Hi, I've been hanging out with this girlfriend of mine for more than a year now, it's all great but one thing troubles me consistently. She has a personality of 9/10 or 10/10 (she really has all the important traits you would want in a girl) but her looks is 7/10 or 6/10 (depends on a day). I see many gorgeous ladies all the time, they're often like 9/10 or so and I feel like hitting on them but I don't cause of my g/f. The thing is, I really love her, sex is great too, we have a lot of fun together but you see, her looks doesn't satisfy me 100%. I thought that this feeling would vanish as the time passes but it didn't. Maybe some of you had similar problem already? What should I do
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
A dilemma
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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This is what REALLY matters when you're in a LTR with a woman.
Here's a sad reality to think about... ALL women's looks will go downhill at some point in time. They get older, more wrinkled, their butt sags, their boobs stretch, they gain weight, etc etc etc.
If you pursue one of those good looking women for a LTR solely based on her looks, they will eventually go downhill. If her personality is 5hit, then you'll have absolutely no reason to stay with her.
It all depends on what you want at this point in your life. If you're looking to be with a woman for the long haul, the personality is what will really matter and will eventually be the only thing left keeping you attracted to her.
However, if you're only wanting to go out and have fun with attractive women, date whoever you want. If you're not ready to be in a LTR, then you shouldn't be in one.
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The fact is you are not totally satisfied in this relationship so you should end it you don’t want to spend the next few years of your life in an unfulfilling relationship. I always said personality is important but looks are to, if you need a pretty face to be happy then good for you. Don’t cheat on your GF just breakup with her it’s the healthiest thing you can do right now……RSST said:
RedPill
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What is your age?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.