A fatal mistake has led to a loss of the power

[Kal_Luke]

I've been using my DJ skills to get in there with a 32 year old woman- I'm 24 last night. I'd done a good job we've been sleeping with each other for the last month. Last night she was meant to pick me up from work. I live about 30 miles away (we did not meet on the internet) well she couldn't get me because her car broke down the same day. Well I arrived quite late knowing I'd have to leave early. Well she had made me dinner and it was something I hated. I feigned pleasure at it but she kept pressing me for my opinion on it til I told the truth. Then later there was an incident where she was annoying me just for the sake of it and I got a bit grumpy. So this morning I text her saying 'sorry I was an ass' she said she 100% agreed that I was and is considering shutting things down. What do I do? I was considering just not comtacting her until she gets in touch. She is going out with her friends tonight and they will certainly encourage her to shut things down as women hate men lol

 

[Mr Wright]

Women dont hate men.

But just think about it from the abundance mentality. If you had 7 smoking hot chicks on the go, would you give a crap? would you even call her again? just wait, if the sex was good enough, she'll come running back

 

[LE6END]

I've been using my DJ skills to get in there with a 32 year old woman- I'm 24 last night. I'd done a good job we've been sleeping with each other for the last month. Last night she was meant to pick me up from work. I live about 30 miles away (we did not meet on the internet) well she couldn't get me because her car broke down the same day. Well I arrived quite late knowing I'd have to leave early. Well she had made me dinner and it was something I hated. I feigned pleasure at it but she kept pressing me for my opinion on it til I told the truth. Then later there was an incident where she was annoying me just for the sake of it and I got a bit grumpy. So this morning I text her saying 'sorry I was an ass' she said she 100% agreed that I was and is considering shutting things down. What do I do? I was considering just not comtacting her until she gets in touch. She is going out with her friends tonight and they will certainly encourage her to shut things down as women hate men lol

When she re-asserted your mistake, i.e-- stuffed your face in sh.it. for a light temper flare she ignited, it illustrates various points of concern.
She hadn't said, "It's okay; we all lose our temper sometime." or, "Don't worry about it babe, i was a being a little annoying." etc.

She gripped the back of your head, and forced your face into a pile of sh.it.

FLAG.

A girl who dismisses your mistake immediately is trying to difuse potential dissention before it has any time to evolve----she geniunely cares about the integrity of the relationship, and wants the steady stream of romance and tolerance to continue flowing between you two..

A girl who doesn't accept your apology, nor throws it away, but re-emphasizes how you treated her wrongly, is a girl who wants attention and to feel like she's the innocent and perfect one in the relationship---you should appreciate having the opportunity to rest in her presence, and not mess things up. This is her thinking.

Boss, I've dealt with this type of female, and IF you don't cater to this any longer beyond that text, she isn't shutting down sh.it. She's phishing for more apologies, and seeing how long she can have you drag on your knees, chasing for her forgiveness before she gets bored and does.

You haven't killed anything; you're good. A little lose of emotional control, but that's about the only thing you lost. You turn over power to her if you keep trying to seek her forgiveness.. Next time she brings it up, AND SHE WILL, stand your ground,

"Look, I apologized. You can forgive me, or not forgive me. The choice is yours. We can move past this, or call it right here." Be indifferent about it. And if she's putting on a front, as I believe she is, she'll snap out of it immediately and be surprised you aren't afraid to put the relationship on the line.

 

[Kal_Luke]

Well she said it's shut down. Used the old 'got a lot going on in my life. Don't want a relationship' there is a lot of truth in it but it never bothered her before. I am most disatisfied by this turn of events. Damn.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

You slept with her so your good.

Charge her ass to the game and learn from your mistakes.

Don't text her, Don't call her, Delete her number. If she ever hits you up (Which she probably will) just ask 'Who is this?'.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

This is easy. She wants you to apologize, and to pursue her even more to validade her old ass. If she wants to shut down tell her it´s better anyway (she won´t expect that), cause she doesn´t fit your criteria.

When she asks why, you tell her she is too old.

