"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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a follow-up on the surfing post that might go unmentioned

j8snx1

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im curious, but what is the average price for getting surfing lessons? are surfing lessons necessary, or is it a lot more efficient to have a surfing friend help you out for free?:eek:

i hear the lessons are nowhere near cheap and i just happen to be short on funds to be paying like $100 per lesson or something. help!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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If you have a friend who knows how to surf, that'll do just fine. It's just difficult to go out by yourself and teach yourself. You need some sort of guidance to get started. As far as pricing goes, I don't remember. I learned a few years ago so I can't help you there. I'm sure if you did some research you could find a week long summer surf camp that lasts a few hours each day. I can't imagine itd be more than a few hundred bucks. If you're on a budget though, just ask a friend to teach you.
 

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There's really not that much to surfing. All you have to do is know how to duckdive and get up. Surfing is more of a feel sport than technical so getting lessons would probably help a bit, but unless your willing to pay it's not worth it. When you go to the beach just watch others moves pay close attention then go practice that.
 

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You need to learn the proper technique of standing up. Usually you spend 5-10 minutes practicing on the sand before you get into the water. I don't think you'll make the most of your time in the water without SOME instruction. Find a friend who surfs and ask him for lessons
 
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