"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Some Call Me Tim

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Broseidons, I once again find myself in a pickle.

There's this chick at my university who I used to occasionally fool around with until a few months ago. She pretty much LJBF'ed me so I cut my losses and booked.

Now ordinarily I would just next her sorry ass and go about my business, but she's super hot, and presents a challenge to me. First I just NC'ed her and kept living the good life, kicking it with friends, working out, etc etc. Looking back on myself, I can see that I was far less of a DJ back then than I am now, given that I try as hard as possible to always be improving my game.

Having not spoken to her pretty much at all for a couple of months, I tried my hand a little bit, NC didn't really whet her appetite, so I've been flirting a little bit, talking, kino, having fun.

She's not really responding, nothing can make this b1tch crack again! So my question is, do I next her altogether, or make a last ditch effort, and out of curiosity, what would the last ditch be?

Thanks in advance guys :rockon:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Not trying to give advice, but I think you've answered your own question. Think about if somebody else gives you this story, what would you say?

If she's not responding, how can you actually be interested in her?
 

Some Call Me Tim

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If it were someone else, I would be tempted to tell them to next, or find some way to spark her interest (again). We've fooled around before, so I guess she saw something in me, and over the last few months of just trying to improve, I would have thought that attraction would have magnified. Guess not.

In my opinion, she's making me chase her, when I want her to chase me. I guess my question is, what do to get her interest level up.

Unless it's a lost cause, but it doesn't seem that way.
 

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Understood that you want to have one last crack but what can you do? I realise that's the question you're asking but it seems tough to reignite interest once it's gone.
 

Htienvu

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How do you raise attraction when there's none to begin with? Looks like she's not interested instead of playing hard to get! Cut your losses and move on. Or try shower her with lots and lots of attention then suddenly no contact as a last ditch.

I'd move on!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Some Call Me Tim

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Yeah, just really wanted to make sure it was well and truly dead before I just make it strictly business.
 

Tortendieb

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Well actually there's a last ditch effort you can make, and it's to make her say no. Just ask her out and make some pretty obvious moves...

I've done that before, was going out swimming with a girl (her idea) who I knew was toying with me. So we were sitting in the bubble pool and I just blatantly started feeling her up haha! The mood was definitely not right, she freaked out and never saw her again but the whole thing was priceless, I still laugh today :D

On the other hand if she actually does like you maybe she'll respond well to a ballsy move. So yeah before you throw away a prospect, why not have some fun.
 

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Im doing the same thing right now with a masters student I met at a nightclub. She was fine... Hit it a few times, and now its kinda dead...

I am usually the one to get bored and find a new chick, so its killing me for it to be the other way around. I made a pretty solid effort last night, to no avail, and am just gonna forget about it. Challenge forfeit. BIFF
 

Some Call Me Tim

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Tortendieb said:
Well actually there's a last ditch effort you can make, and it's to make her say no. Just ask her out and make some pretty obvious moves...

I've done that before, was going out swimming with a girl (her idea) who I knew was toying with me. So we were sitting in the bubble pool and I just blatantly started feeling her up haha! The mood was definitely not right, she freaked out and never saw her again but the whole thing was priceless, I still laugh today :D

On the other hand if she actually does like you maybe she'll respond well to a ballsy move. So yeah before you throw away a prospect, why not have some fun.
It'd be good for some lulz, but I'm not entirely sure that she's toying with me. In fact, I'm quite sure the last spark flickered out a long time ago. I think I'll live my life and maybe a few more months down the line she'll realise how bad she dun goofed.
 
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