If you have the balls to do this of course . I´ll guarantee she´ll come back more submissive than ever..

 

[Kal_Luke]

Well it's all resolved now. Damn she was a good one. The gist if it was I was a fantast DJ for about a month and then this one time I wasn't perfect made it obvious that she didn't wanna be in a relationship because I behaved like a complacent boyfriend. Ah well. Number is now erased and all records of her deleted. I have a date with my **** buddy on thursday night. This one is charged to the game

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Well it's all resolved now. Damn she was a good one. The gist if it was I was a fantast DJ for about a month and then this one time I wasn't perfect made it obvious that she didn't wanna be in a relationship because I behaved like a complacent boyfriend. Ah well. Number is now erased and all records of her deleted. I have a date with my **** buddy on thursday night. This one is charged to the game

Keep this mentality, You will stay in some draws. Trust me.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Man, sorry about your loss of poon. Look to women your own age. I can't stand bitter old women my age.

 

[DonGorgon]

You slept with her so your good.

Charge her ass to the game and learn from your mistakes.

Don't text her, Don't call her, Delete her number. If she ever hits you up (Which she probably will) just ask 'Who is this?'.

no... when she hits you up you must tell her to com to you place and F her brains out then tell her you are busy.. she will be hooked again if you do it right

 

[Kal_Luke]

The thing about this woman is that she uses reason and logic to make decisions, which makes her difficult to manipulate without blatantly lying. She told me on the phone not to contact her as it will be easier to have a clean break. I doubt I'll hear from her again. She was a seriously good catch be things seemed to break down from perfect to break up within 12 hours. She was an amazing woman and it'll be a long while before I meet another like her- haha guess I'll have to play the numbers game ****ing a whole bunch to one shows up

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

no... when she hits you up you must tell her to com to you place and F her brains out then tell her you are busy.. she will be hooked again if you do it right

You say this after you hit her with the who is this..

 

[DonGorgon]

You say this after you hit her with the who is this..

lol no cause "who is this" will piss her off in a big way and she may cut u off..lol

 

[Kal_Luke]

Hmmm. I don't think it is gonna end up being an issue. She is too powerful. By her behaviour she clearly subscribes to a 1 strike and you're out rule. I am not pleased by this at all but I guess I can sleep about now

 

[JdelaSilviera]

Kal Luke, most women are very weak, though they like to appear otherwise. She is NOT powerful, if you show you don´t care I´ll she´ll come after you. It´s so guaranteed....

 

[Zunder]

Never say sorry.

 

[joverby]

I'd say there is a chance she will. But I don't think every girl comes running back because the guy doesn't beg for them back. Some might, some might not.

I was secretly hoping my current ex was going to for me. Broke up about two weeks ago. The only groveling I did to her was the night we broke up. Last thing I sent was a text asking her to "change her mind" blah blah blah...She just told me to stop, she still loved me but it wouldn't be the same..w/e

Since then I have ceased contact, except a couple random comments on her facebook. Regretabley, but they were harmless / fun.

 

[Kal_Luke]

It's tough not to just break down and become a wretch who shows up at her house with flowers and the like but I'll be cool. I never should have responded when she first told me she was breaking off. I'm quiet now though, but I'm not waiting for her to call, I'd not be a DJ if I was.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

I'd say there is a chance she will. But I don't think every girl comes running back because the guy doesn't beg for them back. Some might, some might not.

I was secretly hoping my current ex was going to for me. Broke up about two weeks ago. The only groveling I did to her was the night we broke up. Last thing I sent was a text asking her to "change her mind" blah blah blah...She just told me to stop, she still loved me but it wouldn't be the same..w/e

Since then I have ceased contact, except a couple random comments on her facebook. Regretabley, but they were harmless / fun.

Joverby, I´m not talking about 2 weeks. Any girl can handle two weeks of no contact, I´m telling you a period of 3+weeks that even can reach 6 months.

With your text, you did a very bad mistake...

 

[Kal_Luke]

It might not happen at all joverby. Rise up and live and don't go one facebook