"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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a few questions on mindset

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SuPaF1y

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I was wondering on being in the moment, do you think that its better to NOT think about anything at all?

ex: "your the greatest, your the coolest hottest" ect ect..

and just stay in the present,

not thinking about the past or future.

or

be half in your head with those thoughts of greatness and the other half talking to people??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Pumping my ego up before making an approach, getting a number, making a power move, etc. always seemed to make doing things 100x harder.

Be zen-like. Just do.
 
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Stailing out the area is a nono. 3 second rule at all times.

However what I would say is this:

The models are good to get you used to doing this kind of thing.

Stick with routines until you can freefflow it.

Then just be.

(I feel learning and once you have a bit of competence are frequently different beings. If you don't switch strategy between the two you'll limit your success though.)
 
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Don't think. Do.

Return to making actions automatic

Do you think about going to the toilet. No.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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