A DJing Refinement - smart girls

[00Kevin]

Damn, I recently met a very smart woman and after having a few dates with her and meeting her for coffee a few times, I found it very hard establish a connection.

This woman actually complained at one point that I wasn't engaging her in a deep conversation. She said that most of what I talked about was fluff! I was shocked at this. She was correct though, most of the stuff I talk about with women is not deep at all. I do that on purpose to be C+F. This works for every HB I’ve dated, but not this one. I guess it’s because most girls are not intellectual they are emotional.

Since then I’ve tried to engage her a little more with some complex conversations. Surprisingly, she is showing more interest because of it.

I’m starting to realize that a woman’s Intellect is major factor in how you DJ her. Smart girls express themselves differently and they react to things in a different way.

Regardless the 4 basic steps still apply.

1)Comfort
2)Connection
3)Excitement
4)Arousal

1. The comfort stage is really easy. You don’t even have to try with a smart girl.

2. For the connection part you have to engage her mind and make an effort to talk about something complex. Like all women; however, you should let her do the talking and make her think by asking her questions. If you do this right you can lead her mind and she will be impressed by you. These kinds of women like to think that they are smarter than they are because it is usually the only thing they have going for them.

3. The excitement part also has to display a degree of intelligence. These women will often hide behind words and not tell you something straight up. Showing her that you can call her on her diplomatic statements will impress and excite her; after all, men don’t hide being pleasantries. When you do this, she will think that you are capable of understanding her complex mind. This will make her happy because she won’t have to be blunt about things with you.

4. The Arousal part is really easy with a smart girl. It is my option that Smart girls are mostly repressed nymphos. You just have to mention sex and they get excited. One girl i talked to got so charged she start ripping up pieces of paper.

In light of my recent experiences, I’m starting to realize that there are different techniques required for each type of girl.

 

[00Kevin]

Re: Re: A DJing Refinement - smart girls

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
In my experience this is very true. Hot smart girls with class is where it's at.

Nice TIP. (wink wink mods)

well I should of added that you don't want to over do it with a smart girl. You have to realize that you should only briefly mention something sexual with her. don't ask a smart girl a dumb question like, "do you like giving head?". She will not be impressed. The last thing you want to do is push her too hard in a sexual direction. It will be too much for her to handle.
when he topic does come up just say something like, "the last girl I did that too started shaking and she grabbed the bed posts. hmm.. i never thought that could happen. " play dumb about it too.

 

[ShortyBrown]

In light of my recent experiences, I’m starting to realize that there are different techniques required for each type of girl

Well no s-hit.

don't ask a smart girl a dumb question like, "do you like giving head?". She will not be impressed. The last thing you want to do is push her too hard in a sexual direction. It will be too much for her to handle.

No, we won't be. However the actual question is, when you do get her to the bedroom, will you be able to handle it?

when he topic does come up just say something like, "the last girl I did that too started shaking and she grabbed the bed posts. hmm.. i never thought that could happen. " play dumb about it too

If you think that a smart girl can't see through that kind of dumb arse bravado, you're not really hitting on a smart girl at all.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
Well no s-hit.

No, we won't be. However the actual question is, when you do get her to the bedroom, will you be able to handle it?

If you think that a smart girl can't see through that kind of dumb arse bravado, you're not really hitting on a smart girl at all.

lol..
well.. rough sex is the way to go with smart girls. yes I do think that .. and yes they can see through it, but it doesn't matter it still gets them horney.

You must consider yourself to be a smart girl or you wouldn't of replied to this. cute

 

[00Kevin]

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[ShortyBrown]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
lol..
well.. rough sex is the way to go with smart girls. yes I do think that .. and yes they can see through it, but it doesn't matter it still gets them horney.

You must consider yourself to be a smart girl or you wouldn't of replied to this. cute

Nothin' like a little chair breakin' action .....but not all the time. And yes, I am cute.

 

[Wyldfire]

You can talk about sex with smart women, but you need to be clever, witty and be able to use symbolism and innuendo to turn her on. If you want to stimulate women like this your best bet is to attempt to stimulate them intellectually and sexually at the same time. Men who do this well and the smart woman is also physically attracted to him...well, he'll have her totally entralled in everything he says. Unfortunately, men like that are a rarity.

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

Whatever you do, don't pretend to be smart. I dated some girl back in my college days who was majoring in biogenetics. I still really have no clue what the hell a biogeneticis does, nor do i really care.

You can pretend, just don't go to far. Esp as the years go by and your in that beginning career stage, if your dating a reseach microbiologist or a lawyer or anybody that has some sort of brains on their shoulders, don't go and pretend like you know everything.

While this might work with some girls, it usually just makes you look lame. I had a friend who thought he knew everything. THis girl he dated, her father was a doctor, and one day some conversation came up while we were all hanging out and my friend, like he always did, got pissed off and starts shouting, I KNOW WHAT I"M TALKING ABOUT, I WENT TO MEDICAL SCHOOL.

The guy never even went to college, but he was a good talker.

Anyway, the girl just got bored of his act. If she's really a smart girl, lying about things you know usually makes you look a lot lamer and more stupid then you think.

If she's an analytical chemist, ask her about it, but don't pretend you know everything about it if you have no clue what it is. Good to show interest, not good to pretend your some know it all who actually looks like a fool.

it's easy to catch. If you have no clue about something, other people tend to make up stuff that really isn't there. And wow, you fall for it everytime. Just dont pretend your smart.

 

[chlywly]

This is very true, tis why you really have to pay attention to the caliber of woman you go for.. A classy, educated, down to earth, ((wise)) cultured woman; would not play mind games with you and not be such an easy lay... You have to stimulate their minds, not just their emotions

This is the type of woman I look for.

