Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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A Chick from an OLD FR came back.. what to think?

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so flash back maybe 3 weeks or a month ago.. i got this girls number pretty quickly actually and everything seemed great, the conversation was solid and what not the flirting the laughing.. etc it was all there so i figured hey score!

well one day i called her, and things over the phone weren't the way i wanted in fact she was more intrested in fixing up her school schedual for next semester than talking to me.. yeah selfish i know whatever but hell i figured if she had any intrest she woulda just dropped it for a few and talked on the phone. instead i was the one createing the conversation only to have topics closed with three word answers.. so i cut it and said well i'll talk to you later.

later never came i just up and nexted the girl immediatly after hanging up the phone.

flash foward, i get a txt from a phone number and it says "why'd you stop talking to me homie?" come to find its from this girl, so now that she has reopened communication it makes me think maybe i had this girl pegged wrong the whole time, otherwise why would she waste the time to start up communication again..

any advice as to where to take it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Beware of being her phone buddy. Try to see her in person the very next time you call. If she's "busy for the indefinite future", just take the hint and stop talking to her. (Unless, of course, you don't mind having a phone buddy).

flash foward
Why does everyone say "flash foreward" or "fast foreward"? Just say what happened.
 

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Maybe she likes you or it could be she is just bored and sees you as a good back up.

The only way you are going to find out is asking her fore a date/get together.

If she says yes, then you are good to go. If she says no or plays games, then you have your answer.
 

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SHEESH-YOU NEXTED HER....thats why she called back, sometimes nexting has that effect. When/If you do call.....tell her you are a busy man with needs, if she wants to kick it great but no drama, no LET ME LISTEN STUFF.

TELL HER she needs some fun, and escape, from all this stress and then YOU BECOME THE STRESS RELEIVER.
 

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so just to add we have play flirted a lot through txt and what not, and i asked if she had been to a certian ice cream parlor that i used to frequent back in the day. she said she did so i offered up hey why don't we go sometime next week. (with my busy schedual i woulda set a date if she was open to it)

but i'm not sure if she was open to it because she tossed out yah but i gotta get back to you cuz i'm not sure exactly what days i'm working next week.

should i reapporch with a set day and time as soon as i know? or should i just renext her lol.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I think she is a waste of time and is just playing with you. If she was truly interested, she would have jumped at the opportunity to meet you.

I think you have your answer now.
 

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violator said:
I think she is a waste of time and is just playing with you. If she was truly interested, she would have jumped at the opportunity to meet you.

I think you have your answer now.
we did meet under weird circumstances, such as she is my good friends best friend (who is also a chick, who also had a lil thing for me)

while i'm not validateing anything, and i feel the same as she would jump at the oppertunity i've honestly not had much rappore with her, aside from the flirty comments here and there. and have only talked on the phone once with her which lasted 10 minutes IF THAT.

i'm gonna try and establish a little bit more of a foundation and then reapproch again, if i get the i'm not sure.. line again i'll defenitly have to renext.
 
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