"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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PimpNHard

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Calling all you real DJs out there:

I have been visiting this site for years now. I have learned many things that have helped me to have success in my relationships with females. But, I must admit, lately I feel like I may be backsliding into AFC mode. See, lately I've been dating this one female. (I believe this is where my problem really starts.) Let me tell you this female excels at her game. I mean when it comes to looks she at least a 9 on anybody's list. And she has the intelligence to match. So she is constantly getting attention from men. Now I know this might sound crazy, but I think it's the very things that attract me to her that also make me not trust her. I always catch her "testing" me and playing those female games, but like I belive a true DJ would do it I hold my ground and play along. The thing is, gentlemen, the games are starting to get old and my patience is wearing really thin. We are "supposed" to be in a committed relationship, but I question the strength of her commitment, you know? I'm not going to even lie like I haven't made a few AFC mistakes. (Being around a little more often than I should have, perhaps a little clingy). Honestly though my life recently hasn't really been all that exciting. Well, in any light I'm wondering what I should do from this point.

Should I remain commited to her and acquire a nice little reportiore of female friends?

Or should I just leave her a$$ and get straight back into pimp (DJ) mode?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ali_g

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Yeah, it can be hard. Try to detach yourself (slightly) from her. Stay in the relationship, but find a good looking female friend to hang around or a project/hobby that you can spend time on. Or just go out for a boys night out and chat up other ladies.

Overall, just remind yourself that there are other hotties and things to think of besides her.
 

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"See, lately I've been dating this one female."

This was as far as I read. You didn't need to say anything else.

Your not doing the same things you did in the beginning. It's a normal reaction to let your guard down with women after you start dating them.

Fools start thinking that they can relax now.

(((SLAP)))

HELL NO! You can't relax just cause you have landed her as a regular piece of pvssy. You forget she is still a woman.

Never forget that she still has the same female mind.

That means she is still an emotional creature.

Which means your not stroking her mind anymore. Your not a challenge to her anymore...your not taking control over her anymore so that she will feel safe...your probably asking her what she wants to do each time you hook up...(((SLAP)))

WOMEN HATE THAT!!!

You need to put your man gear back on and take control again. Put your player card back in action and become who she was originally attracted too.

Don't sell her a pvssy bag of goods. Give her what she needs.
 

HuuBinh

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you don't have to leave her, you can solve most of your problems by starting to date other women since you already question her comitment level.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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