A few problems I've noted in users on here

[BannedGod]

This is basically a sum-up of many observations I've done recently. As you can see, I joined a looooooooooooooooooong time ago and was a total mess. I stayed on this forum for so long absorbing information like a sponge but never putting it to use, until I left here to go in the real world and live life with the knowledge I had. I did come back here for advice from times to times on specific situations that were new to me (due to my previous lack of experience), and now that I'm back once again (I blame babysitting my mom's pets while she's on vacation, I'm bored as hell at her place!), I've made some observations:

1) Life is a gray area, not everything is black or white: So many people here fall in the trap of expecting everything regarding relationship to be completely black or white. But you know what? There are thousands of variables to any given situation. Life is one big gray area, that's it. There is no secret formula for specific situations. It's all about adapting yourself to a specific situation and a specific person. Remember, you are not dealing with a robot, but with a person. Yes you can generalize by saying that women think/act/feel "A" while men think/act/feel "B", but even then, A or B have so many different variables that you cannot make it a decisive rule. One classic example:

Wait two days before you call after a first date or you'll look clingy and lose the girl

You know what? That is B.S.! It's an interesting guideline, but not an absolute truth. I've done the opposite many times (call the same day if the date was early or the next day) and still got success down the run. If you're new to the game, it's good to keep this in mind in order to keep your emotions under control, but you should remember that they are just that; guidelines.

2) You cannot force someone to be attracted to you: I love statistics, so I'll use it as an analogy. Let's say that there are 100 characteristics a human being can potentially possess (good or bad) and at any time a person only has 10 (7 good, 3 bad, numbers don't matter!). Now let's say each characteristic ranks a certain score on a scale from 1 to 5. Obviously the score will vary from person to person. Finally, let's say you need a total score of 75% to attract someone enough to get a shot with that person. Care to do the math to figure out your odds? Didn't think so. They are minuscule.

Obviously, if you want to approach this logically, figure out the most desirable traits (those that rank 5/5) and the least desirable traits (those that rank 1/5) and make sure you build on the 5/5 traits and lose the 1/5 traits. This will maximize your odds. But you know what? Maybe for girl #1-9, it's a must that you look like a Greek God, while for girl #10, the girl of your dreams, it's a complete turn-off. Again, we are dealing with people, not machines we can program to suit our needs.

Edit:I was re-reading this right after I posted, I skipped a step or two, but I'm quite tired so too lazy to fix it. Hopefully you get the picture. If not, simply think: Human being = immensely complicated = each person attracted to different traits = cannot force attraction if you do not possess certain traits that attract person X

3) Fortune favours the bold: Like I mentioned, I'm stuck at my mom's place, so I've been watching a lot of movies, and BBT (that **** is funny). Yes I know, it's only a movie, don't even dare say I cannot compare real life to a movie, that is not the point here. What I have noticed as a pattern in movies, and then I have extrapolated this to real life and it is still true, is that fortune favours the bold. The hero in the movie is always the one taking the biggest chance/biggest risk. Just like in real life, you must take chances/take risks. This will make you fall, but you must get up, try again, fall again, get up, fall again, etc. etc. etc. That is called learning and growing.

4) Learn to read the bloody signs: You had a date with the girl. You thought it went well. She even kissed you at the end, albeit it was a bit awkward. You feel like a champ. You text her 2-3 days later, all of a sudden she seems like she couldn't care less about you, and she ends up flaking. You give her another chance (I personaly usually give 2 chances, although again this is not a golden rule and I do make exceptions), and she flakes again... BAM! You go into analytical mode; what can I do to make her like me more, what message should I send, blablabla... This kind of links to #2, but it is more specific. For whatever reason you want, people will not always be honest with you.
Think about it: If your closest buddies/your family will tell you a white lie because either: A) They want to protect your feelings, or B) They feel too bad to tell you the truth face to face, what makes you think a total stranger wouldn't hesitate doing the same? Now add this to the fact that this girl in question must be dating/seeing countless of guys, one can assume she will often use white lies to save herself the headache of dealing with an over-dramatic reaction from all the guys she is seeing and realize she is not interested in. Take this for example:

I recently met a girl through an online website, and her pictures where very deceitful. She seemed like an 8/10, but IRL she was a troll. I decided I didn't want to waste money or my time on this date, so five minutes in I cancelled it. Did I tell her up front? **** no, I felt too bad. I was coming back from a Martial Arts class and used it as an excuse to say I felt like ****, nauseous and all, and had to go home.

Another example: A girl was simply way too clingy after I slept with her, and I decided to cut it off, but again I felt bad and wasn't 100% direct about it. I hinted a lot until she put the pieces together and got the message. It took a few days, but it ended happening

So if a man does it (I say that because many of you guys on here seem to firmly believe that men are superior to women), what stops a woman from doing it for the same reason?


