a date with a girl i put in the cold freezer.....

[beginnerDJ]

Hi,

So now I've a date with a girl I put in the cold freezer....mainly because she was inconsistent every time I asked (which was a few times) and I wasnt going to be bent around her little finger.

So, I just hecked it, asked her out specifically, clear as nails that its a date and not some friend friend thingy, and she's ok with it, we're supposed to meet in a couple days.

I wish I could say I don't care.....but the fact I'm posting this shows I do, at least a little.

She's the kind of girl who's pretty serious and quiet, sometimes you don't know what she's thinking. So the past couple times I met her, I was more chatty than usual, thinking thats the way to get her to open up more, but I don't think I succeeded.

I'm actually more of the strong and silent kind of guy, so all this chattiness makes me feel a little wierd. But if I stay quiet....wouldnt it be wierd for 2 people to sit around and not talk?

What do you guys think?

 

[beginnerDJ]

upz

 

[Seraph]

Try to find a topic she is interested in to get her talking. Some girls (although it's rare) just don't talk alot during dates, but say they have had a wonderful time afterwards. It's hard to tell though, she might not be opening up because of a low interest level. Why did she agree to a date now? She might be low on options, and remembered you. I'm not trying to be insulting, just trying to show you different sides of the spectrum.

 

[beginnerDJ]

Well, thinking about it, the past couple times we were out, I was trying a little too hard to please, and all. So I'd think that'd lower interest level a while.

It helps we're gonna do something fun tonight so I'm just going to be myself and not try too hard to please. Women all tell me I have a quiet charm that way.

 

[Chrispy]

Originally posted by beginnerDJ
Hi,

So now I've a date with a girl I put in the cold freezer....mainly because she was inconsistent every time I asked (which was a few times) and I wasnt going to be bent around her little finger.

So, I just hecked it, asked her out specifically, clear as nails that its a date and not some friend friend thingy, and she's ok with it, we're supposed to meet in a couple days.

I wish I could say I don't care.....but the fact I'm posting this shows I do, at least a little.

She's the kind of girl who's pretty serious and quiet, sometimes you don't know what she's thinking. So the past couple times I met her, I was more chatty than usual, thinking thats the way to get her to open up more, but I don't think I succeeded.

I'm actually more of the strong and silent kind of guy, so all this chattiness makes me feel a little wierd. But if I stay quiet....wouldnt it be wierd for 2 people to sit around and not talk?

What do you guys think?

Don't worry too much about the inconsistency part. Sometimes it's not all about you (and what she thinks of you - maybe she's having a bad day, too much on her mind?).

I sometimes have the "is it a date" problem - did you actually use the word date? Was it awkward? I'm interested to know!

 

[beginnerDJ]

Actually I didnt bring it up, she asked why that particular day (today) and I told her I have to plan in advance. So she said, is she Ms Thurs cuz I'm dating all these girls the other days, and I said, OH HELL YEAH!

So its pretty much a given its a date I think.

Nahhh, I'm overanalaysing, I think I'll juz heck it and go.

 

[beginnerDJ]

It went great!

I was pretty pent up over the date today....overanalysing and all. And then I decided not to, and just be my normal charming self (or so i've been told).

It went great....we played pool and I got plenty of kino in teaching her....something I didnt do before. It was all very natural.

Yes, I paid for both of us but only cuz she was broke this week (she paid for both of us last time out), but we made a pact that I wouldnt be bringing my wallet the next time......and when she commented that we should see when that next time is(but i didnt answer), I knew tonight was much better.

she kept mentioning the other girls i was seeing (she believes so) but i didnt say anything....just let her guess. And also after I sent her back to her place, she SMSed me asking whether I had anything I wanted to say to her.

Actually I didnt, as I dont feel for her right now. Its wierd.....I was so nervous and pent up about tonight...and after all that, I just feel normal, and dont feel the need to see her all that much, its like my interest level went down a notch.

 

[beginnerDJ]

upz

 

[Legend]

I would say for go for the flow of things. Until with the C + F and break this cold bytch out of her shell. YOu will be surprised....i really bet she is'nt as cold as you would think. They are always nice in the beginning....remember that.

I had a date with this chick last summer and i walked her back to her door. The time we spent together was nice, she was very very quite, i almost thought something was wrong with her. But the minute that door closed and she was home, man could that girl yell. She was yelling at her mother like you would'nt believe. I have no clue why but it did'nt sound normal. I was like....wtf?!!?

Umm....laugh....NEXT *sign*

 

[beginnerDJ]

Go with the flow....I like the sound of that. And yes I need to stick to being fun, spontaneous, bust on her and bring her out of that shell.

Actually the first time I paid for both of us, just some coffee, and the next one (similar) she automatically paid for both of us.