A bit of advice...

[Pugnacio]

Ok, being a sort of "DJ in training," I continually have the problem of when teasing or "negging" girls they seem to get super-offended and then either I apologize and look like a wimp or don't and they think I'm an ******* and don't talk to me anyway (lose-lose). In my head it never sounds too too bad but man...sometimes they get pissed.

I notice this seems to happen more to the 8's cuz the 9's and 10's eat this **** up so I guess my question is how to effectively mess with the 8's without them getting offended - any advice would be greatly appreciated.

-Pugnacio

 

[Monster]

Don't worry about making people offended, if they don't think it's funny then move on. You can't expect the same results from everyone.

 

[Lust]

Ok, being a sort of "DJ in training," I continually have the problem of when teasing or "negging" girls they seem to get super-offended and then either I apologize and look like a wimp or don't and they think I'm an ******* and don't talk to me anyway (lose-lose). In my head it never sounds too too bad but man...sometimes they get pissed.

I notice this seems to happen more to the 8's cuz the 9's and 10's eat this **** up so I guess my question is how to effectively mess with the 8's without them getting offended - any advice would be greatly appreciated.

-Pugnacio

Just tone it down for the 8's.

Instead of using a neg like this:

"Man, are you always like this? Blah blah"

Use a different type of neg, like this:

"Hey, you have some, ah *make point gesture" yeah just there on your *point to her face, eyes, whatever*"

Thats a great one but really hard to communicate online (like she has eye crusties, or stuffed up her make up, you are telling her without actually saying "you have eye crusties"), do you understand though? Also, make sure you add lots of humor.

 

[WC2]

It's all about class.

If you come accross joking with a girl like a scumbag, then you'll indeed come off like a scumbag. A girl isn't an audience for your standup comedic session.

A girl wants to laugh and feel good about herself at the same time. Challence her intellect, without belittling her to nothing. Ask her why she does something goofy, but don't call her names. Get the drift?

If you have to apologize for a remark, then chances are it was a little over the top. Don't mistake her being mad, for being attracted to your boldness though.

There's so many men out there who have this problem; you're not alone in the least. It takes a little experimentation until you find the right level to vibe with a girl. Once you find that level, things become a lot easier.

 

[Obsidian]

Also, remember to only neg them when they're *not* cooperating, and not when they are. It's for bringing down b itch shields and punishing uncooperation. Teasing, however, is more playful and less offensive and can be used in virtually all situations.