A day in the life of a married man. Rant? Maybe.

[5string]

OK. So I go to work yesterday. Wife calls and asks me for a wake up call at 2M. She's been up awhile and wants to take a nap. What am I? A fvckin' alarm clock? Anyway, I do it. No big deal. It's not like I don't have other things to think about during the day. I have a high pressure job which is an understatement. No worries.

Go to the dentist to get my teeth cleaned after work. Mrs.5string wants me to talk to my dentist about pulling 4 teeth for her 15 yr old grandson. His mom is a loser and so is his dad. The kid is on medicaid and dentists don't take medicaid. I do this and my guy says that he can pull the teeth to the tune of 540.00. The kid is in pain and this needs to be done. I can afford it but here is the thing. Why should I step up for some druggie baby daddie who should never been allowed to breed to begin with? The kid is great but I'm torn up a bit about it. Not the kids fault, that's for sure. His needs are not being met basically. Very sad to say the least. Right or wrong, I'm gonna step up and get it done.

Get home. Help with homework for Mrs.5strings 10 yr old grandson. Great kid. Straight A's. He's been living with us for the last 3 months. Had Christmas with him last night as he's out of school tomorrow and will be gone for the weekend. Loved his gifts. Got him some jammies, a blanket and some cool walkie talkies. Made him read a book before bed with the TV off. He's a smart little guy.

Go up in the bedroom with Mrs.5string, lock the door and have some great sex. She wakes me up in the middle of the night and we go at it again. She made me breakfast this morning as always.

Here I am now at work and kinda tired. I could use a nap for sure.

Just another day in the life of Uncle 5string.

Lastly, I hope every single one of you guys have a great Christmas.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Regarding expensive dental care, this is a company I've used before:
http://www.ameriplanusa.com/faqs.asp

I just pay them for the first month, use the discount, and then cancel.

Merry Christmas to you, too.

 

[backbreaker]

rotfl i used to sale ameriplan to make money on the side when i was starting my first business


get the teeth pulled man. the kid is in pain

 

[5string]

rotfl i used to sale ameriplan to make money on the side when i was starting my first business


get the teeth pulled man. the kid is in pain

I will backbreaker. He's hurtin' pretty bad right now. Mrs.5string is to call to make the appt this AM as she'll have to take him in as I'll be at work making the money to pay for it (being a bit cynical here).

 

[5string]

Thanks Danger. You rock.

You are entirely correct that I am frustrated to do things for these kids that should otherwise be taken care of by their trailer trash parents. The problem is this.....I'm the only one that can help him. There is no other choice for me to make. I'll be able to sleep at ease with my concious at my side tonight (unless Mrs.5string wakes me up again)!!!!

 

[Bible_Belt]

rotfl i used to sale ameriplan to make money on the side when i was starting my first business

I was signed up to sell it in the late 90's. It was always surprising to me that they were a network marketing company that actually had a legitimate product. I never paid more than half price at the dentist; cleanings were 80% off. Ameriplan really ought to require a contract, but I guess people just forget to cancel it or don't realize they can.

AAA is kind of like that, too. They let you call up and join while you're on the side of the road with a broken-down car. It's always cheaper than paying the service guy yourself.

Back to the original post:
The kid is on medicaid and dentists don't take medicaid.

The state reimbursement is low, but the real reason that most dentists have stopped taking medicaid is that the states have simply stopped paying at all. Right now in Illinois, the state is four years behind in making its medicaid reimbursements to doctors. Most medical specialists in rural areas have stopped accepting it at all.

And this is the situation before Obamacare kicks in and we throw millions more people into the Medicaid system, while telling the bankrupt states that they are supposed to find a way to pay for it all. The first thing Illinois' new governor did was double the state income tax, not that it does any good. The state is broke from paying state worker pensions, and those are protected by some strong political forces. There's a proposal to cut all teacher retirement plans *outside* of Chicago, because the union in the city is too hard to fight.

 

[Interceptor]

5String.

I know it hurts, but the boy needs help.

If it were me, I would help the boy.
Especially if I were in a financial circumstance to do it.

The Right Thing to Do is more important than our pride, feeling taken advantage of,etc.

I know theres also the doubt in the back of many men's minds of being manipulated, but, ultimately you will have to find satisfaction in helping to take care of the boy in need.

Hopefully this isnt the case here.

