"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A Case of OCD

Maxxy

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I don't want to bring any negative issues to the board but it seems in the past year i got OCD. Now out of all the things i could have OCD about my OCD scares me out of doing physical things with girls. It's really horrible, and in public im seen as such a funny guy, smiling all the time. For the past year i have been trying to be strong, trying to tell myself the thoughts wern't real and to be a man about it. But these thoughts are really affecting me up to the point where i can't even have a sexually fantasy anymore. And now the thoughts are affecting my ability to talk to girls. I takes alot of my time because instead of having a clear head or doing other things with my time like finding a job or doing work. I spend almost every hour of my day trying to battle my thoughts. I tried every single thing, i tried to stop thinking about the thoughts, i tried to see them as neutral, i tried to stop fighting them, i tried to better understand them. But now it's beggening to become a problem because im getting tired of them altogether. I know i could be more comfortable and a stronger guy if i could overcome it. Anyone got any advice, anyone here ever had it. I'm planning to get counseling but im going to be sure to hide this from any girls i talk to. I told one a year ago and she seemed freaked out by it. :mad:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Phyzzle

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Unlike a lot of other mental illnesses, there are some pretty effective drugs to treat OCD. Hell, I understand that Hallucinogenic mushrooms are a fairly good treatment.
 

Zodiac

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As odd as it is I use it to clean my room and due to cleaning it like get out bleach and clean I am able to control it. Sad as it is I sometimes will make a mess to clean up to make my OCD stop. Seems to help.
 

OzyBoy

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I feel like i have got a bit as well but pretty mild thankfully it does not interfere with life very much.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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brewbaron

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do you have compulsions to go along with the obsessive thinking?

I've had ocd my entire life. as far back as I can remember I've had it. I only realized it and got a diagnosis when I went through a very anxious period in my life, and once I knew for sure it was a "disorder" let me tell you it got 10 times worse.

my advice is try not to focus on the thoughts, they will come and go. work on bettering your mental state, meditation helped me a great deal as well as exercise. when you have reached a healthy state of mind your ocd will dissipate naturally.
 
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