good, heck, I was under the spell of one-itis, cheated on me. I went berserk. Like a horny goat I destroyed nearly all of my female friendships. I lost interest in everything. I stopped going out, I gained a good 5 pounds of flab, if not more.
For Christmas I was given a pair of dumbbells by my old man. Being bored at night I started to work out. It got addictive. I started to run and took up Ultimate Frisbee with some mates. The excess was soon lost and I can now lift a respectable amount.
Being sworn off women for so long obviously made me a rare commodity. They started to flirt. My interest was reborn. But knowing I was doing something wrong, I stumbled on this site.
A month of practice and reading later, I'm the happiest and healthiest I've ever been. My 'guilt' over being a nice guy (which my best female friend [and thanks to this site, I've gotten over my 3 year crush on her] told me I was, to my face, and to think I thought that was a compliment at the time!) is largely gone.
Sure, I'm not 'perfect' yet (then again, isn't perfection boring? aha). I've had rejections since my change in attitude. Admittedly it's easier for me now - a fool-proof ID works wonders. But before when I was at my lowest and consider going for my own 'league' I was in, that of say a 6 or 7 at best, I now go for 8s, 9s, even the odd 10, that is my opinion of myself has nearly doubled (admittedly, I haven't struck gold with a ten yet, aha).
I'd like to thank everyone for who has contributed to this site. My issue was fear - fear of society's opinion, fear of being branded a jerk, fear of destroying possible friendships. But I have nothing to fear but fear itself.
Peace,
Hughman
The ashes lay dormant for many months but behold, the probings of concerned womenfolk cause a mewling whelp to crawl from the ashes. They say it is a young DJ, ready to begin its life, but still vulnerable to those that wish to crush it.
This analogy, I feel sums me up nicely. A year ago, I decided it was time to gain an interest in women. Being in an all-male school caused problems, but I found ways of meeting new people. A casual observation would say I was a bonefide player. I could easily acquire numbers, and a healthy number of dates. But I never got anywhere most of the time.
Eventually I was crushed too much. A girl and relationship with her that was looking so good, heck, I was under the spell of one-itis, cheated on me. I went berserk. Like a horny goat I destroyed nearly all of my female friendships. I lost interest in everything. I stopped going out, I gained a good 5 pounds of flab, if not more.
For Christmas I was given a pair of dumbbells by my old man. Being bored at night I started to work out. It got addictive. I started to run and took up Ultimate Frisbee with some mates. The excess was soon lost and I can now lift a respectable amount.
Being sworn off women for so long obviously made me a rare commodity. They started to flirt. My interest was reborn. But knowing I was doing something wrong, I stumbled on this site.
A month of practice and reading later, I'm the happiest and healthiest I've ever been. My 'guilt' over being a nice guy (which my best female friend [and thanks to this site, I've gotten over my 3 year crush on her] told me I was, to my face, and to think I thought that was a compliment at the time!) is largely gone.
Sure, I'm not 'perfect' yet (then again, isn't perfection boring? aha). I've had rejections since my change in attitude. Admittedly it's easier for me now - a fool-proof ID works wonders. But before when I was at my lowest and consider going for my own 'league' I was in, that of say a 6 or 7 at best, I now go for 8s, 9s, even the odd 10, that is my opinion of myself has nearly doubled (admittedly, I haven't struck gold with a ten yet, aha).
I'd like to thank everyone for who has contributed to this site. My issue was fear - fear of society's opinion, fear of being branded a jerk, fear of destroying possible friendships. But I have nothing to fear but fear itself.
Peace,
Hughman
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