A cautionary tale.

[MrRhythmic]

So I used to frequent this forum and associated sites... Sure enough, used a lot of the ideas here to get with a few girls, found the one I wanted, used more ideas in practise to attract her, we entered a great, loving relationship.

Obviously, this isn't a success story.

Over the course of the relationship, I visited this forum less and less. "Why should I?" I thought. "I've got what I want now."

This was THE BIGGEST mistake.

Long story short:

*Relationship was great for 1.5 years or so.
*She cheated on me. Only a kiss, but still.
*I went through a period of roughly a month of being damn depressed.
*We're seeing about working things out now.

Reading the stuff on here now, and looking at myself, I completely lost my **** and reverted back to being a nice guy over the course of the relationship!

So what I'm looking for here, my fellow DJs, is some advice on how to play this one. I can make most girls show more interest in me. Simple business. But how about the girl I'm seeing? Who isn't new to me, who I'm not new to, how do you recommend I go about hiking up her interest levels?

I know a lot of initial thoughts are gonna be that I shouldn't be trying because she cheated... Truth is, I did a hell of a lot more playing around than she did, I was just better at not getting caught.

Anyway, good to be back here. :wave:

 

[mahoney]

the best way to keep interest levels high is ....to be interesting!

dont be a comfortable old pair of slippers

 

[LinkinParkROX]

Be a man about it. Give her **** for cheating on you because she deserves it. At the same time, grab your balls and 'fess up to playing around as well. Tell her that you know neither of you are perfect, but you're willing to try and fix things, because you think the relationship could go somewhere. If she's up for it, good. If not, it's time to move on. It'll probably sting a bit with the latter, but you'll get over it eventually. Getting hurt is the fun of life.

 

[sinnerman]

yea you should tell her you fooled around. she deserves that. she must feel the pain(the way you did) and feel insecure and she must know that you've other options besides her who can satisfy your needs. and after that just behave cold with her(most of the times). show 2/3 love and care. call/text/communicate 2/3 of the times she calls you. dont be totally open about your life with her. never give direct answers when she inquires. it doesn't matter if you're with her for 1 year or 1 month. if she really cares about you she'll get the message. if she doesn't care then she won't be affected. in that case you're just prolonging the breakup with a band aid solution. dont be afraid to rock the boat.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Dump her. Here is two reasons:

1. If she cheated on you before she will do it again

2. Why would you want to be in a relationship with a girl if your attracted to other girls and will cheat on her? Do yourself a favor and find a girl in which you wouldn't want to cheat on.

 

[BettorOffSingle]

So I used to frequent this forum and associated sites... Sure enough, used a lot of the ideas here to get with a few girls, found the one I wanted, used more ideas in practise to attract her, we entered a great, loving relationship.

Obviously, this isn't a success story.

Over the course of the relationship, I visited this forum less and less. "Why should I?" I thought. "I've got what I want now."

This was THE BIGGEST mistake.

Long story short:

*Relationship was great for 1.5 years or so.
*She cheated on me. Only a kiss, but still.
*I went through a period of roughly a month of being damn depressed.
*We're seeing about working things out now.

Reading the stuff on here now, and looking at myself, I completely lost my **** and reverted back to being a nice guy over the course of the relationship!

So what I'm looking for here, my fellow DJs, is some advice on how to play this one. I can make most girls show more interest in me. Simple business. But how about the girl I'm seeing? Who isn't new to me, who I'm not new to, how do you recommend I go about hiking up her interest levels?

I know a lot of initial thoughts are gonna be that I shouldn't be trying because she cheated... Truth is, I did a hell of a lot more playing around than she did, I was just better at not getting caught.

Anyway, good to be back here. :wave:

If being a nice guy costs you a woman, you're better off without her in the first place.

I write about the ACE OF CLUBS as the ideal girlfriend or wife: hot, loyal, and won't play games. Won't even let you know she's available until she's already decided she wants you too.

Get rid of a girl's BETCH shield and all you're left with is a BETCH who has a clear shot.

 

[Cinamon]

There is obviously something lacking for both of you to play around else where. Maybe it's time to cut your losses and move on.

 

[Diaforetikos]

Pretty out, I was gonna Rep you, but I gotta spread the love a like more. He's right on. Your obviously not looking for marriage and you find yourself attracted to other women, plus she showed she's interested in others. I'd break it off now and feel the fresh breathe of freedom.