I was discussing this topic with my girlfriend recently and something I've discussed with some of my friends before now.
When it comes to sex most inexperienced guys try to copy what they see in porn. They throw the woman off her feet, tear off her clothes, jump straight in and bang her as fast and hard as possible. And they honestly believe that this is the way to please women.
The truth is that men do this because it's what pleases them and think that because they like it that way, women like it that way too. They are also brainwashed by porn into thinking that this is the way to get women to have screaming orgasms.
Inexperienced women on the other hand try to please their man by drawing things out, doing a little strip tease, kissing him all over, teasing him and keeping him waiting.
While some guys like this, most of us just get bored waiting and frustrated. As a man, it's not nice to be teased, but women love it, and therefore think that men will love it too. I've actually read female sex gurus in some of my girlfriend's magazines suggesting stuff like silk hankies over his body, eating strawberries off each other and scented oils to please HIM?!?! How wrong are they?
It's all backwards!
Men and women react differently to sex. A woman needs warming up with foreplay and needs to build upto her orgasm. She likes to be teased, likes to be caressed and likes the process of sex to be dragged out for as long as possible. It builds up the tension and releases into one incredible orgasm or multiple orgasms. Many women get less pleasure from rampant sex than they do from slow and soft foreplay.
And yet a man is the opposite. Once he is aroused, he wants to fvck....and wants to fvck hard and fast and get all the sexual tension out of his system!
Many times my girlfriend has told me how amazing the sex was and how it blew her mind and I've been left thinking it was nothing special. Then other times I've been blown away and she's not been into it that much. It's a bit of a design fault in nature I suppose.
When it comes to sex most inexperienced guys try to copy what they see in porn. They throw the woman off her feet, tear off her clothes, jump straight in and bang her as fast and hard as possible. And they honestly believe that this is the way to please women.
The truth is that men do this because it's what pleases them and think that because they like it that way, women like it that way too. They are also brainwashed by porn into thinking that this is the way to get women to have screaming orgasms.
Inexperienced women on the other hand try to please their man by drawing things out, doing a little strip tease, kissing him all over, teasing him and keeping him waiting.
While some guys like this, most of us just get bored waiting and frustrated. As a man, it's not nice to be teased, but women love it, and therefore think that men will love it too. I've actually read female sex gurus in some of my girlfriend's magazines suggesting stuff like silk hankies over his body, eating strawberries off each other and scented oils to please HIM?!?! How wrong are they?
It's all backwards!
Men and women react differently to sex. A woman needs warming up with foreplay and needs to build upto her orgasm. She likes to be teased, likes to be caressed and likes the process of sex to be dragged out for as long as possible. It builds up the tension and releases into one incredible orgasm or multiple orgasms. Many women get less pleasure from rampant sex than they do from slow and soft foreplay.
And yet a man is the opposite. Once he is aroused, he wants to fvck....and wants to fvck hard and fast and get all the sexual tension out of his system!
Many times my girlfriend has told me how amazing the sex was and how it blew her mind and I've been left thinking it was nothing special. Then other times I've been blown away and she's not been into it that much. It's a bit of a design fault in nature I suppose.