There is much more, but now I'm actually getting tired so I'll stop here. If I get some reactions from this post when I'll have time I'll add a few extra items.

Cheers

 

[Stingers]

Good post

 

[Zarky]

Everyone who gives advice here should have to tell everyone how old they are, how many chicks they've slept with, and how long it's been since they lost their virginity.

And if they lie about any of those, they agree to be hunted down and castrated.

 

[BannedGod]

Everyone who gives advice here should have to tell everyone how old they are, how many chicks they've slept with, and how long it's been since they lost their virginity.

And if they lie about any of those, they agree to be hunted down and castrated.

Sup?

I like that post of yours on your blog:

So I’m pretty done with Sosuave.com. It’s the only “seduction” forum I’ve been a part of in years and it’s gotten quite awful, as they all tend to. There are essentially two or three types of posters. The first are old misogynist trolls who post several new threads a day along the lines of “Are all women stupid *****s?” The second are young noobs who post questions that have been answered a billion times. The following topics make my skin crawl:

1) There’s this one girl at school…

2) There’s this one girl at work…

3) There’s this one girl at the coffee shop…

Then of course there are teenagers who write up long posts attempting to “educate” the world with their vast knowledge of women but which just rehash 1000 bromides. Those might be the silliest.

The problem with the internet is that everyone has a voice, even those who don’t deserve one. I guess the worst part for me is that I’ll take time to post an interesting topic, or answer a question thoughtfully, and my post will either be misconstrued, attacked, trolled, or completely ignored. I feel like I’m casting pearls before swine and I’m just bored with the lack of quality thought there.

The upshot of all this is that over the next few weeks & months I’ll be looking back through my old posts there, fishing out anything I think might be interesting, and posting it here. If I feel it needs commentary I will provide it. Obviously there won’t be any discussion by others of it here, but by the time I post something online I’ve thought about it in so much depth that I don’t really believe any discussion is necessary. And furthermore, I’ve seen comments on internet blogs. They’re uniformly awful, perhaps worse than in forums. Which is why they’re not allowed here.

So this way I can at least have a record of the stuff I’ve posted over the past two years, and I might come to some insights about my own thoughts and behaviors in that time period.

I’d like to take my ideas and use them to springboard into advanced topics, but the inability of most folks to understand and process new ideas has heretofore prevented that. If there are any insights to be provided, looks like I’ll have to provide them myself.

In my next post I’ll talk about one insight that I already provided years ago, and which was only recently scientifically proven.

That would be another problem I was tempted to point out:

5) Philosophy is nice and all, but for God's sake, live life a little instead of analysing every.single.part of it: You saw X girl and she did Y thing under Z circumstance while there was a half-full moon during the third week of August, and she had told me that she had been through A, B, C but not D nor E, with a predisposition to F and G... What does Y mean!??!?!?!?!?!?! Seriously? Do you not see the issue with these constant questions!? Again, LIVE LIFE! Stop trying to rationalize everything, and like I said at #3, take some bloody chances. It's good to take advice from times to times, but no one can tell you with 100% accuracy what Y means, probably not even girl X. So why bother giving yourself the headache of a lifetime trying to figure it out? It's called 'go with the flow' for a reason. Live and learn people, you won't learn by theorizing everything but not putting it in practice out of fear of rejection and/or failure.

And yes I know it isn't all that easy, being an analytical person I do it way more than I should, but seriously, stop it.

 

[synergy1]

Everyone who gives advice here should have to tell everyone how old they are, how many chicks they've slept with, and how long it's been since they lost their virginity.

And if they lie about any of those, they agree to be hunted down and castrated.

Of course you'd have to subtract the number of women everyone has slept with becasue, like weight lifting, everyone lies about that kind of stuff. It would be a good idea to get ballpark though, because there is a lot of advice from people who probably should not be giving it. It drowns out the people who actually know what they are talking about - the loudest person usually knows the least..

 

[Mike32ct]

I care more about whether a guy is speaking from experience, rather than his exact count. You can tell this from their writing.

Sure, a guy with a high count AND lots of game experience is great to learn from. No question.

But be careful of a guy with ONLY a high count. I personally know a guy with a count of somewhere near 300. But I can't go to him for advice because the word "game" is not in his vocabulary. He's a very good looking guy who doesn't even really think about game or even believe in it. What he does isn't really teachable.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I care more about whether a guy is speaking from experience, rather than his exact count. You can tell this from their writing.

Sure, a guy with a high count AND lots of game experience is great to learn from. No question.

But be careful of a guy with ONLY a high count. I personally know a guy with a count of somewhere near 300. But I can't go to him for advice because the word "game" is not in his vocabulary. He's a very good looking guy who doesn't even really think about game or even believe in it. What he does isn't really teachable.

True indeed.

A normal guy who became wealthy can surely give better business suggestion than a millionaire who got the money through heritage.