If it is possible, perhaps you could voice your concern about being the "savior" here, and you have concerns that you might be taken advantage of? That you feel good about helping, but you dont feel good about the adult parents simply not being responsible, and you having to take up the slack. Its not fair to you.
Tell her you respect her children, and tolerate their choices, youre not trying to attack and punish anyone. But you dont want to be someone's go to caretaker in this type of situation. Where you have two grown adults, who appear to be drug addicts, not taking care of their children.
Its one thing if the grandchildren were yours, or were adopted or put into your custody because of their criminal and irresponsible behavior (its one thing to be poor, because you work does not pay enough, its another to use one's money on drugs to get high while making your children pay the price for it). Its another that you have to come to their rescue because the parents are off getting high somewhere.


So try to find some moral and spiritual reward and satisfaction that you can help the boy. Think of him.

Speak to your wife about the parents, tell her your concerns.

About the 2pm wake up call.
This I dont agree with you.
If your woman asks you to call her to wake her up, do it. This is how she expresses her trust and the bond she has with you.
You, as her MAN, DO have the responsibility of taking care of HER. And if its about calling her to wake her up, you DO it.
You have plenty of stuff to do, but your relationship has to be a priority.
You have to make time for it.
I know what Im telling you. It seems insignificant, but its not. Its seems like an offense to you, but its not.
Make the call. Do the "little things", brother. When you stop doing it, and it adds up, you end up in court wondering what the hell happened.
Do the little things...

 

[5string]

5String.

I know it hurts, but the boy needs help.

If it were me, I would help the boy.
Especially if I were in a financial circumstance to do it.

The Right Thing to Do is more important than our pride, feeling taken advantage of,etc.

I know theres also the doubt in the back of many men's minds of being manipulated, but, ultimately you will have to find satisfaction in helping to take care of the boy in need.

Hopefully this isnt the case here.

If it is possible, perhaps you could voice your concern about being the "savior" here, and you have concerns that you might be taken advantage of? That you feel good about helping, but you dont feel good about the adult parents simply not being responsible, and you having to take up the slack. Its not fair to you.
Tell her you respect her children, and tolerate their choices, youre not trying to attack and punish anyone. But you dont want to be someone's go to caretaker in this type of situation. Where you have two grown adults, who appear to be drug addicts, not taking care of their children.
Its one thing if the grandchildren were yours, or were adopted or put into your custody because of their criminal and irresponsible behavior (its one thing to be poor, because you work does not pay enough, its another to use one's money on drugs to get high while making your children pay the price for it). Its another that you have to come to their rescue because the parents are off getting high somewhere.


So try to find some moral and spiritual reward and satisfaction that you can help the boy. Think of him.

Speak to your wife about the parents, tell her your concerns.

About the 2pm wake up call.
This I dont agree with you.
If your woman asks you to call her to wake her up, do it. This is how she expresses her trust and the bond she has with you.
You, as her MAN, DO have the responsibility of taking care of HER. And if its about calling her to wake her up, you DO it.
You have plenty of stuff to do, but your relationship has to be a priority.
You have to make time for it.
I know what Im telling you. It seems insignificant, but its not. Its seems like an offense to you, but its not.
Make the call. Do the "little things", brother. When you stop doing it, and it adds up, you end up in court wondering what the hell happened.
Do the little things...

Great post. Thank you brother.

No problem on the wake up call. I came through and understand what you are saying about the little things and what is most important in life. Agree with you.

I guess I'm just a little touchy right now as I'm being painted into a corner by scum that chooses to to spend their money (entitlements) on meth as opposed to taking care of children for which they are supposedly responsible for.

Don't worry. I'll get the boys teeth done and make those wake up calls.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Why isn't Mrs. 5string paying for her grandson's teeth? Does she not have any money of her own?

 

[5string]

Why isn't Mrs. 5string paying for her grandson's teeth? Does she not have any money of her own?

Actually she does have her own money, nothing near what I have though. Ultimately, it all comes out of the same pot and it's only 540.00 anyway. It won't really matter to me if she writes the check or I do. Kid just needs to have his those teeth pulled. He has the normal amount of teeth but his mouth is a bit small so it's crowded in there.

In my marriage, Mrs.5string uses her money to buy the food, my clothes, etc. I take care of other things. It works rather well for us. I know in some marriages that spouses like to keep their money seperate and that's cool. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do.

Just have to get his teeth done. There is no other option although like I said, I'm a bit pissed off because his parents are so irresponsible.

