a common situation with a twist(long post)

[JimMac]

SHORT VERSION:
for those who don't want to read the long post-
I've been seeing this girl for 2 months and she recently has started to get flakey, but always apologizes after and says 'another time'. I decided to do ganji games, im 5 days in but 3 days ago my sister ran into the girl at the bar with a guy(who may just be a friend of hers) and my sister started calling her a slut and to never call me again. I'm thinking she now isn't calling/texting me because of this. I plan to call her soon and tell her im taking my dog for a walk and she should come. No matter her response I will continue ganji games after this call, but I just want her to know that I don't care she was with another guy at the bar.

just want to know what u guys think about breaking the ganji games to show her i'm not angry with her, and then resuming.

LONG VERSION:
for those who want the details-
so I was set up with this girl in january. february was awesome, we hooked up saw each other a few times a week, went to movies, hottubin, had sex etc. March rolls around and she's startin to get flakey. I find out through a friend that she thinks I'm not interested in her so she doesn't want to bother hanging out.. (I know it makes no sense) but the friend (who is the boyfriend of her friend) tells me that she really digs me.

The flakeyness continues, but shes always texting me saying she wants to hang out, and texts me in the mornings "morning babe". We do hang out some in march and shes all over me and im makin her laugh and shes kissin on me.

I made two mistakes in march, firstly I had a relationship talk, second I asked her if she wanted to date and she said "I think we should hang out more before we do that". So she flaked out on me again last week, we had movie plans and she had just got kicked out of her parents house the night before and when I called her she said she was going to just watch movies with her friend who let her crash at her place.

So i decided to take action with the ganji games and havn't talked to her in 5 days now. problem is that 3 days ago my sister ran into her at a bar saw her with another guy (i dont care about this at all) but started calling her a slut and she should never talk to me again etc. so now I think she might not call me because of that encounter, regardless of how the ganji games are working.

So, I plan to call her soon and tell her im takin my dog for a walk, and she could come with her dog if she wants. i dont care what her answer is, all i want her to know is that i dont care that shes with other guys. after this call i will resume ganji games no matter what her answer is. (i may even flake if she says yes). what do you guys think??

 

[JimMac]

also, you could say "JUST MOVE ON" but the way i see it

I move on I lose a hotty and gain nothing

I play around a bit and I may still lose a hotty, but gain some good insight OR I may get the hotty back and learn what works etc.

I am by no means being exclusive, if an opportunity arises with another lady I have no problem going with it

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Why would your sister do that? It doesn't seem like her place at all.

I don't understand why guys push for relationships like this. These things are usually a natural progression. In my experience, most women who want to enter into a serious relationship with you will make that fact known.

Were you going for something exclusive when you had this talk with her in the first place? I have to ask based on that last line you wrote there in the second post. If not, then what was the point of the talk at all?

 

[JimMac]

I do want an exclusive relationship, but I'm not being exclusive at the moment. The talk was a mistake, but I was hoping that by getting her to be my girlfriend, I could stop worrying about flaking.. dumb mistake, I know.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

I do want an exclusive relationship, but I'm not being exclusive at the moment. The talk was a mistake, but I was hoping that by getting her to be my girlfriend, I could stop worrying about flaking.. dumb mistake, I know.

At least you recognize that. Just try not to come on so strong next time. Flaking is a sign she isn't 100% into you, so pushing for a relationship will only push her away as you found out. At least you learned something, just don't repeat your mistakes (easy to do).