"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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a few questions on mindset

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I was wondering on being in the moment, do you think that its better to NOT think about anything at all?

ex: "your the greatest, your the coolest hottest" ect ect..

and just stay in the present,

not thinking about the past or future.

or

be half in your head with those thoughts of greatness and the other half talking to people??
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Pumping my ego up before making an approach, getting a number, making a power move, etc. always seemed to make doing things 100x harder.

Be zen-like. Just do.
 
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Stailing out the area is a nono. 3 second rule at all times.

However what I would say is this:

The models are good to get you used to doing this kind of thing.

Stick with routines until you can freefflow it.

Then just be.

(I feel learning and once you have a bit of competence are frequently different beings. If you don't switch strategy between the two you'll limit your success though.)
 
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Don't think. Do.

Return to making actions automatic

Do you think about going to the toilet. No.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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