This girl and I are both connected through facebook and have known each other for a few months. She has always shown strong signs of interest in me, but I never made a move because I had a girlfriend. I'm now single and she knows this.
A couple of weeks ago, we both agreed we should meet for drinks, and she gave me her number. It was understood that I would call her to set the date. Aside from her hectic schedule, her grand-father (with whom she's quite close), became gravelly ill and was essentially on his death bed. In the midst of this, she sent me a facebook message explaining the situation and apologizing for not calling me back. She was basically spending time with him and her family at the hospital. She told me she would call me soon.
Here's where I think I made mistakes.
Mistake #1 (see underlined). My reply to her was something along the lines of "sorry to hear about your grand-father, take all the time you need to deal with these difficult times, there's no rush, etc." This was at least a week ago. She hasn't called since but, through her facebook, I found out her grand-father died a couple of days ago.
Mistake #2.
Yesterday, she sent an e-mail to the people who showed her support (including me), announcing her grand-father had passed away and thanking us all for everything. I thought that if I didn't reply, it would seem a bit cold of me, and if I did reply it might seem needy. I ended up replying today with one sentence expressing my condolences and telling her to take care.
She hasn't called yet. Her grand-father's funeral was at least 2 days ago. She has been active on facebook today, so she obviously has a bit of free time.
Do you think I gave her the impression I'm too available by telling her to take all the time she needs?
I'm just trying to learn from my mistakes here. I judge a girl by her actions, not her words. And so far, I've only heard and seen words from her, although she does seem to have an understandable excuse for not calling.
p.s.: I should disclose that I waited 9 days after getting her number before attempting to call her. I'm starting to wonder if she interpreted this as a lack of interest on my part.
A couple of weeks ago, we both agreed we should meet for drinks, and she gave me her number. It was understood that I would call her to set the date. Aside from her hectic schedule, her grand-father (with whom she's quite close), became gravelly ill and was essentially on his death bed. In the midst of this, she sent me a facebook message explaining the situation and apologizing for not calling me back. She was basically spending time with him and her family at the hospital. She told me she would call me soon.
Here's where I think I made mistakes.
Mistake #1 (see underlined). My reply to her was something along the lines of "sorry to hear about your grand-father, take all the time you need to deal with these difficult times, there's no rush, etc." This was at least a week ago. She hasn't called since but, through her facebook, I found out her grand-father died a couple of days ago.
Mistake #2.
Yesterday, she sent an e-mail to the people who showed her support (including me), announcing her grand-father had passed away and thanking us all for everything. I thought that if I didn't reply, it would seem a bit cold of me, and if I did reply it might seem needy. I ended up replying today with one sentence expressing my condolences and telling her to take care.
She hasn't called yet. Her grand-father's funeral was at least 2 days ago. She has been active on facebook today, so she obviously has a bit of free time.
Do you think I gave her the impression I'm too available by telling her to take all the time she needs?
I'm just trying to learn from my mistakes here. I judge a girl by her actions, not her words. And so far, I've only heard and seen words from her, although she does seem to have an understandable excuse for not calling.
p.s.: I should disclose that I waited 9 days after getting her number before attempting to call her. I'm starting to wonder if she interpreted this as a lack of interest on my part.
