"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I wrote this about a year ago, and I just so happened to stumble upon it on my PC, so I decided I would share this for the hell of it:

WHAT IS NEEDED TO HAVE CONTROL OVER YOURSELF (AND WOMEN )



THE FEELING OF HIGH IMPORTANCE

You must feel like you are just as important as the President of the United States. In order to get a women to do the things you really want them to do, you have to understand that it isn’t so much a set of magic words that are said, but the worlds spoken by the right man. If you have an aurora of self importance, women will notice and become either curious or submissive, either or is a plus.

PHYSICALLY GOOD LOOKING

You have to get a woman’s attention first. It’s a lot easier battle if you are great looking, and for some shallow women, it is the battle. Goes beyond being ripped or being toned, but always dressing the part as well. Stay well groomed.


SOMEONE WHO SEEMS TO BE A LEADER AND NOT A FOLLOWER, TO MEN AND WOMEN

A Woman instively knows when an alpha male is in the room. No jokes, no busts out are needed to prove how “in charge” you are. You can either make yourself look stupid, or hurt someones feelings, both of which are very counter productive. If you know you are important, good looking, and don’t have anything at stake when attractive women are present, you will get noticed before someone going out of their way making a fool of themselves. Don’t be afraid to lead. Take command at all times, but do so in a stern/general type of way. Be calm, cool and relaxed.

A MASTER COMMUNICATOR

If you can get your point across like you want verbally and non verbally, you have a massive advantage. By communicating, it not only means talking, but listening to people, and using what they say/want to your advantage to get them to do what you ultimately want.

SOMEONE WHO CLEARLY PUTS HIS GOALS IN FRONT OF THE NEED OF A WOMAN

You should never see a woman and say “ I have to impress her”. She needs to impress you if she wants the luxury of having your attention and that couldn’t be any more serious than that. unlike most men below you, it takes more than a talking head in a short skirt to unravel you.

SOMEONE WITH TALENTS

Not necessarily needed, but never hurts when you have talents to think about improving upon instead of “picking up women”. Always in interesting conversation starter.


SOMEONE WHO IS PRETTY MUCH FINANCIALLY STABLE

You should always have a clear mind to do what is financially needed for any situation. You should be able to dress the part… Leaders don’t ride around in Honda’s wearing Old Blue Jeans. They drive 2005 Porsches and have Armani taylor made suits. They live on the beach and have swiss bank accounts. They don’t cry when it comes time to pay for dinner or bills or anything else.


SOMEONE THAT IS GENIUNINELY NICE AND COMFORTING, YET AUTHORITIVE

Being a Leader doesn’t mean be a ****head, it just means lead. You are naturally a very, very people person. Don’t change that. People seem to get along with you from all walks of life, a talent that is pretty unique. Be as sweet as you can be and let people know you don’t bite, but let it be known that you mean business.

SOMEONE WHO IS SELF DEPENDENT

As ironic as it may so und, having a stable women in your life will help here. You will never “depend” on this date for a future relationship. Also, it allows me to be more of “me” instead of having to watch what I say and do. In general, letting a woman know you don’t need her off the bat, instead of most guys out here who act like this girl is the only thing in their lifes, is the way to go.



SOMEONE WHO ISN’T AFRAID OF ANYTHNING

A women doesn’t take orders from boys, and men aren’t afraid of anything. They may not like stuff, but they aren’t afraid of any situation. You don’t have to be a daredevil, but never back down from a situation.


SOMEONE EXTREMELY COMFORTABLE ARO UND WOMEN

Always treat a women like one of the guys. No extra special attention.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good post, except:

Leaders don’t ride around in Honda’s wearing Old Blue Jeans. They drive 2005 Porsches and have Armani taylor made suits. They live on the beach and have swiss bank accounts.

This is BS. Leaders live the life they want to live and project that to others through their confidence, not their material possessions. Those material possessions are great if you want them in your life, but they attract gold diggers. I intentionally hide my wealth from women to screen for less materialistic women because I don't have time for gold diggers.

Secret bank accounts serve a purpose, but only an insecure, f***ing retard, seeking validation from others, would have a secret bank account that others know about.
 

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" Leaders don’t ride around in Honda’s wearing Old Blue Jeans. They drive 2005 Porsches and have Armani taylor made suits. They live on the beach and have swiss bank accounts. "

Total nonesense. Any loser can have wealth. The man who drives a porsche and wears armani suits might be an AFC who spends most of his money on a goldigger wife who enslaves him.

If your concept of leadership is so narrow, that it considers wealth and ostentation as a prerequisite, then you seriously need to reevaluate your value system, and pick up a history book.

Mohandas Gandhi, Malcom X, Martin Luther King Jr., Christ, Buddha, Vladimir Lenin...these are some of history's most revered leaders, and their leadership had nothing to do with clothes and bling bling.

You are an ignorant fool.
 

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Originally posted by Tboner
Good post, except:

Leaders don’t ride around in Honda’s wearing Old Blue Jeans. They drive 2005 Porsches and have Armani taylor made suits. They live on the beach and have swiss bank accounts.

This is BS. Leaders live the life they want to live and project that to others through their confidence, not their material possessions. Those material possessions are great if you want them in your life, but they attract gold diggers. I intentionally hide my wealth from women to screen for less materialistic women because I don't have time for gold diggers.

Secret bank accounts serve a purpose, but only an insecure, f***ing retard, seeking validation from others, would have a secret bank account that others know about.
I thought about taking that out. Like I said, I wrote that a year and a half ago. I just so happened to come up upon it.
 

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I'm really, really not going to say what I want to say to the person who called me an ignorant fool because I don't play thoose silly games. But that was pretty inappropate.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I really like those points. They are what everybody should work on.

You should want to operate on the highest level possible. That means finding ways to improve your position in life, in every area, and not rationalizing reasons away not too.

And that remark was uncalled for. backbreaker knows what he's talking about, it's just the way you interpreted wasn't the angle he was going for. He was trying to point out that having the means to be able to procure those possesions means you must be doing something right. A CEO doesn't have to drive brand new cars all the time, but you won't see him in a Dodge Omni either. That person has a professional approach to take and to be taken seriously in the business world you need to look like a professional, dress professional, and be professional even if it's not your cup of tea. That's the way the business world works to be taken seriously. So sacrifices, which to me seem small compared to the reward, have to be made.

The way I see it is like this; take the good if you see it and disregard the rest if you don't. I saw a lot of good it in this post.


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