As you know 99% of this forum is about HOW TO get a girl. Getting the girl is the easy part, anyone can do it and it does not take a DJ to do so. However, what does take the skills of a DJ is keeping a girl in a sucessful LTR. It is this that I hope to address in my post.
How did you get your girl? ****y? Funny? Confident? Lack of attention? Jerk? The list of adjectives can go on and on. But it most likely by a combition of the above that got you the girl you have today. Ok, so now you have her...NOW WHAT?
Being in an LTR can be a real challenge, exciting, and rewarding. So, without any further adeu lets see what goes in to the making of an LTR...
1) TRUST This is perhaps the most important element of the relationship. The ability to have an unquestionable trust between you. The Dictionary defines trust as, "Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person." To be able to rely on your girl to have be able to rely on you, with out the other having doubt or question. You need to be secure and comfortable in the relationship and with that comes the next element.
2) COMMUNICATION To have an open and free communication is key. Be able to tell her what is on your mind, what is bothering you, what you like and dislike, and most of all, what you want. It is imperative that she do the same to you. Have an open communication link will reinforce the trust and will strengthen and further secure your relationship. Sometimes communicating your thoughts and/or feelings will be hard and can even be a little demeaning, but in the long run it will help by building respect and a strong postive bond, of which brings the third element.
3) FRIENDSHIP Friendship is all to often forgotten about during dating and during relationships. Remember just who this person is who you are having a relationship with. She is the person whom your are crazy about. Supposedly. Not only are the two of you in a LTR, but you are friends, great friends! You should be each others sidekick, comrade, amigo/a, friend, you name it. Having a friendship will lead to unshakable trust and strong open communciation.
4)SUPPORT LTR's are a lot about support for one another. By that I do not mean an emotional tampon, but simple support. Say your girl loves to sing...has a passion for it, but you cant stand it. So what, swallow your pride. It is something that she likes to do, something that is important and have value to her, support her the way you would want her to support you in the sports competition. You need to give to receive.
5)SYNERGIZE Synergize! Synergize! Synergize is working with one another to accomplish a task or goal. No matter how well you think the two of you are meant for each other or how much you think you have in common, you will still have differences of opinion, wants, and ideas, ect. ect. The act of synergizing is meant to act somewhat like a compromise, but working together so that you are happy and she is happy. It can be brainstorming to come up with a fun alternative that you both enjoy. Again, communication is important. Work together to solve your differences!
6)RESPECT Have a good sense of respect between you. If she says no....well, NO. Respect it. She should do the same for you. Also and very importantly, respect her space. Dont crowd her, be moderate. Most importantly...DO NOT CENTER AROUND HER! This is all too easy to do in a LTR. Respect her beliefs, morals, and values. She must do the same to you also.
The list is jus the very beginning to being in an LTR. As you can see, I did not go into any great detail about the 6 elements as you can do that on your own if you are truly interested. However, you must never forget, you still are a DJ and you MUST NOT LOSE THAT BELIEF NOR THOSE CHARACTERISTICS!
Be confident
Be ****y
Be funny
Be relaxed
Be carefree
BE A DJ, but a trustworthy, communactive, friendly, supportive, synergetical, and respectful DJ. A tone down your carefree and ****yness a few notches. Actually take the time out to sincerely listen to her and what she has to say because she does matter to you.
Sano
How did you get your girl? ****y? Funny? Confident? Lack of attention? Jerk? The list of adjectives can go on and on. But it most likely by a combition of the above that got you the girl you have today. Ok, so now you have her...NOW WHAT?
Being in an LTR can be a real challenge, exciting, and rewarding. So, without any further adeu lets see what goes in to the making of an LTR...
1) TRUST This is perhaps the most important element of the relationship. The ability to have an unquestionable trust between you. The Dictionary defines trust as, "Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person." To be able to rely on your girl to have be able to rely on you, with out the other having doubt or question. You need to be secure and comfortable in the relationship and with that comes the next element.
2) COMMUNICATION To have an open and free communication is key. Be able to tell her what is on your mind, what is bothering you, what you like and dislike, and most of all, what you want. It is imperative that she do the same to you. Have an open communication link will reinforce the trust and will strengthen and further secure your relationship. Sometimes communicating your thoughts and/or feelings will be hard and can even be a little demeaning, but in the long run it will help by building respect and a strong postive bond, of which brings the third element.
3) FRIENDSHIP Friendship is all to often forgotten about during dating and during relationships. Remember just who this person is who you are having a relationship with. She is the person whom your are crazy about. Supposedly. Not only are the two of you in a LTR, but you are friends, great friends! You should be each others sidekick, comrade, amigo/a, friend, you name it. Having a friendship will lead to unshakable trust and strong open communciation.
4)SUPPORT LTR's are a lot about support for one another. By that I do not mean an emotional tampon, but simple support. Say your girl loves to sing...has a passion for it, but you cant stand it. So what, swallow your pride. It is something that she likes to do, something that is important and have value to her, support her the way you would want her to support you in the sports competition. You need to give to receive.
5)SYNERGIZE Synergize! Synergize! Synergize is working with one another to accomplish a task or goal. No matter how well you think the two of you are meant for each other or how much you think you have in common, you will still have differences of opinion, wants, and ideas, ect. ect. The act of synergizing is meant to act somewhat like a compromise, but working together so that you are happy and she is happy. It can be brainstorming to come up with a fun alternative that you both enjoy. Again, communication is important. Work together to solve your differences!
6)RESPECT Have a good sense of respect between you. If she says no....well, NO. Respect it. She should do the same for you. Also and very importantly, respect her space. Dont crowd her, be moderate. Most importantly...DO NOT CENTER AROUND HER! This is all too easy to do in a LTR. Respect her beliefs, morals, and values. She must do the same to you also.
The list is jus the very beginning to being in an LTR. As you can see, I did not go into any great detail about the 6 elements as you can do that on your own if you are truly interested. However, you must never forget, you still are a DJ and you MUST NOT LOSE THAT BELIEF NOR THOSE CHARACTERISTICS!
Be confident
Be ****y
Be funny
Be relaxed
Be carefree
BE A DJ, but a trustworthy, communactive, friendly, supportive, synergetical, and respectful DJ. A tone down your carefree and ****yness a few notches. Actually take the time out to sincerely listen to her and what she has to say because she does matter to you.
Sano