Maybe when I land at the Pearly Gates, Saint Peter will open them for me.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Actually she does have her own money, nothing near what I have though. Ultimately, it all comes out of the same pot and it's only 540.00 anyway. It won't really matter to me if she writes the check or I do. Kid just needs to have his those teeth pulled. He has the normal amount of teeth but his mouth is a bit small so it's crowded in there.

In my marriage, Mrs.5string uses her money to buy the food, my clothes, etc. I take care of other things. It works rather well for us. I know in some marriages that spouses like to keep their money seperate and that's cool. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do.

$540 is not a huge amount of money. If she has a job, she can afford to cut the check herself. It's her grandson, not yours. She has the moral responsibility to do what her daughter is failing to do; you don't. But she'd rather have you do it...which is telling.

Hate to tell you this, but you are being manipulated. The reason why she told you to speak to the dentist, instead of picking up the phone and doing it herself, is no accident. It was an intentional move to make you feel like you are already involved in her grandson's tooth situation. Women do that sort of manipulative sh*t all the time. Personally, if a member of my family needed financial help, I couldn't even imagine trying to shoulder off that responsibility on a third party. When a person does something like that, it speaks volumes about their character.

 

[zekko]

If she has a job, she can afford to cut the check herself. It's her grandson, not yours

As 5String pointed out, it's all coming out of the same pot anyway. When you're married, all the money is considered joint property, no matter what your personal feelings are about it. Also, when you're married, family is family, no matter whose side it is on.

Of course all that stuff goes out the window when divorce time comes, and she turns her family against you telling them what an evil bastard you are lol.

 

[backbreaker]

Actually she does have her own money, nothing near what I have though. Ultimately, it all comes out of the same pot and it's only 540.00 anyway. It won't really matter to me if she writes the check or I do. Kid just needs to have his those teeth pulled. He has the normal amount of teeth but his mouth is a bit small so it's crowded in there.

In my marriage, Mrs.5string uses her money to buy the food, my clothes, etc. I take care of other things. It works rather well for us. I know in some marriages that spouses like to keep their money seperate and that's cool. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do.

Just have to get his teeth done. There is no other option although like I said, I'm a bit pissed off because his parents are so irresponsible.

Maybe when I land at the Pearly Gates, Saint Peter will open them for me.

if it pisses you off that much, have the parents do something for you out of their pocket that wont' cost them anything but will be beneficial to you.

i don't really care for my wife's older brother.. i mean he's not a bad guy he's just a loser lol. i don't like losers,. but she loves him to death and so I tolerate him. so when she called me and told me that he wrecked his car and needed a car but didn't' have the money to get a car fixed i ended up having to let him borrow my wife's car, and my wife can't drive a stick so she had to drive my big boy car around for a month while i was stuck with my knock around car which is fine but still it's the principle of the matter


so i said okay buddy.. that's fine, but you will babysit joe (our son) 2 times when we go on vacation here this next year. we are going to japan later this year (actually i mean dec 2013) and we are going to do something though we dont know what for our anny this coming year.. both times he's all yours. that's 2 weeks total, and while it won't make up the cost, in my mind it equals it all out. now i don't have to worry about bothering with a baby sitter and now he knows in his mind if he needs something it's going to cost him one way or the other

 

[Burroughs]

Hate to tell you this, but you are being manipulated. The reason why she told you to speak to the dentist, instead of picking up the phone and doing it herself, is no accident. It was an intentional move to make you feel like you are already involved in her grandson's tooth situation. Women do that sort of manipulative sh*t all the time. Personally, if a member of my family needed financial help, I couldn't even imagine trying to shoulder off that responsibility on a third party. When a person does something like that, it speaks volumes about their character.

 

[5string]

$540 is not a huge amount of money. If she has a job, she can afford to cut the check herself. It's her grandson, not yours. She has the moral responsibility to do what her daughter is failing to do; you don't. But she'd rather have you do it...which is telling.

Hate to tell you this, but you are being manipulated. The reason why she told you to speak to the dentist, instead of picking up the phone and doing it herself, is no accident. It was an intentional move to make you feel like you are already involved in her grandson's tooth situation. Women do that sort of manipulative sh*t all the time. Personally, if a member of my family needed financial help, I couldn't even imagine trying to shoulder off that responsibility on a third party. When a person does something like that, it speaks volumes about their character.

