"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A date or not a date!?

pinhas

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I am going out with a girl I met through a friend, but the problem is that I am not sure if it’s a date or just a friendly outing.

I met her while my friend visited from another country and we all went out. We had a great time, laughing and having a flowing conversation. We met again when the two of them came to my house and I made them breakfast (not as AFC as it sounds, I have a special way of making a great omelet which actually gets me a lot of action).

After we hung out for a bit more and I walked them to the train, and her friend asked me for my number and said we should stay in touch (her excuse was that my area has really cheap groceries and she would come her to shop)

My friend left the country, and I sort of forgot about the entire ting until a few days ago I got a text from the girl, saying she needs to ask me something and asking me to call her. Now my old self would have probably been dialing her number the second I got the text, but instead I texted her back with a C&F remark. We kept texting each other a few times, and ended up deciding to meet this Friday for drinks.

Now I must also add that she is more then 5 years older then me, living in a nice place and has most of her s*** figured out (unlike me). I didn’t really think anything would happen so I did not even think about pursuing her. Her out of the blue contact caught me slightly off guard and that is the source of my uncertainty.

Another side note, this will be probably my first “real date” after my LTR, and I really want it to go good as she is an awesome girl and I am attracted to her. What can I do to maximize my value and reel her in further (assuming she is interested)

I would appreciate any feedback and advice, I learned a lot form this community, and now I hope you guys would be able to help me with this next step.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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underoath777

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Well it doesn't matter if it's a date or not. Just touch her and be a cool dude, and then kiss her lol.

But what do you mean first date and first LTR? You're not talking about this girl are you?
 

pinhas

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I ment after my LTR, thanks for that, fixed
 
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