"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A Change of Pace...

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It is basic knowledge that the majority of people are selfish. Our superheroes reflect our desires in a human being, with Super-Man being selfless, and Spider-Man being selfless. The reason these fictional characters are so popular is that many people wish they existed. Ironically: no one wishes they were the superhero – which is all the more possible. People are capable of doing what these “superheroes” did, but that is no one's desire. They wish they existed so they could save themselves.

In a friendly conversation, a person may start rambling about his or herself. Stories, events or situations that are independent of her friend are often the topics of discussion. Eventually, the friend becomes agitated with her friends “selfishness” and demands that she stop talking about herself. The irony is, of course, that she doesn’t want her friend to stop talking about herself. It seems that way, but what she truly wants is her friend to talk about her. We have a tolerance for listening to someone else for only so long before the topic becomes ourselves.

People will perpetually do what they believe to be in their best interests. Our peers are ignorant and perceive our actions as selfless, when in all actuality – we are merely pleasing ourselves in a way which others benefit from. No one wants to help anyone. People only want to help themselves, and the prerequisite they have set upon themselves for gratification is helping another individual. So they help another individual: to help themselves.

This mentality is engraved within our brains, and most importantly and ironically at the most instinctual level. At the lowest level of our brain: we demand survival. At the highest level: death. We must stay alive and die – rather than to die and not stay alive, I suppose. This demand, this requirement to live – is without argument or rule. It can be seen in our laws: the basic needs of survival are always existent when the ruler perceives their people as human beings – that is to say, America’s founding fathers believed the people were human beings, and consequently deserved the right to defend themselves from a predator. We have the right to bear arms, and if we kill someone who is trying to kill us – it is without consequence.

These exceptions and determinations are all founded on the same mentality: we are the most important individual on the planet. The most important thing is the highest priority. It is more important that we live: than any other human being on the planet. If the universe revolved around our mortal coil, we would be satisfied only briefly. For soon, we would realize that we are the most important thing in the universe, too. It is only just that it revolves around our body. To do any less would be disrespectful.

There are no exceptions to this rule. Two people speaking to each other are truly two people talking to themselves. If you strip down the intentions of the conversation, you will realize that their biggest concern is themselves.

When you care about someone, and the way they behave or act – I believe it is our tribal nature being exemplified. We are a social, sexual animal. We as a species depend upon the opposite sex for reproduction, and small groups of people who remain loyal to ourselves for protection: both mental and physical.

Our friends and mutual lovers only exist because we feel endangered. We are in a hostile environment and consequently feel the need to be more powerful. It is for that reason we gather in numbers. Again, we do this for our basic survival. At the source of even our strongest love we are merely looking out for ourselves. This does not undermine the legitimacy of the human relationship, however.

Love and fear are considered the human emotional absolutes. There is always fear, and there is always love. I disagree. I believe that love is a product of fear. I also believe this statement scares every religious and prudent individual on this planet: so I must delve deeper.

As stated previously, we gather in numbers for protection. The question remains: Why do we fall in love? Let us disregard the human characteristics of love, and look at it innately. Two human beings begin a mating ritual, as complex as the species’ brain, and upon mutual approval – the individuals mate.

If it were that simple, we could easily determine that love is a name given to the mating ritual, and eventual act of coitus. If that were the case, then what is the purpose of love? Love’s purpose cannot be reproduction. Two homosexual males love each other, just as much as two homosexual females, and just as much as a heterosexual male loves a heterosexual female.

This would lead us to believe that love is more complex. That love is opposite fear. That love is intangible. That love cannot be explained. It is my belief that in science, the term “random” should directly translate to “unknown”. Random is intangible: it has no basis upon the fundamental laws of causality. Random means we do not understand it yet. An intangible object’s science and logic is just waiting to be discovered. Love’s true purpose, its application, is waiting to be discovered.

Love breaks all the rules. Love is the thing that breaks every law I’ve stated. Love is not intangible or indescribable. When you love someone, it is to put that individual’s value above your own. It is only then, that the universe no longer revolves around you: but around your mates. Love is selflessness.

Love is engraved in our mind and in our bodies. We are designed to love. Reproduction is only a byproduct of love, and not a catalyst for it. When we love, our most instinctual purpose is changed. We will always be the most important thing until we truly have found someone who we believe is more important than us. To break that fundamental rule, that fundamental law: that we are the most important human being who needs to live – that’s love. Love is dying for someone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Love breaks all the rules. Love is the thing that breaks every law I’ve stated. Love is not intangible or indescribable. When you love someone, it is to put that individual’s value above your own. It is only then, that the universe no longer revolves around you: but around your mates. Love is selflessness.

Love is engraved in our mind and in our bodies. We are designed to love. Reproduction is only a byproduct of love, and not a catalyst for it. When we love, our most instinctual purpose is changed. We will always be the most important thing until we truly have found someone who we believe is more important than us. To break that fundamental rule, that fundamental law: that we are the most important human being who needs to live – that’s love. Love is dying for someone.
I would die for my brother... I think it has something more to do with respect than love... Maybe respect is love.

It is an interresting feeling to care more about another (no family) being more than yourself. I think that to an extent, that person becomes part of you. A big part of you and that is why you care so much about that person. Losing her(or him) would mean losing part of yourself. We are selfish until the end.
 

Best friends? NAY

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It is not that you could not live w/o them but they could not live if they died. I think it is that you care more about how they are then you care about how you are.

OR I could be wrong.
 

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Sounds a little " Rousseau" for me... I think someone's falling in love here LOL :p

BBB
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Many of the undertones in this post (especially in the beginning) is a very good example of what is known in philosophical circles as "egoism" which is basically the idea that Smooth mentioned. This is an idea I believe in and think this is a beautiful piece of work.

The thing about love is also a great touch Smooth... something that I will have to consider.
 
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