"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OK, I usually never post stupid questions like this (in recent years at least)but it's something I want clarity on to improve my game. It happens alot and I need some 'mature' opinions on this matter.

I get unprovoked messages on my facebook wall of a girls simply writing, "Heeeeeeyyyyyyy" and nothing else. However when I write something back on their wall I never get another response. This has happened like 5 times int he past 2 months and it's ****ing annoying.
I know there is a reason they're writing on my wall and I think if they were attentions *****s they'd at least do a little back and forth banter before bailing. Most of these girls were mutual acquiantances who for some reason or another I lost contact with.

I usually write back something attraction phase game based but they don't respond. Generally something situationally based to get the ball rolling like, "Hey Gangsta, I see the cops haven't found you yet. Fight the power!" (The cops broke up a part we were at and she jumped in a car and bailed).

Some thoughts on what's going on:

-They want me to PM them and start gaming them privately: which I haven't done yet
-They want lots of people writing messages back on their wall so they look popular (ok, maybe some AW qualities)
-They're drunk and on facebook and embarrased about doing that and don't want to respond.

Anyone wanna help a brotha out?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Have you ever seen a girl's Facebook homepage from her own account? If you haven't, just visit a female friend / relative and ask her to show it to you. Even the most average looking chick gets a bazillion friends requests, wall messages, private messages, photo tags and event invites (not to mention all those stupid apps & games) whenever she visits her Facebook. If it's a cute or, gord forbids, hot girl, then it's just unfvckingbelievable. It makes every girl an attention wh0re.

Don't bother trying to communicate on Facebook, and if you do, don't expect them to answer any time soon. Your best chance is probably to catch them on Facebook Chat, do a little banter and get the number ASAP, or pick some event that they're going to, meet in person and take it from there.
 

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thefonz said:
OK, I usually never post stupid questions like this (in recent years at least)but it's something I want clarity on to improve my game. It happens alot and I need some 'mature' opinions on this matter.

I get unprovoked messages on my facebook wall of a girls simply writing, "Heeeeeeyyyyyyy" and nothing else. However when I write something back on their wall I never get another response. This has happened like 5 times int he past 2 months and it's ****ing annoying.
I know there is a reason they're writing on my wall and I think if they were attentions *****s they'd at least do a little back and forth banter before bailing. Most of these girls were mutual acquiantances who for some reason or another I lost contact with.

I usually write back something attraction phase game based but they don't respond. Generally something situationally based to get the ball rolling like, "Hey Gangsta, I see the cops haven't found you yet. Fight the power!" (The cops broke up a part we were at and she jumped in a car and bailed).

Some thoughts on what's going on:

-They want me to PM them and start gaming them privately: which I haven't done yet
-They want lots of people writing messages back on their wall so they look popular (ok, maybe some AW qualities)
-They're drunk and on facebook and embarrased about doing that and don't want to respond.

Anyone wanna help a brotha out?
I consider myself an expert (HA!) at this facebook wall bullshyt since 98% of the posts on my wall are from girls who initiated the posting.

If they are just writing shyt like "heeeeeeeeyyyyy" and don't write back to you after you message them with something decent, then it simply means #2 on your list. Period. I've had the same shyt written on my wall by chicks...and with some of them i saw them writing the same mindless shyt on other peopls walls. I usually never respond. Or if anything, I'll just say somethin really outrageous...just to keep things interesting and see what can come out of it. However, if they do want to talk to u, and they happen to be writing that "heeyyy" stuff, looking at your example of what you wrote on one persons wall...i would say you have pretty weak messages. Kinda dorky sounding. And there's nothing really to say back to what you wrote.

I had a recent posting by some chick who said I was looking very good, and asking me where i've been all year since she hasn't heard from me or seen me. I privately messaged her some plans, and she agreed to them. Bam.
 

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Jitterbug said:
Don't bother trying to communicate on Facebook, and if you do, don't expect them to answer any time soon. Your best chance is probably to catch them on Facebook Chat, do a little banter and get the number ASAP, or pick some event that they're going to, meet in person and take it from there.

Agreed. That is typically how I would get laid on myspace - take the interaction off myspace asap.
 
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You're in BOSTON? That's where I was raised!!! Playboy, listen......have you heard about my book?

This is (many times) the equivalent of girls "opening" you. Yes, true, a good number of them are being attention *****s and may only seek a a cluttered wall from "thirsty" (desperate) guys. It feeds their ego. However, even that can work to your advantage.

My advice: MILK IT. On my facebook profile, females have had "Wall Wars", like:

Leslie: “Hey Flyness, you look great in that suit”
Sarah: “What have YOU been up to, sexy?”
Leslie: “I think I’m getting a Facebook divorce from you, since you don’t call me anymore!!!”
Sarah: “Heeeeeyyy, are we hanging out this weekend?”


It's a passive aggressive way they are trying to get at you and compete with each other. Just reply in a nonchalant way. If you get a "Heeyy", reply with a "hey babe ;)" on her wall. Nothing too extravagant. You'll look like a playboy. If she's cute, shoot her a personal message, engage in a 4-5 exchange dialogue and take it offline.

I go into this in extreme detail in "From MySpace to My Place". Check out the book in the sig! Peace!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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