"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A bored ponderance

Kourt

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Hey guys, I'm bored, figured I'd ask a question I'd been tossing around my head

So I started talkin to this girl recently that I had know in high school on the facebook, and in her last messege to me (probably 4 hours ago now) she gave me her screen name and told me to IM her.

She had gone to bed already but she had this as her away messege.

yeah my house smells like cigarettes and other various things
it was basically the german party house while they were in marquette (how ironic)
and i like a boy i shouldn't.
how wonderful
however, i'm not in trouble.

So I'm curious is this was happenstance or if you guys think she likes me, cuz she is one of my sisters friends and 2 years younger, which could explain the 'i shouldn't'

this girls pretty cute and has a good personality, I'd date her, I'll just have to talk to her sooner or later and see if I get a vibe from her, what you guys think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Phyzzle

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So you're trying to figure out if a girl likes you from an IM away message?

Oh Kourt, you and your wacky hijinks!

She hasn't seen you for 2 years? She ain't talkin about you. But don't sweat it: 18 yr olds get crushes every 5 minutes.
 

Kourt

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haha yeah dude, im just bored and cant sleep so I let my mind wander, better than thinkin about the psycho ex, no?
 

Ace of Flames

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Make this fun. Next time you talk to her, be like "So I saw someone's away message the other day...". If she starts freaking out, I guess there's your answer.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Kourt

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haha yeah, she IM'ed me this morning saying she was sorry she had to crash early and will hopefully talk to me soon, so /shrug, we'll see
 

Wiesman44

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looks like someone's about to develop a case of one-itis soon.
 

Kourt

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psssh lol not really, havnt even talked to her yet, I'm just glad that I'm still able to get a little female attention : P
 
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