"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A bit of an update...

Desdinova

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I haven't been around these forums much lately because I've been busy as hell. I took dance lessons and surprised myself. I had never danced for 5hit before, and I ended up being one of the best students in the class with how quickly I picked it up. My partner was the exact same way.

My partner wasn't a girlfriend or a date. She's actually a lesbian - with a damn nice body. If she wasn't gay, she's be a fantastic girlfriend. But anyway, we had a blast with the classes, and we were the ones who had the most fun with it. You could tell that all the other guys were there because she made him go.

I've also been playing live music again. I've worked in a bit of comedy into my little performances because I'm about 10 years out of practice on the guitar. I get the audience to do things whenever I make a mistake. It's all good fun, and I'm certainly more interesting than the others who play.

I've also got myself into a LTR. I've been dating her for over 3 months, and she's been a fvcking stellar gf. She cooks for me, comes up with date ideas, is positive, makes decent coin, has her own car, no kids, and she's a lot of fun. On the down side, she's not as attractive as most of the other women I've dated, but after all the garbage I've sifted through over the last year, it feels fantastic to be treated good for a change.

I'm living life, and it feels great. I really can't remember the last time I've felt this great. Things are going pretty good for me, and I've got someone to share it with ..... when I feel like sharing :D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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good for you dude! nice to hear a positive post. glad everythings going well for ya. the key is staying busy, and being adventerous. always stay trying new things.

im happy for ya desdinova, but no matter what you do, stay true to yourself, dont let your great new relationship change who you are, because ive seen it happen a hundred times
 

Slickster

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Fvcking awesome Des!

I'm excited to hear you are playing live music again. I've been getting together with some old bandmates lately too (after a 10 year hiatus). It's so much more fun now. Less egos and attention seeking. Just doing it for the joy of playing.

Regarding the gf, isn't that always the way? The hottest chicks are always fvcked in the head. Appreciate what you have, it is rare.
 

KarmaSutra

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I can definitely tell something's changed in you Brother.

Your tolerance level for bullsh!t has dropped to an all-time low. It's good to be able to breathe knowing you have a chick (or three) who cares deeply for you.

I'm down to two women whom I've decided to spend time on. I know an eventuality will rear her green, envious head from my lap and want me all to herself, such is my life. She who lifts her head up first, loses.

Keep on keepin' on Brother.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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vatoloco

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Desdinova said:
On the down side, she's not as attractive as most of the other women I've dated, but after all the garbage I've sifted through over the last year, it feels fantastic to be treated good for a change.
Who cares, man. If she treats you well and you're happy, then it's all good.

I myself entered an exclusive relationship with a non-HB (she's a 7 -- I'm an 8) but she has been the best girl I've been with so far. Maybe it's because she's unspoiled by feminism, the fact that she's 20 & we have a very interesting dynamic and/or the fact that the sex is great. :D

I'm the happiest I've ever been.
 

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nice.
inspirational
 
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