a couple of questions

[hamilton]

Hey guys, I have a couple questions I've been meaning to ask, so I figured I'd lump them together here:

1) If you had to try to convert an afc, and could send them one article from this site, what article or thread would it be? I really want to unplug my brother from the matrix, but I don't think he will be very receptive as he is currently banging the girl he has severe oneitis for. It's really terrible though, he will spend hours on the phone w/ her, go to visit her at work for hours, etc. He even left watching The Hangover to talk on the phone with her.

2) If you ask a girl on a date, and she gives a valid reason why she is busy that day, how long do you normally wait to ask again? I was thinking 1 or 2 weeks but I'm not sure if that's too soon.

Thanks.

 

[Guitar_Whizz]

Hey guys, I have a couple questions I've been meaning to ask, so I figured I'd lump them together here:

1) If you had to try to convert an afc, and could send them one article from this site, what article or thread would it be? I really want to unplug my brother from the matrix, but I don't think he will be very receptive as he is currently banging the girl he has severe oneitis for. It's really terrible though, he will spend hours on the phone w/ her, go to visit her at work for hours, etc. He even left watching The Hangover to talk on the phone with her.

That's a difficult one; for me it would proably be the post entitled 'The Truth About Women':-

http://www.bristollair.com/inner-game/nature-and-reality/the-truth-about-women.html

2) If you ask a girl on a date, and she gives a valid reason why she is busy that day, how long do you normally wait to ask again? I was thinking 1 or 2 weeks but I'm not sure if that's too soon.

I personally don't ask again. You want to avoid the frame that you're chasing her. You ask her ONCE if she wants to meet up with you. If she gives you any bullsh*t excuses, say the following: "Ok, well if you want to get together then contact me. Only call me if you do genuinely want to get together though. I'm a busy guy and don't want to waste my time on girls who aren't genuinely interested in meeting up with me".

You then LEAVE HER ALONE COMPLETELY. No texting or emailing her to 'see how she is' or 'get to know her' bullsh*t. You do not contact her again until she contacts you. You win either way: if she doesn't contact you, you weed her out without wasting valuable time or energy. And if she DOES contact you again, you've got the upper hand, you're in the power position.

And by the way, if she contacts you again and tries to start small talk without agreeing to meet up, cut her off and suggest meeting up and tell her not to contact you unless she wants to meet up. DO NOT agree to be her friend, or her text buddy or her online buddy or any of that sh*t. If she tries to tell you she 'only wants to be friends', tell her 'I'm looking for a lover not a friend. Or rather, a lover who can also be a friend, or a friend who can also be a lover. But not just a friend'.

If she doesn't reciprocate your interest in being lovers, CUT HER LOOSE and move on.

I know this is the best way to handle girls from bitter experience; I eventually figured this sh*t out.

Good luck, any further questions just ask.

 

[hamilton]

Thanks for the reply, I appreciate it. Good article that one, I'll probably send him that one and a few others.

About the second question, normally I would agree with you, but this is a girl who let me kiss her two weeks ago, and she did have a valid reason for not being able to hang this weekend. I'm thinking of going with the 2 strike rule here, and if she gives me an excuse the next time I ask, I'll do what you said. Is that unreasonable, and if not, is 2 weeks a good timeframe?

 

[hamilton]

any other opinions?