 

[Mr. Fingers]

If you are smart yourself, you can banter with her a bit and impress her with your brains. But dont get caught up in a one-dimensional conversation, for you must tune into the woman behind the intellect!

Option #1 - C&F

Accuse her of trying to impress you with her intelligence. Wait for her to make an intellectual comment and then drop something like...

"MHmm..interesting...(thoughtful pause) so tell me...do you always try to impress everyone with your intelligence? Or just the guys you´re attracted to?"

Option #2 - Neg

Hit her with a backhanded compliment...

"Wow. You know first impressions are misleading (pause for reaction) When I first saw you I thought to myself ´This girl is a probably just another bimbo´ but now, talking to you I see that you are this totally intelligent person with a lot to say. Do people often underestimate you like this?"

1. She wont be able to believe you had the balls to say that
2. She will wonder why she comes off like a ditz and qualify herself to you.
3. You show her that looks dont impress you and that you have high standards.
4. You just opened the conversation into a more common playing field (people/relationships)

Then you can move into more qualifying stuff afterwards

"So, what else do you have going for you?"

Treat her as if she is on an interview, you are the big boss and you are not quite sure if she has the job just yet.

In general. people appreciate the things they feel they have earned!

btw - You are 100% right Double-O Kevin,
No two girls are exactly the same, but deep down they all want a man!

 

[Mr. Fingers]

woops. darn double post!

 

[Imbrondir]

"Wow. You know first impressions are misleading (pause for reaction) When I first saw you I thought to myself ´This girl is a probably just another bimbo´ but now, talking to you I see that you are this totally intelligent person with a lot to say. Do people often underestimate you like this?"

Haha, I remember dating a smart girl. She loved to talk about herself. Then it got an interesting turn:
She: [Something about how she first thought about me]
She: How about you?
Imbrondir: I thought you were a girl just interested in sex

I was so surprised at the reaction. She panicked, and tried as hard as possible to recover herself. Completly in my mercy .

 

[Don Ronny]

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
That's called a Pause-Hit!

Heh, You just love to make up your own terminology dont you?

Thats pretty good, except Fingers example was a neg, because he basically said she looked like a bimbo. Your "Pause" hit had no NEGative to it. Of course its all semantics but I wanted to clarify because alot of these guys have no clue what a neg really is.

Sort of a compliment and insult put together.

 

[Bonhomme]

My kind of woman

This woman actually complained at one point that I wasn't engaging her in a deep conversation. She said that most of what I talked about was fluff!

You lucky dog! Even most of the smart gals I encounter seem to want nothing but fluff talk.

 

[00Kevin]

Re: My kind of woman

Originally posted by Bonhomme
You lucky dog! Even most of the smart gals I encounter seem to want nothing but fluff talk.

oh believe me dating girly girls for a while has really messed up my game with the sophisticated smart girl.

As an update to this thread, I got some action on friday night ! yep yep.. what a nympho.. i just woke up today (sat) at 5:20 pm.

I suggested that we rent a movie on thurs and watch it at her place. she called me back on firday and suggested two movies. I went to her condo (yeah she lives alone and owns her own place very impressive) and we didn't finish watching the second one.

she told me all night that i was a great guy .. and the list goes on.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
You can talk about sex with smart women, but you need to be clever, witty and be able to use symbolism and innuendo to turn her on.

this is so true.

If you want to stimulate women like this your best bet is to attempt to stimulate them intellectually and sexually at the same time. Men who do this well and the smart woman is also physically attracted to him...well, he'll have her totally entralled in everything he says. Unfortunately, men like that are a rarity.

as is this. if you can't stimulate my mind then you probaly won't have a chance at stimulating anything else. some men will NEVER get this.

 

[Don Ronny]

Originally posted by iqqi
if you can't stimulate my mind then you probaly won't have a chance at stimulating anything else. some men will NEVER get this.

arent you the same chick who tried to seduce some dumbass who was spreading rumors about you? Heh, this is why I always take female advice with a HUGE chunk of salt.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Don Ronny
arent you the same chick who tried to seduce some dumbass who was spreading rumors about you? Heh, this is why I always take female advice with a HUGE chunk of salt.

HEY! i never said he was dumb!

and i was using him, kinda like fcuk 10 HB's to get over oneitis???? am i entitled to that?

 

[Don Ronny]

Its not a question of entitlement, icky

Nor am I saying that you dont find intelligence attractive. But just look at the patterns of your responses on this forum. Guys that agree with you and say all these wonderful insightful things get ignored while the sonsabytches who challenge you and say you are full of shiat end up getting your undivided attention.

Hell, its the only reason you felt compelled to reply to my post..just admit it and move on honey. You can talk all this jazz about smart men but you know and I know that it is more than brains. Seems like all a guy has to do to get your attention is talk badly about you or just challenge your sanity. Yes I know you are crazy. Its okay. really

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Don Ronny
Guys that agree with you and say all these wonderful insightful things get ignored while the sonsabytches who challenge you and say you are full of shiat end up getting your undivided attention.

this is what i don't understand. 1st of all what are you basing this on? not all of my posts i am sure because i give props ALL THE TIME.

i don't understand why you think i should respond to someone who AGREES. i am not IGNORING them. i read what they said, as did everyone else. why would i post to EVERY SINGLE PERSON? and why does that offend you so? i post to questions or veiwpoints i wish to understand better. i am sorry if i ever offended you by "ignoring" you. but get over it. (oops, bet that p!ssed you off. now you are going to call me flakey and next me, ahahhhhahah)

some of you guys need to quit taking everything so seriously. get a sense of humor.