There is some truth in your post, but, I am not being manipulated by Mrs.5string. I am being manipulated by her daughters irresponsible character and lifestyle. I do not agree that my wife has a moral responsibility to pick up the slack where her daughter has failed to do so. She owes her nothing at this point in life. Mrs.5strings character is not in question here whatsoever.

Fact is, like I said, the kid has nobody he can turn to to take care of his needs but us. I'll be pissed off but I'll square him away.

Another thing, I may not be related to the boy but Mrs.5string is. Out of respect for her and our marriage, I will get this done and move on.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

5string,

You're doing the right thing and you can look at yourself in the mirror.

That is really all that matters.

Augustus

 

[5string]

5string,

You're doing the right thing and you can look at yourself in the mirror.

That is really all that matters.

Augustus

Thanks Gus. You have a great Christmas brother.

I'm at peace for doing this for the boy and I expect nothing in return accept knowing that he is no longer in pain.

 

[Colossus]

5String.

I know it hurts, but the boy needs help.

If it were me, I would help the boy.
Especially if I were in a financial circumstance to do it.

The Right Thing to Do is more important than our pride, feeling taken advantage of,etc.

I know theres also the doubt in the back of many men's minds of being manipulated, but, ultimately you will have to find satisfaction in helping to take care of the boy in need.

Hopefully this isnt the case here.

If it is possible, perhaps you could voice your concern about being the "savior" here, and you have concerns that you might be taken advantage of? That you feel good about helping, but you dont feel good about the adult parents simply not being responsible, and you having to take up the slack. Its not fair to you.
Tell her you respect her children, and tolerate their choices, youre not trying to attack and punish anyone. But you dont want to be someone's go to caretaker in this type of situation. Where you have two grown adults, who appear to be drug addicts, not taking care of their children.
Its one thing if the grandchildren were yours, or were adopted or put into your custody because of their criminal and irresponsible behavior (its one thing to be poor, because you work does not pay enough, its another to use one's money on drugs to get high while making your children pay the price for it). Its another that you have to come to their rescue because the parents are off getting high somewhere.


So try to find some moral and spiritual reward and satisfaction that you can help the boy. Think of him.

Speak to your wife about the parents, tell her your concerns.

About the 2pm wake up call.
This I dont agree with you.
If your woman asks you to call her to wake her up, do it. This is how she expresses her trust and the bond she has with you.
You, as her MAN, DO have the responsibility of taking care of HER. And if its about calling her to wake her up, you DO it.
You have plenty of stuff to do, but your relationship has to be a priority.
You have to make time for it.
I know what Im telling you. It seems insignificant, but its not. Its seems like an offense to you, but its not.
Make the call. Do the "little things", brother. When you stop doing it, and it adds up, you end up in court wondering what the hell happened.
Do the little things...

Whoa Interceptor!!! Havent seen you in years...

 

[Bokanovsky]

There is some truth in your post, but, I am not being manipulated by Mrs.5string. I am being manipulated by her daughters irresponsible character and lifestyle. I do not agree that my wife has a moral responsibility to pick up the slack where her daughter has failed to do so. She owes her nothing at this point in life. Mrs.5strings character is not in question here whatsoever.

So you are saying that as the boy's grandmother (in other words, the closest relative that he has next to his parents), she has no moral obligation to help him out? I guess we have very different views on the importance of blood ties.

Another thing to keep in mind is that Mrs. 5 string is, in fact, responsible for this boy's problems, even if indirectly. She failed to raise her own daughter properly, which led to her becoming a drug addict. And it's no surprise that the daughter is also a failure as a parent. It on our society, it is considered politically incorrect to blame parents for doing a piss poor job raising their kids, but that doesn't change the fact that parents are always at least partially responsible for how their kids end up.

And by the way, I'm not saying that you shouldn't help the kid out. But you should be aware that you are, in fact, being manipulated.

 

[betheman]

Id pay for the dentist but Id also make damn sure that there is no more drinking from the fountain.

you are in danger of setting a precedent here, I also suspect there is a bit of background that 5string isnt aware of. druggy parents need money for drugs, they ahve prioritised their use of substances over their childs health, how fc uckign low can you get?

by paying for the dentistry, you are indirectely suporting the situation. Mrs 5 string should be raising hell against her daughter. would you be in this situation if you werent getting banged regulalrly? believe me, that tap can be turned off pretty damned quickly if the money runs out