a few lessons learnt if anybody is interested

[lordson]

okay im just going to reiterate a few things, becasue people always say this and say that, but without proof

"i dont want to be in a relastionship rite now" really does mean "i dont want to be in a relastionship with YOU"

becuase i got this and a couple of weeks later she did a flip and suddenly tells me how much she thinks of me and does want to be with me, and that was just an escuse before

Ignoring girls seems to work

i ignored her for a few days, and then she calls me and opens up her heart about how much she thinks about me and how good i make her feel, and how she had a dream where i hated her and she woke up crying

nice guy/AFC routine seems to work if youre going for an LTR
i was the nice guy, speaking my feeliongs, how much i cared about her, telling her what i liked about her, generally being charming and romantic

and after the LJBF, i didn't NEXT her liek so many of u suggested, but still hung out, still was charming and romantic, and eventually got her back

please dont post anything like "stfu idiot we already know", im jsut trying to give some more proof of things

 

[Dergz]

The method yu used worked well enuff for yo ass and im happy for yu, no, nobody's goin to say "stfu" or anyting like that. yu must remember that there's no absolutely 100% foolproof formula on how to get her IL to 100 it just depends on the chick, (and yo game) yu may be surprised that what yu did only works 4 times out of 10!

 

[Jariel]

I wish more people would speak from their personal experiences, like you have.

I'd generally advise against telling a girl you have feelings for her, but it worked for me once. I'd just been brushed off and LJBFd and with nothing to lose I opened up and told the girl how I felt. She said she felt the same and had left her bf to be with me, but wasn't ready at that time. The following day she told me she'd been thinking things out, she kissed me and we were involved for a month.

However, this behaviour didn't work out for long. When we first met, she idolized me, but after laying my cards on the table, she started to take me for granted until she dumped me.

 

[lordson]

so what would u guys suggest to keep her interrest levels up?

have a good mixture of affection and being-a-man?

today i think i did somethign stupid, i had all the power before when she sed that she wanted me, but then whilst we were kissing i stopped and sed "i dont want to loose you again just because you feel horny rite now" (she just had her period)

which hands her the power

and then she hugged me in a "aww... youre so shweet" manner

becuase before i was LJBF'ed we did get physical, and then she decided she didn't want anybody, i dont want the same thing to happen

what would u guys suggest i do? id like to keep a long LTR

 

[Dergz]

Keep it real dawg, it may be a li'l risky but i would suggest yu let go of everything and let her noe how yu truly feel (aww she noes that already doesn't she?) what u can do is to just let things flow on they own.
That way yu ain't got jack to lose, yu already said enuff to her to suggest yu're down for her ass, so i thinks yu gots to ride with the wave and leave the lovey dovey sht to her

 

[Emperiorjack]

Originally posted by Dergz
Keep it real dawg, it may be a li'l risky but i would suggest yu let go of everything and let her noe how yu truly feel (aww she noes that already doesn't she?) what u can do is to just let things flow on they own.
That way yu ain't got jack to lose, yu already said enuff to her to suggest yu're down for her ass, so i thinks yu gots to ride with the wave and leave the lovey dovey sht to her

Whatever you do DO NOT I repeat DO NOT do what this guy tells you. Girls have a tendacy to forget things or rationlize. You told her you didn't want to lose her. You should ignore her for a couple of days. This would get her thinking your not into her her much and basically erase the mistake you've made in the past. Just be more careful about what you say in the future Bro.

 

[Aaron B]

personally, I wouldn't express feelings until she has. Like if she says "I really like you" then you are free to say that to her if you wish. But don't say it back, wait until another time.

In my experience, men attempt to escalate the relationship sexually while women attempt to escalate it emotionally/romantically.

You telling her you have feelings for her right off the bat is like a girl telling you she wants to sleep with you right off the bat. You aren't going to view her the same way you would if she just acted cool and friendly with you. You will view her more as someone you can use and abuse at your whim.

Edit:
Hmm, just noticed this post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=84660

Which backs up the last part of my post

 

[Dergz]

Originally posted by Emperiorjack
Whatever you do DO NOT I repeat DO NOT do what this guy tells you. Girls have a tendacy to forget things or rationlize. You told her you didn't want to lose her. You should ignore her for a couple of days. This would get her thinking your not into her her much and basically erase the mistake you've made in the past. Just be more careful about what you say in the future Bro.

Caution: Before making any remarks/comments read carefully.
Yu obviously didn't get the sense of what i was sayin, the chick told him she was down right? or at least she showed signs of it. so what im basically sayin is that the brother should just let thingz flow and act normaly while the chick has sleepless nights thinkin about his ass.

Read carefuly next time, or else wear glasses

 

[frivolousz21]

lets set this straight?

you are guys are afraid to express your feelings for her..in fear she might leave you? or lose interest.

its not like that.

she loses interest because your not being a man.

you can tell her the sweetest things ever and be a man and she will love u more for it.

you can do the same without the same confidence and look weak.

 

[DrBeard]

Why dont ya just cut off ya balls and give em to her?

 

[lordson]

i can see what hes saying, be a man but still be charming/ramatic/sweet

its all about attitude isn't it? you can't say stuff in a wimpy sort of way or itll sound wimpy

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by lordson
i can see what hes saying, be a man but still be charming/ramatic/sweet

its all about attitude isn't it? you can't say stuff in a wimpy sort of way or itll sound wimpy

Actually, if you tend to say stuff in a wimpy sort of way, you should make it so that you do not naturally say stuff in a wimpy sort of way. It's pretty simple really. You probably have plenty of ideas what not to do and shyt. If it's that bad, you get it out of your system. If you can't, then you've got a problem of trying to change the things that you are not compelled to change.

I say fvck it. If you think it right, then it is right. If it's not right for her, then fvck it. Do you seriously believe that you can please every girl without having to put on a different act for each of them? It's pretty obvious that you can get girls in many different ways. And you can lose them in many different ways too. Win or lose, wouldn't it be so much easier on your mental state to just go with your flow?

All those little meaningless things that you nitpick at isn't gonna help. If you want to spend your time analysing things to better your game, you'll do much better focusing on the more important things. Like having a life outside of girls, being physically fit, have lots of friends and do lots of things. Wondering about how many times you should call and whether what you just said is going to ruin anything to me just seems like you're thinking about it a little too much. Which kinda means you have lost control already.

Don't worry though, even I fall into that trap once in a while.